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5 Unusual Ways to Forget The Unpleasant Past : How to Let go!

Updated on May 29, 2017
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Chitrangada has keen interest in Alternative therapies.As a parent and teacher she shares her real life experiences for benefit of readers.

Let it go!!
Let it go!! | Source

Quotes:

“Let go. Why do you cling to pain? There is nothing you can do about the wrongs of yesterday. It is not yours to judge. Why hold on to the very thing which keeps you from hope and love?” – Leo Buscaglia

Move on-----! Get away from unpleasant memories!
Move on-----! Get away from unpleasant memories! | Source

Unpleasant Memories Can Hurt And Destroy!

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Consider yourself fortunate, if you do not have an unpleasant past!

Consider yourself more fortunate, if you have moved on from your unpleasant past!

Most of us do have some unpleasant memories;

  • Some very close one may have treated you roughly or said some bad things, which you could never have imagined in your wildest dreams.
  • Some most trusted one may have ditched or discarded you, as if you never belonged to him/her.
  • You could have been humiliated and cursed, for no fault of yours and you had no one to support you in such a situation;
  • You were falsely framed in a matter and you had no proof to establish your truth.
  • The hurt becomes much more deep, if those people whom you have trusted through your life, connive against you and you are totally unaware of it.

This list can go on---!

These things do happen in our lives. Most of us keep these unpleasant memories alive in our mind. And believe me it affects our health, our mind, our progress and our happiness. It weighs us down and slows our progress.

To live happily in the present and to plan for a prosperous future, it is necessary to learn from past mistakes and then forget the unpleasant past.

Try these ideas:


Trees are our ancestors!
Trees are our ancestors! | Source
Hugging the trees gives relief from your sorrows!
Hugging the trees gives relief from your sorrows! | Source
Erase painful and unpleasant past memories from your mind!
Erase painful and unpleasant past memories from your mind! | Source

These ideas may seem crazy and unusual, but they help!

1. Hugging the old trees tight:


Have you closely observed some very old trees? The Banyan tree for example--Some of them are so old, may be older than your grandmother.

Trees are living--they grow and spread their massive branches to give shelter to anyone who passes by.

Just presume and imagine that they have witnessed any wrong which was done to you. Go with open arms to its mighty trunk and hug it tightly.

Release all your tension, agony and some tears as well, if you can. Do it privately.

You will feel the difference!

2. Shout out your pain in an isolated place:


You can drive to a highway for this. Imagine a stone to be the person who has hurt you. You can make a face with chalk on this stone, to make it more effective.

Now shout out loudly to him/ her ( the stone), all your grievances, how you have been hurt. Just pour out your pent up anger.

And also make it clear, how you will care a damn about this person (stone) from now on wards. And do follow this sincerely.

Throw away your unpleasant memories from hill tops!
Throw away your unpleasant memories from hill tops! | Source

3. Flush it, erase it from your mind!

Write the whole happening on a paper, then tear it into pieces and flush it in your toilet.

You will feel better!

This idea I had seen in a popular Hindi film.

4. Bury it into the soil or drown it in a river!


You may write the name of the person on a paper, the whole chain of events or unpleasant happenings or memories.

Go to an isolated place, dig some soil, a little deeper and bury the paper.

Another way is to go near a river bank and drown that paper.

Still another way is to go to sea beach. Write the name of the person, who has caused you so much hurt on the wet sand. Let the sea waves wipe it out as they come near the shore and wipe it out from your memory too.

You will feel better!

5. Go to a hill station and throw away the unpleasant memories in the deep valley!


Just write the whole unpleasant memory on a piece of paper. Tear it into tiny pieces. Go to nearby hills and throw away the tiny pieces into the adjoining valley near the hills.

You will feel relieved!

This particular idea is neither unusual nor crazy!

------------------------Share it with 'GOD'!------------------------


If none of this helps, I think this will surely help! And this is not unusual or crazy idea! Most of us do it!

Sit in front of 'God'-- whoever you worship. Talk to 'Him', like a friend and just pour your heart out.

Just share all your sorrows and sufferings, with the belief that 'He' is listening to you with full attention and understands you unlike others, whom you had trusted.

You may spend as much time as you wish, till you feel lighter and relaxed.

