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Trans Issues: The Restroom Dilemma Continues

Updated on November 2, 2016
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I have a B.A. in English with a minor in Gender and Sexuality Studies. I have been a goth since I was fourteen, and pagan since fifteen.

Men's Restroom Sign. NYPenn Station
Men's Restroom Sign. NYPenn Station | Source

Back in August, I published an article titled "Trans Issues: The Restroom Dilemma" after I learned that so many trans/trans* people were struggling to use public restrooms in peace. Little did I expect an explosion to occur less than a year later when North Carolina passed HB2, a law enforcing people to use the bathroom that corresponds with the sex listed on their birth certificate rather than the one they identify with; therefore, if you're a trans/trans* person, you have no say in which you use.

Recently, Target has publicly announced they support the rights of trans/trans* people to use the bathroom of their choosing. It should come as no surprise that not everyone is happy about it nor that the complaints come from mindless Christians. Protests broke out, this past weekend.

One was "a mother of twelve," as she proudly states, leading her family through the store. Examples like these not only point out the obvious lack of knowledge over the vast difference between sexuality and gender identity, but furthermore that not all people can think critically, yet, despite their age. She holds up a Bible, which everyone knows blames women for original sin. I'm referring to Eve, of course. In addition, the Bible states a woman is to be subservient to her husband and is not supposed to preach:

"Let the women learn in silence with all subjection. But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence. For Adam was first formed, then Eve. And Adam was not deceived, but the woman being deceived was in the transgression"(I Timothy 2:11-14).

Apparently, the woman is a bit confused by the rules, but I'm sure the church is happy to see her hypocrisy, anyway. Oh, falsely sweet religion over the human rights of others. Jesus would be so proud.

Meanwhile, President Obama has stated that all nation-wide schools must allow trans students to use the bathrooms and locker-rooms that corresponds with their gender-identity. To not allow this would go against the students rights because it counts as sex discrimination. If a school refuses to follow these guidelines, the outcome could be a combination of lawsuits and a lack of federal funding:

"When a school provides sex-segregated activities and facilities, transgender students must be allowed to participate in such activities, and access such facilities consistent with their gender identity."

Trae Crowder aka the "Liberal Redneck" made a video about the root cause of uproar over trans people using the bathroom. He calls out the so-called worried parents to be the same types to be bad parents, already. Trae makes the point that trans people have always used the restroom that coincides with their gender identity, yet these illogical fears have never happened as a result.

Furthermore, Trae makes the point that since most parents would be waiting for their children outside of bathrooms, real child-molesters would not be stupid enough to commit their crimes in a place where they could be caught. He brings up that the majority of little boys are preyed on by adult males. Taking it a step further, he brings up child-molestation in the church, and suggests that perhaps there should be separate bathrooms for the priests, so they'll stop preying on the little boys.

Trae finishes by crushing the idea that there is a strong argument against trans rights by pointing out that people are simply afraid because of their inability to comprehend certain ideas. He finishes by explaining that the reason society is evolving and allowing things like these to happen is to make people more open-minded, and therefore, future generations will be more accepting:

"...say what you mean: You're freaked out because a man wanting to be a woman disgusts you because like most things that disgust you, you lack the capacity to understand it. You know, homos, algebra...shit like that."

Trae is a rare find. The media does not usually show Southern people standing up for these types of rights. It is a shame that so many progressive people may not consider what people like Trae has to add to the mix because of how he is perceived. One can only hope that his input makes the group expand so we listen more to those we would usually assume to be our enemies.

What is the Problem with Trans People?

The short answer is nothing. The long answer is a lot of misguided information on trans issues. If you thought homosexuals were misunderstood, the issues trans people are facing is a whole other ballgame. Not only are people confusing sexual orientation for gender identity, but they think if one's gender-identity doesn't match the sex they were born with, they are automatically a criminal. Like I said about the Bible-thumping idiot: Critical thinking, anyone?

The real problem is that there are too many people easily convinced by a weak argument like, "If trans people are openly allowed to use the bathroom of their choosing, grown men will suddenly start going after my little girl."

I hate to disappoint your apparently desperate need to be terrified of the most unlikely turnout of something as positive as human rights concerning gender identity, but trans people having a right to pee where they choose has no bearing on whether or not your little girl will be threatened. I hate to point out the most obvious and disturbing cause of how your little girl could ever really be threatened, but I will.

We live in a sexist society in which men, no matter their age, are reinforced to disrespect women. A little girl grows up to learn that her body is to be possessed by men, and she learns quickly. As she develops, suddenly, and out of her control, she will become an object. It isn't because she deserves it, but because of the patriarchy.

Also, before you think I am a man-hater, I am not. Boys will learn at a young age that if they do not view the other sex as less than fellow humans, they will be shamed for it. If they do not objectify us they will be mocked. If they show too much emotion, they will be laughed at, and asked to "man up."

My point is that we need to stop allowing trans people to be a scapegoat of the real problem, and that is the inequality of gender. We are humans. Boys should not be taught to overpower girls and girls should not be taught to fear boys. People should not be taught to fear someone who is born one sex, but identifies as another. How is that for a mission?

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    social thoughts 12 months ago from New Jersey


    But...what about the angry parents worried about their unaffected children?!


    You said it very well. Thank you for taking the time to read my article and voice your opinion. It's so important!

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    Kylyssa Shay 12 months ago from Overlooking a meadow near Grand Rapids, Michigan, USA

    I hope our society can grow up and leave these issues of fear and prejudice behind one day. Meanwhile, women (cis and trans) and transgender men are in danger due to all this frenzy whipped up around some imaginary fear that transgender people are child molesters or somehow provide cover for cisgender pedophiles.

    The whole bathroom issue should be a non-issue. People use bathrooms to eliminate waste, wash their hands, change their babies' diapers, and to deal with hygienic and grooming needs. It really should be that simple and practical.

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    social thoughts 12 months ago from New Jersey

    Indeed, Bill. I hope my efforts will help, but most of all I want to inspire others to add to the movement. Thank you. :)

    Yes, this comment is a good one. I just hadn't approved it, yet. Don't worry, friend.

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    Bill Holland 12 months ago from Olympia, WA

    One needs to ask oneself where my earlier comment is??????? was a good one.

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    Bill Holland 12 months ago from Olympia, WA

    Sexism....gender inequality...bias...bigotry....prejudice...fear of the unknown...they are all alive and well in this country, and the sooner we admit that fact...the sooner we face our demons as a society...the sooner we will all learn to live in a semblance of harmony. Has it gotten better in my lifetime? I believe it has, but I also believe we have a long road yet to travel. I feel better knowing the torch of social justice is being handed off to people like you.

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