- Gender and Relationships
Dont take for granted
Don’t take someone for granted! Just because they are always with you doesn’t mean that you have to see them as another family member or friend that you are so familiar with. You’ll never know how special and important they are to you until they are gone.
I am writing this in tribute to a very close friend whom I almost lost forever. Words cannot express the pain that engulfed me when I came to realize that this person, who is more than just a friend, partner and companion, is the one person I couldn’t leave without. Yet all this time, while I was chasing my dreams (most of which were filled with my egos) he stood by and supported me all the way through. Never gave up on me even when I was mean and cruel.
Now that we have come to the crossroads, every conversation that we engage ourselves in must be crafted well; least the slightest trigger of emotion will strain the tiny cords of hope that holds us together.
Often times we are so consumed with our own passions, desires and ambitions that we completely forget the most important people in our lives. The people who always stand by our sides and continue to give us their undying love and support, even when we fail over; and over again to acknowledge and appreciate their love and support for us.
Its only when we reach those moments in our lives, where we are at the crossroads of our relationships, that we are awaken to the realities that is about to unfold in our lives. All too often people end up going their separate ways. In an attempt to recover from the pain of rejection and betrayal, many would find themselves drifting in and out of relationships, trying to find the perfect person who could mend their broken hearts.
While it’s easier for our mouths to speak faster than our minds could think and reason things out, we rush into decisions in the heat of the moment. As a result, before we come to our senses and think logically to re-look at the issue from a different angle, decisions have already been made and actions must be taken to implement the decision we’ve made.
If only our mouths could be silent for a while and wait for our minds to come to a complete ease in those frantic moments, we could have had an alternative to save the relationship that we have built over so many years.
Lasting relationships are not created overnight. It takes so much effort, time, energy and even lifetime to create lasting and bonding relationships. Such are the relationships that have stood the test of time. As humans it is inevitable to lose control under trying circumstance, when the very essence of our emotions is tested. Even when our human nature can’t comprehend things in those moments of despair, anguish and bitterness, it also has the will and power to withstand. That is when courage is born and we learn to forgive those who have hurt us.
To my dearest friend, who had the courage to stare anguish in the face of the greatest adversity that put us on the rock, I salute you. Not many people have the strength of a lion to fearlessly overcome such extremes that have happened to us. With all that has happened, leaving us to decide our destiny when we were at the crossroads and our hearts were crushed and shattered, you were still there for me. I cannot appreciate you much for still standing by me. Although we have made it through and slowly recovering, things will not be the same again. Oh, how I wish I could turn back time and return all that love back. If only I could, I would never want to take you for granted just because you are always with me.
I maybe one person trying to find a voice out here to express my deepest gratitude for this special person, but I know that I am not alone. There are so many people out there who have been taking the most important people in their lives for granted. I hope that my voice is able to reach as many people as possible so that we can learn to appreciate those around us, especially those that sacrifice everything for our happiness.
Time may heal our wounds when paths are crossed in our relationships, but it will never replace those people in our lives when they are gone. We may be busy collecting stones and realized that we have lost a diamond. It is important to value those people who are always around for us.