Quotes:

“When one door closes another door opens; but we so often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door, that we do not see the ones which open for us.”

~~~Alexander Graham Bell

Do you believe in moving on from your unpleasant memories?

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The last word:

Life is too short to waste over trivial matters.

Do not hate a person who has hurt you. Difficult to follow but wiser to do!

♥ You have control only on your behavior and not others.

♥ Expect nothing from others and try to appreciate everyone and everything.

♥ Again this is difficult to follow, but we are discussing about making ourselves happy--Right!

♥ What has happened is past and there is no use analyzing it.

♥ I should have done this or he should not have done this to me; how could this happen to me---all this does not mean anything.

♥ Only thing which matters is we can learn from our past mistakes and better our future.

♥ Remember there can be potholes on the road, but does that mean, we should stop moving forward!

♥ You can simply change the route!

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If past is unpleasant, it must be forgotten! Do you agree? Please share your views in the Comments section.

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      Chitrangada Sharan 7 months ago from New Delhi, India

      Thanks Emmanuel Kariuki for reading and commenting on this hub!

      So pleased to learn that this is helpful to you.

      I have myself tried some of these methods and they are really very effective. We all have some unpleasant memories that must be kept off our minds since it is very important to move on in life.

      Wish you a Very Happy New Year! Thanks for your positive and wonderful feedback!

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      Emmanuel Kariuki 8 months ago from Nairobi, Kenya

      Very good advice especially now that I am going into a new year. Who wants baggage that can stand in the way of all the blessings of 2017. I saw a photo of Wangare Maathai (the Nobel Laureate environmentalist) hugging a tree a few years ago, and the image was so powerful it lingered in my mind for a long time. Now I know why. I will definitely hug an old tree when I get close to one. Flushing down the loo all those nuisances that trouble the mind is within reach and will be acted upon soon. Have a great new 2017 and be blessed tremendously

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      Chitrangada Sharan 11 months ago from New Delhi, India

      Thank you Ann810 for your kind visit and positive comments!

      I am glad you agree with the theme of this hub. I love your quote; it provides a reassurance that ' He will take care of everything and there is nothing to worry about'.

      Thank you!

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      Ann810 11 months ago from Sunny Cali

      Agreed. Dwelling on hurt of the past will only affect the person that's thinking about it. Let it go, give that hurtful burden to the Lord, He will handle it. "Vengeance is mine, I will repay, says the Lord." (Romans 12:19)

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      Chitrangada Sharan 11 months ago from New Delhi, India

      Thank you Nadine May for reading and commenting on this hub!

      Glad that you liked it . Hugging a tree is very effective and I have come to know from many people that they have benefited from it. Yes older the tree , greater the benefits I suppose.

      If we sit peacefully under those grand old trees and talk to them it definitely helps to de- stress!

      Thanks again and have a good day!

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      Nadine May 11 months ago from Cape Town, Western Cape, South Africa

      Great post and I'm a tree hugger. We have some very old prehistoric trees in the Cape and I often wondered what stories are hidden in their old trunks.

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      Chitrangada Sharan 11 months ago from New Delhi, India

      Thanks MarleneB, for reading and commenting!

      As we mature with age it becomes easier to forget the unpleasant happenings of life. Time is the best healer, as is usually said.

      I am glad to go through the readers responses on this hub.

      Hugging a tree may look awkward but it really helps__just try it once!

      Thanks for your valuable feedback!

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      Marlene Bertrand 11 months ago from Northern California, USA

      It use to be difficult for me to let go of the past. But, now I have found that letting go feels so much better - releasing all that bottled up pain. I found that by talking to God helps a lot. Also, writing down my feelings in a note and then burning the note helps. I laughed at the one about hugging the tree, but I am going to try it for sure. What have I got to lose? I have actually seen other people do it. Now I know why. These are all excellent ideas - all worth trying at least once.

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      Chitrangada Sharan 11 months ago from New Delhi, India

      Thanks Vespawoolf for reading and appreciating the hub!

      I agree with your views on this subject. Negative memories must be removed from our thoughts.

      Thanks and have a good day!

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      vespawoolf 11 months ago from Peru, South America

      Beautifully said! These are unusual ways to forget the past, but they would work. The idea is to purge the mind of the negative memories. Thank you for sharing!

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      Chitrangada Sharan 2 years ago from New Delhi, India

      Thank you Sunil ji, for your inspiring words!

