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Derailments on the Decline
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They painted graffiti all over the walls, urinated on the floor, and stole property. Staging fights as if they were real, just to get needed viral exposure. Teens tweeting out pics of their criminal activity as it happens. What’s crazy about these incidents is the push to watch it in real time on social media platforms.
You have witnessed these actions as I have out on the streets, or schools, or maybe your own household. Don’t get upset yet, because that is the style of this generation that is expressing their art of display upon the world’s stage, just as the radical hippie movement did nearly a half-century ago.
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Don't allow your relationships to crash. Be wise investors by adding cumulative acts to those things that are important. Today’s capacity to show ourselves, is particularly determined by how we, as a society, see society as a whole. How we see others, is normally determined by how we see ourselves.
Be smart with who matters in your life. Whether the relationships are at work, home, or neighborhood. Be challenged today, not by how others are making you feel wit their activities, or only motivated by agendas. But, be proactive. Step first to make a relationship work.
Our Different is Our Difference
I notice this about me, I am my best form of entertainment. I spend a lot of time thinking to myself, and spend a lot of time trying to improve myself. I think I'm funny, and intelligent, and that I matter. Perhaps to others, not so. But certainly, I am different, and have a different perspective. Now that's what makes us differently different.
Our very makeup us a person with our experiences, influences, comparisons, etc. All these make up, or determine our uniqueness. Because of a fundamental “need to belong" states that people have a basic psychological need to feel closely connected to others, and that caring, affectionate bonds from close relationships are a major part of human behavior.
So, let's finish this idea with 8 bits of application listed below, before we cast off those at the beginning of the article as just punks looking for attention. Because in fact, that's exactly what they're looking for. They, as do you and I, all want to feel as if we're part of a whole, and the need to be viral about our communication.
Here is an overview of this need to feel part of a whole:
Forming social bonds – Relationships don't start out from coercion, hopefully. Whether we have little knowledge of the social world and can't summarize the benefits or costs to such relationships. Social bonds are a necessary part of growing in a civilized society.
Not breaking bonds – We may be eager to have close relationships although there's so much risk at stake. Avoid falling into enabling and needy types, so you can be more committed to the expectations and accountability that needs to make it work.
Cognition –Learning to be intentional, rather than remote helps us to live in the moment. Just because of a covenant or contract (business or otherwise) being intentional means to be cognizant to there being another, and that they hold inherent value.
Emotional highs or lows – Not every day is a high, as they're not all a low. But, what does it mean to be a 'tweener? I think it's just being relational. Just relating and admiring the one you're with. Respecting their values, liking their differences, and appreciating their closeness.
Consequences of deprivation – Unfulfilled wants can quickly become volatile if not volitionally communicated to the significant other. Careful how you express such things. Don't be selfish, and don't be inconsiderate. Always regard the fact the other also has needs to be fulfilled as well.
Partial deprivation – Even within highly satisfying relationships, needs can be improperly met through lack of communication. Be clear about expectations from the beginning, about your intentions and how you like to be satisfied. Even if the topic is discussing sexual needs, the approach must be the same.
Satiation and substitution – If you need it, you'll get it. That's why online activity is so massive. From porn to Amazon, there's always something for sale at the back end of every website, be careful and discuss such things before browsing.
Inherent perspective - All of us are unique, as I began this article to explain that with power comes privilege. That type of power, has a potential to reach way past the viral and tap into the very hearts, for which each of the above scenarios was trying to tap into from the beginning.
Will you take the next step