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The Truth About Feminists
We don't hate men!
I've seen this topic come up a lot lately in my life, and thought I'd write a little hub on it to shed some light on the topic.
I personally consider myself a feminist - that does not mean I hate men, nor does it mean any other feminist hates men. Of course, I can't speak on behalf of every feminist out there, but I believe that feminism has been given an untrue stereotype, and I'd like to try to clear that up a little bit.
Taken right from dictionary.com - the doctrine advocating social, political, and all other rights of women equal to those of men. Remember your history class? Remember learning about women's rights? Their right to vote? etc. In short - this is what feminism is. Feminists believe that, as a woman, they should have equal rights as men. They believe they are no different and want to be treated with the same respect men get. They do not hate men - they simply believe that men and women are equal.
Feminism isn't just a woman's belief - there are men out there who are "feminists" as well.
A professor explained it very simply to my class - do you believe men and women are/should be equal? If you answered yes - you're a feminist.
If you're a guy, that doesn't make you any less of a man. There is no reason anyone should look down upon you or anyone else. Unfortunately, it's just another label in our society today, but we shouldn't let labels effect who we are. So, you're a guy who thinks women have equal rights - who cares? Just because that's usually referred to "feminism" doesn't make you any less of a person.
And, as a woman, you shouldn't be ashamed to admit that you're a "feminist". It, too, shouldn't make you any less respected. I say shouldn't because, well, we all know there are people out there that will not see things the same way, unfortunately.
Another thing I'd like to bring up - being a feminist also doesn't mean women are "stay at home moms". We don't "belong" in the kitchen. Being a feminist means believing in equality and choice. If you're a woman, that means choosing to be a stay at home mom or choosing to be the head of a major company. It is your right as a women to do what you want with your life, even if it means surpassing your husband in salary. I believe feminists have a choice to do as they wish, and what they choose to do/how they choose to live doesn't make them any less of a person. Feminism is about choice and equality - simple as that.
Of course, there will be people who may have different ideas on this. This is just my personal opinion - I'm not saying it's right, or the only opinion out there. But I do believe feminism has been given a negative stereotype. Just because I'm a feminist, doesn't mean I hate men or think I'm any better than any man - it's simply equality and choice.
Hopefully I've helped to spread a little light on this subject. And never be ashamed to consider yourself a feminists, whether you're male or female. The label may be misleading, but all we want is a little respect and equality for everyone.