      I am glad you liked these suggestions. I have also read Robin Sharma and he is fabulous. The need for such motivation and inspiration is all the more important for various age groups of people in today's scenario. I can see stress and anxiety has become almost a universal problem.

      Thanks for voting up and sharing!

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      Chitrangada Sharan 2 years ago from New Delhi, India

      Thank you Audrey, for revisiting this hub and sharing your valuable and insightful comments!

      I agree--something which works for one person may not work for others.

      Thank you once again!

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      Chitrangada Sharan 2 years ago from New Delhi, India

      Thank you Charito1962, for reading and commenting on this hub.

      I am glad you liked this hub. You are a brave woman.

      I wouldn't be writing this hub, had I not experienced an unpleasant past myself but I am glad I have moved on. And some of these ways are tried and tested.

      Thank you so much for appreciating!

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      Sunil Kumar Kunnoth 2 years ago from Calicut (Kozhikode, South India)

      Wonderful ideas and comforting too. I will give it a try. Keep on writing such helpful and inspirational hubs. I feel very motivated when I read the books of Robin Sharma. In the present world of anxiety and stress, articles like this will really be a welcome one. Voted up and shared.

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      Audrey Selig 2 years ago from Oklahoma City, Oklahoma

      Hi again - Sometimes we have people in our lives that become obsessive in our thoughts. A person on HP is the person who suggested the green hair and other things to make a person funny looking. I believe it was someone who broke off a relationship, and she was heartbroken. I have passed this on to others in similar situations. Whatever works for one person may not work for another. Blessings, Audrey

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      Charito Maranan-Montecillo 2 years ago from Manila, Philippines

      Actually, I don't find your suggestions crazy, Chitrangada.

      On the contrary, I think they're very helpful!

      Of all of them, I think I'll choose shouting out my pain in an isolated place. (I'm tired of writing down notes...ha, ha, ha!)

      Good hub!

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      Chitrangada Sharan 2 years ago from New Delhi, India

      Thank you Jodah, for reading and commenting!

      I am so glad you liked it. Some of these crazy ideas are worth trying. They have benefited many, including me.

      Many thanks for your votes and share!

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      John Hansen 2 years ago from Queensland Australia

      This is a wonderul hub with a great message and advice Chitrangada. Everyone needs to read it, voted up and shared.

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      Chitrangada Sharan 2 years ago from New Delhi, India

      Thank you Mary Hyatt, for your positive comments and votes!

      'Forget and forgive' is the best way to deal with unpleasant past. If we don't follow this, we hurt ourselves much more than anyone else.

      Talking to the Almighty is indeed a stress reliever and I also follow these two methods.

      Thank you so much for sharing your ways of dealing with unpleasant past.

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      Mary Hyatt 2 years ago from Florida

      What great ideas! I try to just forgive the person who has hurt me, and just move on. I refuse to live in the past. I'd rather live in the NOW.

      I also talk to God every night; that helps me get through life.

      Voted UP, etc.

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      Chitrangada Sharan 2 years ago from New Delhi, India

      Thank you Audrey, for your kind visit and insightful comments!

      I am glad you liked the hub and the ideas.

      You have provided another wonderful idea to get rid of negative memories and negative people.

      Thanks for sharing it in the comments section. Those reading this hub will benefit from it.

      Thank you so much!

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      Audrey Selig 2 years ago from Oklahoma City, Oklahoma

      Thanks Sharon for all your ideas. I like the idea to hug a tree. When people hurt me, I pretend they are in tin cans in my yard where I cannot see them or they have green faces. Then I can laugh. I have written bad happenings on paper to make them leave my mind. This hub gives all sorts of good ideas. Sharing. Blessings, Audrey

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      Chitrangada Sharan 2 years ago from New Delhi, India

      Thank you peachpurple, for stopping by!

      Your idea sounds good. Thanks for mentioning it in the comments, so that others can benefit from it.

      Thank you!

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      peachy 2 years ago from Home Sweet Home

      clever ideas, I usually talk to my teddy bear when I had unpleasant memories

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      Chitrangada Sharan 2 years ago from New Delhi, India

      Thank you Audrey Hunt, for agreeing with me!

      The Tree therapy has helped me on several occasions, when I was completely broken due to some unpleasant happenings.

      Such is life---some happy and some not so happy moments keep coming in. The important thing is to move on and leave the unpleasant baggage behind.

      Appreciate your positive feedback, votes and share!

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      Audrey Hunt 2 years ago from Nashville Tn.

      I hug a tree almost everyday and have been doing this for many years. I receive energy and peace when I wrap my arms around a big old trunk. I hold on tight and don't let go until all unpleasant thoughts and experiences from the past are gone.

