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Tips on How to Get Your Husband Back From The Other Woman
How to Get Your Husband Back From The Other Woman
We all need to love and to be loved. We want the comfort of a relationship and the closeness of companionship that marriage brings. No one is an island and we need to share together with someone very dear and close to us. But it is not all the time that this goes well. The blending of two individuals into one harmonious marriage is a process that takes time. Making a relationship work is hard and sometimes even painful.
Joyce Meyer wrote, “Marriage begins with a promise between a man and a woman to honor and cleave to each other for life. Too many couples depend on love to keep their marriage together, but commitment is the adhesive of marriage, and love is the reward of keeping the promise to stand beside each other through both good and bad times, in both sickness and in health, in both poverty and wealth. The process of keeping that promise is what makes love grow between the two of them.”
So your husband may cheat on you. You might have done something that made him seek comfort in the arm of the other woman. Crying over spilled milk will not change the situation in a hurry, what you need is a plan for getting rid of the other woman and getting him back with you, if you love him.
The other woman is that woman who is having an affair with a man who is earlier committed to another woman. Many people believe that she has no moral and no values. It starts with infatuation and several stages later, moves towards true love. It is not surprising that the other woman always have running battle with a jealous wife. In most cases this does not help the embittered wife case. Your best qualities are the weapons to draw your straying husband back.
Obviously, you're not going to feel friendly towards this woman given the fact that she stole your man away from you. Two of you met and fell in love and resolved to spend your lives together. Just living together, going through the days, not really connecting isn’t good enough. You have to have a passion for your life together.
Don’t blame the other woman when you failed to take responsibility for the problems in the marriage. Sandra is a typical example. Her husband Ambrose believed he had plenty of justification for his first affair. Sandra was preoccupied establishing her career. It is easy for her to start to take her husband for granted, to think she was doing your best, when instead she had ignored him. Their lovemaking was not exciting. If you are in love and being loved, it part of the natural process to make love and this is supposed to be fun. You have to really care to want your partner to be fulfilled, successful, and happy.
Sandra had complained of his extra-marital affair. He agreed to stop cheating on her. But the first affair was followed by a second. And then another because the cause of the infidelity was not treated. Before they realized their marriage was in danger of breaking because Sandra was not ready to tolerate his unfaithfulness and Ambrose could not give up his other woman. I know that all relationships go through peaks and troughs. I know we get complacent and even a little bored at times. The problem was that in the hurly-burly of modern life and the complex sparring of building a career, Sandra was not around to show her husband love, so he sought relief in the arms of other women. The desire for companionship is a worthy reason for getting married.
Sometimes the other woman is also a thrill seeker or a husband snatcher. They don’t mind cause disaffection between the married couple in order to take over. But in the long run many other women will abandon the relationship when they realize that they had no chance of succeeding. And the married man goes back home to his wife.
Some men lie about their marital status, so the other woman might not know that he is married. By the time she discovers the truth, she has fallen in love. Even he acknowledges that he is married, he will lie about the stability of the marriage. He makes her out to be a demon in order to lure the other woman into a relationship, promising divorce within a short time. He will claim to be desperately unhappy, lonely and create a feeling that there is future for the marriage.
Don’t allow the actions of your unfaithful husband cause you to feel ashamed or unworthy. Such feelings can lead to depression, self-loathing and anxiety. Some affairs are not a rejection of you but a sign of weakness in your husband. Pray for your husband for God to change him. After all there is nothing impossible with God. Given time and patience most affairs go down the drain. God will open your husband’s eyes to see that the other woman is only showing her best side. Things artificial have short lifespan. No one can carry the act for a long time. Her true nature will show itself and the fantasy will wear off. When this happens, he will come back home where he belongs.
Don’t make the other woman more important than she really is by contemplating divorce. Joyce Meyer wrote, “I am not saying here that there is never a reason to get a divorce. Of course, there are cases where divorce is only option, but certainly not in as many cases we see and deal with today in our society. Many marriages end in divorce today simply because people are not willing to go through what it takes to make a marriage good.” There is no such thing as a drive-through breakthrough. Most people try to run away from life when it gets hard. If God puts us around something hard, it’s for our benefit and our good so that we can learn from it.
Being angry with them won't help you and it will only slow down the process of getting him back. Forgiveness is the core ingredient to every successful relationship. Whatever causes you to harbor unforgiveness, resentment, and bitterness needs to be discarded for love to prevail. Try to forget what lies behind and press on to what lies ahead. Many women are prone to carrying grudges and remembering offenses for days, and some even remain bitter for years. We don’t know anything about being faithful to our spouse until that spouse is failing to do things he is supposed to do.
Pride is the detrimental enemy against love. Many women are infected with pride and has to learn how to take it to the alter of sacrifice. Spend time and energy focused on the problems in the marriage that led to an affair and find solution to those problems. Treat the cause of the ailment and not the symptoms. He is there for both of you to have a relationship. Once the cause of the ailment is arrested the symptoms will disappear. You need to get your husband back you have to start being courteous again. Don’t concentrate on the other woman; just be nice and sweet with your husband.
- Build his ego with constant admiration.
- Solicitous of their health, wealth, dreams, hopes, workload, interests and pleasure.
- Compliment him on everything he does well and admires his efforts if he fails.
- Be grateful for what he does for you, and never forget to thank him.
- Give gifts without there being any reason for it
- Appreciate that he works hard to provide a home for you and the family.
- Surprise him with something that you know he likes, such as special gourmet dishes.
- Take time to help him.
- Take him out
- Ask questions to show you are interested in what he is saying
Don’t allow benign neglect to ruin your marriage. Do these things and see how far that will take the relationship, after all, your husband is supposed to be the most important person in the world to you. After a while the other woman will be history.