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"Are you tired of users and losers in relationships"

Updated on September 20, 2013

Are you tired of users and losers in relationships

My husband and I, on our wedding day. good things do come to those that wait.
My husband and I, on our wedding day. good things do come to those that wait.

"Are you tired of users and loser in relationships"

As women and men living in this world, we make choices about the people we want in our lives.

These choices aren't always the right ones most of the times, sometimes we end up hurt, misused and abused.

We often go through more than a couple of relationships and marriages before we are blessed with the right man or women.

By the time we meet our Mr. Right or Ms. Right , we're ready to throw in the towel and call it a day because of the frustrations and distrust.

Believe it or not, as few as it seems there are worth while men and women out there, finding them is a big problem.

We shouldn't give up on happiness, because we haven't found the right one, yet.

It took me a lot of heart break, headaches, a few relationships and two marriages and divorce before I found the other half of me.

Finding the right person worthy of us, can be found, but we can't just settle for a just old anything; because we're lonely or want to be with someone.

after my second divorce, I was a alone for eighteen years before I got blessed with my Godly man that I married.

I realized if we can't find someone to love and treat us like an equal we might as well be by oursleves.

There are men and women out there, looking for their sugar daddies or sugar mommas, so they can use them to get what they want out of life.

Playing these type of games can get someone hurt or killed, if they aren't being for real with the person because no one wants to be used by anyone.

So, the first thing we must do when looking for a special friend is to pray about it, take your time and check out what ever options you have before you.

The worse thing we can do is to judge a person by their looks are by the car they're driving.

Always judge a person by the content of their character and how well this person treats you.

Remember, if you are out there being fake and phony, you will draw the same kind of people to you.

It's always better to be yourself and hope that in doing so you will meet the same in a mate.

Now, you have to be extra careful becuase there are people out there, that will take your kindness for a weakness.

"Here Are a few tips to help you spot the users and the loses"

1. He or she don't have a car.

2.He or she dresses decent but can't buy their first drink.

3. He or she Always trying to borrow money from you,

4.If he ask you out to eat, but you have to pay on the tab or pay all of it yourself.

5.He's always wanting to come over your house to eat and don't ever offer to take you out to dinner.

6. They Don't have a job, and not really looking for one.

7.He or she doesn't have anything and doesn't want anything, they 'll bunk with you.8. Their dream in life, is a bottle of beer and a pack of cigarettes.

If by chance you run into any of these characters I just listed, please let them keep on walking.

It's really best to wade through the dirty water to get to the clean, meaning, really get to know

who the person really is and what they're all about before you hitch your wagon to their post.

Try really hard to find someone that's worthy of you and your love, before you bring them

home to mom, dad and the kids

Benny Faye douglass


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    • creativeone59 profile imageAUTHOR

      benny Faye Douglass 

      9 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona

      Thank you so much for your input, i's sad but true.


    • Chris Eddy111 profile image

      Chris Eddy111 

      9 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      Sad but true, that there are people who will easily use you. I think one of the issues for women is not wanting to be alone. This causes us to rush into a relationship without asking the tough questions.

      Nice hub and tips.


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