Trust, Betrayal and Religion
Trust Allows for Healthy Relationships
Marriages are often the problem for many couples. They want to marry but for different reasons.
If what they want is not accomplished within their marriage, couples feel the need to separate.
Religion gets in the way of life and can be difficult to cope with if couples make it a huge issue.
People need to trust without trust you have nothing much in any relationship.
Trust makes all things possible for one another.
Distrust can make an individual feel very lonely but there is nothing worse in life than to distrust another.
Betrayal hurts the one you love and intimately betrayal can hurt your child or close friends and other members of your family.
Trust is needed but people are afraid to trust one another.
Two people married of a different religion she is Hindu and he is Catholic.
After many years of marriage he wants to marry his wife in the Catholic Church the wife is fine with the arrangement and agrees.
The priest denies this marriage due to personal issues with the Catholic guy.
The priest does not accept to marry the couple.
The husband becomes upset and seeks the help of another priest after careful consideration the first priest reconsiders and accepts the marriage in church.
These kind of issues make a marriage stressful and distrustful.
To begin with at first the couple should have married in the Catholic Church then all the unnecessary issues would have not been a problem as the priest sees the marriage as sinful. The husband lied in parts of his conversation to the priest that he had been married in church.
The lies caused the situation to be most complicated.
The lack of quality in people are shown when they tell lies, when they are betrayed, and when religion is a problem in a relationship.
When the moment gets soft one chooses betrayal to get out of their mess.
The married woman found her comfort zone with a single guy he has never before been in a relationship and finds that to be his chance to open up to a woman.
Secret conversations and all the time spent together have made their friendship grow into a fantasy or lust for each other.
The husband trusts his wife and knows she would not step over any boundaries and neither would the single Catholic guy. That is exactly what went wrong. The single guy kissed the married woman on her the cheek twice and hugged her tightly.
The husband sensed these actions but failed to confront the single guy, or his wife about it.
No matter what the religion, trust is important between any couple. If you are not able to trust your partner you should not be with them.
Sometimes hugs and kisses don't mean a thing but when you think something is going on the best is to confront the situation.
When an individual is in love with someone the blindness of love denies them to see the part that will cause them hurt and betrayal.
Betrayal is possible by the one you love just the part of dealing with it that can get you down the most and trust makes all that go away for some people.
Trust broken is not easily rebuilt it is the core of any relationship.
Lies told can make the trust between two people and having an affair as betrayal, the religion differences is a lack of knowledge that makes couples rethink their decisions when it comes to marriage.
You can marry whomever you want love is what keeps a couple together but if they don't have trust then everything else becomes meaningless.
If there is less meaning to what one has in a marriage or any relationship. what is the purpose of having that marriage or relationship?
Family stealing from each other and yet you think family can be trusted that is the lowest for anyone to behave in such a poor manner.
You invite family over to spend the day together. The kids are playing sharing conversations with cousins and screaming while running through the house while trying to grab on to each other.
In the mean time you have to lock your valuables away because they would steal from you has this ever happened to you?
A wealthy family invites other family members over for lunch. The family arrives and one of the family members has one thought on their mind to steal something of value before leaving the home of the wealthy family.
It is not fair to any family to be this way in this case it works out well.
The cousins get together, and talk about stuff the wealthy cousin shares with her other cousins of how much money she has.
The cousin is eager to know more and scans where the valuables are kept. On the way out they manage to steal the birthday present, a gold chain with a lovely pendant.
Hours later, the wealthy cousin realizes what is missing from her drawer. Nobody else has been there, except for her very friendly cousin. The disappointed cousin stays away from this family member. Immediately. Trust is lost between two families.
Something you would not expect from family. The precious bond disappears or vanishes when together and friendships are made or broken just as trust is.
It makes people hate each other or love each other for who they really are or for what they really mean to each other.
You can be betrayed intimately by family and close friends this shows the lack of trust.
One can become angry and hate the other for behaving that way emotionally it can destroy you.
Would you reconnect to the one who betrayed you?
- When you feel weak or vulnerable in such situations how do you approach the moment?
Do you feel improvement, appreciative?
Would you become upset, and angry?
Would you fall apart and close yourself from others?
Do you think cheating is the answer to get back to your partner?
Trust, love, understanding, betrayal, religion, make a relationship healthy or unhealthy.
With patience you can have what you want from your relationship.
Marry for the right reasons are often what you may think is the answer.
What are there the right reasons for marriage?
Is love the right reason?
Love is not always the right reason.
Most couples don't want to commit because of previously failed relationships, or marriage and from the experience of their parents being divorced.
Another example as the following:
A single guy at the age of fifty seven decides to marry a woman of forty four.
They met a month ago and are now planning their wedding she shares the same values as he and she is the kind of person he needs in his life.
The one who will attend church with him, who will be there at all times and as he wants the marriage to be.
It is traditional, and arranged for a couple to marry the one who can do everything for the other in this case she has to do for him.
Cooking, cleaning, serving, and to be there at all times.
It is normal for this to be in such traditional marriages.
I, however, don't think it is right for such an approach.
Traditionally, it sounds right but looking at how the world has changed some traditions won't fade and it is sad to see how most women are treated in arranged marriages.
He is dominant and won't have it any other way but his way.
She has to cope with everything he has to offer.
Can such a marriage last through all times?
Couples who marry for love can overcome many obstacles.
If they marry for specific reasons like for one to have their child there would always be an issue to solve in their relationship, and this can lead to a break up.
It also depends on what kind of an agreement one has to go through a marriage.
Happiness is so important to any relationship apart from trust without happiness there is not much to enjoy.
Living together before marriage is considered a sin in some cultures. Gone are the days when that matters to anyone.
Most people choose to live the modern way and some still choose to follow their traditions.
It is also good to keep up with tradition never forget your roots or where came from and how you were raised.
Also, you should not stop living life as you like a bit of each makes you know more and experience more in life.
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© 2014 Devika Primić