- Gender and Relationships
True Friendship–Why You Need a True Friend
Let me ask you today this question, do you still remember your childhood friends? Are you still in touch with them? We always visit places and when we do, we meet new people. We mingle with some of them. Do you make new friends whenever you visit new places?
Do you recall your first day in school you got admitted to after transferring from another school? You were a newcomer and your classmates knew that, how did they treat you? Did they get along with you well? What about when your family moved to a new home in another town? In both situations it might have taken you sometime before making new friends. Of course, there are people who make friends easily while others don't since it takes them a couple of days to make new friends. Unlike adults, young children are able to befriend one another within few minutes when they meet each other for the first time.
All of us need at least one friend or a couple of them and as such we are not able to stay without befriending people around us. This is because man was created to be a social creature. Back in the Garden of Eden, God created Adam first and then Eve. He acknowledged that man needed company, Genesis 2:18, "And the Lord God said, "It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him."
True Friendship, You Need a True Friend
We usually claim that we have friends but we are not certain if they are true friends until the time comes when we need them most. You have friends but have you ever asked yourself who your true friend is? A true friend is indispensable, a blessing that you will always live to cherish in your life.
There are friends who are like Judas, the only disciple of Jesus Christ who betrayed Him with a kiss. Such friends are likely to mislead you in making important decisions. When other friends don't believe in you during the most challenging time of your life, a true friend will be there for you to encourage and help you.
A true friend will caution you if he realizes that you are intending to do something that will later on harm your life without caring whether you will be hurt by the truth, Proverbs 27:6, "Well meant are the wounds a friend inflicts, but profuse are the kisses of an enemy."
"I was a fourth year law student when my boyfriend impregnated me. I become so confused after my boyfriend whom I trusted so much failed to show any concern of commitment in taking responsibility of supporting me and the unborn child. After sharing my dilemma with friends, they insisted that I should terminate the pregnancy since my boyfriend didn't show any commitment of supporting me and the child. It is only Judith a third year economics student who kept on encouraging me that I should not terminate the pregnancy.
While other friends were busy gossiping about my pregnancy and how dumb I was to be fooled by my boyfriend, Judith was making me comprehend that abortion wasn't the right decision. She took her time explaining to me the consequences of abortion and circumstances under which abortion is permitted. She even promised to help me in taking care of the baby once it's born till I complete my law degree.
1.) What if the abortion is done by a quack and your womb is tampered with to an extent of you becoming barren? Will you be happy in the future to get married knowing that you are barren?
2.) Will you ever forgive yourself and have a peace of mind if you go ahead and terminate this pregnancy?
These are the questions she asked that helped me to make a decision that I have never regretted up to date. When I gave birth to a bouncing baby girl, Judith kept her word. She was there for me, sacrificing her free time in babysitting my baby girl as I attended lecture classes and studied for my final exams. She even helped me financially when I had no money to buy essentials. Had it been not Judith, I could have probably opted for abortion. I don't think I could have ever forgiven myself if I had gone ahead and aborted.
In spite of having a child to take care of while pursuing my law degree, I managed to do all the exam papers and when the results were out, I passed them all because of Judith my true friend who really helped me a lot. I will always live to appreciate and cherish her. Today, I'm pleading to all girls who are rejected by their irresponsible boyfriends after they get impregnated by them not to opt for abortion as a solution."– Jennifer 35 years, now practicing law is happily married to a man who accepted to take care of her and the child born out of wedlock.
There is a need for true friendship relationship. There are some things we feel very comfortable doing with a true friend unlike doing them with our siblings or extended family members.
There are occasions we stay away from family members due to many reasons such as going abroad to study thus the need for us to be in a true friendship relationship.
In times of need, family members may not be in position of helping us but a true friend will.
The kind of friends we keep and spend most of our time with matters a lot in influencing our character. True friendship is not after engaging in doing things that are destructive but it is after building one another to live a happy and prosperous life. Therefore, a true friend will enrich your life.