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5 Unusual Ways to Forget The Unpleasant Past : How to Let go!
“Let go. Why do you cling to pain? There is nothing you can do about the wrongs of yesterday. It is not yours to judge. Why hold on to the very thing which keeps you from hope and love?” – Leo Buscaglia
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Unpleasant Memories Can Hurt And Destroy!
© Chitrangada Sharan June 2014,
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Consider yourself fortunate, if you do not have an unpleasant past!
Consider yourself more fortunate, if you have moved on from your unpleasant past!
Most of us do have some unpleasant memories;
- Some very close one may have treated you roughly or said some bad things, which you could never have imagined in your wildest dreams.
- Some most trusted one may have ditched or discarded you, as if you never belonged to him/her.
- You could have been humiliated and cursed, for no fault of yours and you had no one to support you in such a situation;
- You were falsely framed in a matter and you had no proof to establish your truth.
- The hurt becomes much more deep, if those people whom you have trusted through your life, connive against you and you are totally unaware of it.
This list can go on---!
These things do happen in our lives. Most of us keep these unpleasant memories alive in our mind. And believe me it affects our health, our mind, our progress and our happiness. It weighs us down and slows our progress.
To live happily in the present and to plan for a prosperous future, it is necessary to learn from past mistakes and then forget the unpleasant past.
Try these ideas:
These ideas may seem crazy and unusual, but they help!
1. Hugging the old trees tight:
Have you closely observed some very old trees? The Banyan tree for example--Some of them are so old, may be older than your grandmother.
Trees are living--they grow and spread their massive branches to give shelter to anyone who passes by.
Just presume and imagine that they have witnessed any wrong which was done to you. Go with open arms to its mighty trunk and hug it tightly.
Release all your tension, agony and some tears as well, if you can. Do it privately.
You will feel the difference!
2. Shout out your pain in an isolated place:
You can drive to a highway for this. Imagine a stone to be the person who has hurt you. You can make a face with chalk on this stone, to make it more effective.
Now shout out loudly to him/ her ( the stone), all your grievances, how you have been hurt. Just pour out your pent up anger.
And also make it clear, how you will care a damn about this person (stone) from now on wards. And do follow this sincerely.
3. Flush it, erase it from your mind!
Write the whole happening on a paper, then tear it into pieces and flush it in your toilet.
You will feel better!
This idea I had seen in a popular Hindi film.
4. Bury it into the soil or drown it in a river!
You may write the name of the person on a paper, the whole chain of events or unpleasant happenings or memories.
Go to an isolated place, dig some soil, a little deeper and bury the paper.
Another way is to go near a river bank and drown that paper.
Still another way is to go to sea beach. Write the name of the person, who has caused you so much hurt on the wet sand. Let the sea waves wipe it out as they come near the shore and wipe it out from your memory too.
You will feel better!
5. Go to a hill station and throw away the unpleasant memories in the deep valley!
Just write the whole unpleasant memory on a piece of paper. Tear it into tiny pieces. Go to nearby hills and throw away the tiny pieces into the adjoining valley near the hills.
You will feel relieved!
This particular idea is neither unusual nor crazy!
------------------------Share it with 'GOD'!------------------------
If none of this helps, I think this will surely help! And this is not unusual or crazy idea! Most of us do it!
Sit in front of 'God'-- whoever you worship. Talk to 'Him', like a friend and just pour your heart out.
Just share all your sorrows and sufferings, with the belief that 'He' is listening to you with full attention and understands you unlike others, whom you had trusted.
You may spend as much time as you wish, till you feel lighter and relaxed.
“When one door closes another door opens; but we so often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door, that we do not see the ones which open for us.”
~~~Alexander Graham Bell
Do you believe in moving on from your unpleasant memories?
The last word:
♥ Life is too short to waste over trivial matters.
♥ Do not hate a person who has hurt you. Difficult to follow but wiser to do!
♥ You have control only on your behavior and not others.
♥ Expect nothing from others and try to appreciate everyone and everything.
♥ Again this is difficult to follow, but we are discussing about making ourselves happy--Right!
♥ What has happened is past and there is no use analyzing it.
♥ I should have done this or he should not have done this to me; how could this happen to me---all this does not mean anything.
♥ Only thing which matters is we can learn from our past mistakes and better our future.
♥ Remember there can be potholes on the road, but does that mean, we should stop moving forward!
♥ You can simply change the route!
© Chitrangada Sharan 27th June 2014,
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