      An excellent hub which proves that holding on to the past when it's painful is toxic and serves no purpose. Voted up +++ and sharing.

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      Chitrangada Sharan 2 years ago from New Delhi, India

      Thank you colorfulone, for your kind visit and positive feedback!

      Glad to learn that you were able to move on from the painful past. Hugging an old tree has worked for me as well, when I have had a very rough time in my life sometime back.

      Thanks again!

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      Chitrangada Sharan 2 years ago from New Delhi, India

      Thank you Thelma Alberts, for your kind visit and positive comments!

      I am glad you liked this hub. Hugging a tree and sharing your unpleasant memories with them, to ease off tensions is a tried and tested method. I have myself tried some of these methods.

      You are right, life is too short to keep thinking of unpleasant memories. We must try to move on by whatever means possible.

      Thanks again!

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      Susie Lehto 2 years ago from Minnesota

      I love all of your suggestions. BTW, I have hugged a big old tree before, and it took and handled that pain very for well, so I didn't have to.

      God bless!

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      Thelma Alberts 2 years ago from Germany

      I like your ideas of forgetting the unpleasant past. I will try to hug a huge tree if ever I can see one. You are right. Life is so short to deal with our bad, sad and crazy past. We have to move on.

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      Chitrangada Sharan 2 years ago from New Delhi, India

      Thank you Emese Fromm, for reading and appreciating this hub!

      This is one of my favorite hub, because most of these methods have been tried and tested by myself and others. I would be very happy if these help someone who is suffering from the baggage of unpleasant past.

      Thanks for your support!

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      EmeseRéka 2 years ago from The Desert

      Great article. Thank you for sharing these tips. For me, what usually works is writing it all down then destroying the paper, I've used a few of the methods you described for this. It works in some cases, in some others I'm still trying. Acknowledging the hurt is the very first step though, too often we are in denial about it at least that's the case with me, but once you face it, you can move on. Again thank you for sharing.

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      Chitrangada Sharan 2 years ago from New Delhi, India

      Thank you teaches12345, for your kind visit and comments!

      I am glad you liked this hub and the unusual ideas. Talking to God works well for me too.

      Thanks!

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      Chitrangada Sharan 2 years ago from New Delhi, India

      Thank you Paula Atwell, for your visit, share and comments!

      Appreciate your idea of going for a long, aggressive walk. Thanks!

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      Dianna Mendez 2 years ago

      All of your suggestions are good ways to help one get rid of pain from the past. I especially love your idea of talking to God, it works for me. Love the bury it in the ground idea - that would be symbolic. Sharing with others.

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      Paula Atwell 2 years ago from Cleveland, OH

      I like the tree hugging idea. I tend to walk it off. Take some time and go for a long aggressive walk. :)

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      Chitrangada Sharan 3 years ago from New Delhi, India

      Hi Cherylann Mollan!

      Thanks for visiting this hub and your valuable comments!

      Moving on is the best possible solution to those nagging, stubborn and painful past.

      Glad you liked this hub and thanks for adding more value to this hub.

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      Chitrangada Sharan 3 years ago from New Delhi, India

      Thank you Dolores Monet, for your kind visit and positive comments!

      There can hardly be anyone, who has not undergone those difficult phases of life.

      Your ritual sounds interesting to me and I am sure will be effective too. Thanks for adding to the hub.

      Many thanks for sharing the hub!

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      Cherylann Mollan 3 years ago from India

      Wonderful hub and very wise thoughts. Moving on is the hardest thing to do because we always wonder whether we're making the right decision, or if we are being too harsh on the person who has wronged us. But moving on is infinitely better than the confusion, hurt and anger you experience when you're fence sitting. Great suggestions here, especially the one's about discarding thoughts on the seashore or in a valley. Voted up!

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      Dolores Monet 3 years ago from East Coast, United States

      Your ideas are not crazy at all! Creating a ritual to say goodbye to that pain is a great idea and I have actually applied several to my own life. I have a little personal ritual where I throw flowers into a river and watch them drift away.

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      Chitrangada Sharan 3 years ago from New Delhi, India

      Thank you manatita44, for referring this link!

      Again my sincere and heartfelt thanks for dedicating such a lovely and beautiful poem to me.

      Thanks to a wonderful person and a dear friend!

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      Chitrangada Sharan 3 years ago from New Delhi, India

      Thanks Michelle, for appreciating!

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      Michelle Liew 3 years ago from Singapore

      These little physical actions are so healing. Well said, Chitra.

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      Chitrangada Sharan 3 years ago from New Delhi, India

      Thank you aviannovice, for reading and commenting!

      Glad you got the message of this hub. Thanks for your votes!

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      Deb Hirt 3 years ago from Stillwater, OK

      Life isn't a bowl of cherries, but you certainly gave some great ways to get rid of pent up emotions. Awesome and up.

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      Chitrangada Sharan 3 years ago from New Delhi, India

      Thanks heidithorne, for your kind visit and valuable comments!

      I am glad that you like the message in this hub. Pleased to know that you found some of the ideas interesting.

      Thanks and have a good day!

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      Chitrangada Sharan 3 years ago from New Delhi, India

      Thank you Nithya, for reading and commenting!

      I agree with your valuable opinion that, life is too short to be worrying for what others think or say about us.

      Thank you!

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      Chitrangada Sharan 3 years ago from New Delhi, India

      Thank you Suzette, for your kind visit and support!

      I agree, as we grow older, we become wiser. When I look back, I feel I should not have wasted my time over some such matters, which was quite disturbing emotionally.

      I am sure hugging the tree helps as I have done it earlier, to be honest.

      Many thanks for voting up and sharing!

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      Heidi Thorne 3 years ago from Chicago Area

      Indeed, getting stuck by and in the past can be crippling. To that I can attest! Some interesting and symbolic suggestions for dealing with it. Thanks for sharing. Voted up and beautiful!

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      Nithya Venkat 3 years ago from Dubai

      Very inspiring and yes life is too short to be spent worrying about what other people say. Great hub and ideas!!

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      Suzette Walker 3 years ago from Taos, NM

      You have come up with some unique ideas for getting over pain. I love the tree hugging idea. I may do that! LOL! This is such an inspirational hub for ridding oneself of emotional pain. Thanks for sharing your wise ideas with us. I think you are wise beyond your years. Voted up+ and shared.

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      Chitrangada Sharan 3 years ago from New Delhi, India

      Thank you manatita44, for your kind visit and valuable comments!

      I agree, Music is a healer. I appreciate your spiritual approach to deal with hurts.

      Hari Om Tat Sat!

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      manatita44 3 years ago from london

      Interesting ways of dealing with past hurts and difficulties. I felt that it got better from 'The Last Word.' Music is 'cool.' A bit short. Hari Om Tat Sat!

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      Chitrangada Sharan 3 years ago from New Delhi, India

      Thank you denise.w.anderson, for your insightful comments!

      I always await your valuable comments, whenever I write on a subject related to emotional health. Since you have a deep understanding of this subject.

      And I agree with you that by getting rid of negative emotions, we are able to move forward. Even I had such moments in my life, but I have wisely moved on!

      Thanks and appreciate your comments and support!

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      Chitrangada Sharan 3 years ago from New Delhi, India

      Thank you Devika, for sharing your valuable opinion!

      I know, memories fade away with lot of difficulty and requires a conscious effort. But to move on is the wise approach to follow.

      Appreciate your comments!

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      Denise W Anderson 3 years ago from Bismarck, North Dakota

      Anytime we can visualize ourselves getting rid of the negative emotions that plague us, we are able to move forward. When I had anger issues over past wrongs, I would visualize them as a pile of baseballs in front of me. Using a baseball bat, I would hit them, one by one, as hard as I could, and see them flying over the top of the stadium. They were gone, and I felt a whole lot better!

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Memories don't go away forever only for a short period, your ideas are promising.

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      Chitrangada Sharan 3 years ago from New Delhi, India

      Hi suzzycue!

      Glad to see you on this page! Appreciate your positive comments! Some of these ideas have been tried and tested. The whole idea is to divert the mind.

      Thanks and have a good day!

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      Chitrangada Sharan 3 years ago from New Delhi, India

      Thanks billybuc, for stopping by!

      Appreciate your comments! Glad you liked the message.

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      Susan Britton 3 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      I love the pothole mantra. I try not to live in the past only for the moment. This way of living has made my life happier. You have very good ideas here to stop dwelling on negative and go for the positive that comes from it.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      I'm not sure how many of these I would try, but your point about ridding ourselves of past pain is right on.