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Violence Against Women..When Will We Wake Up?
Where Do We Stand?
At first,let's have a look at the recent statistics.
REPORTED RAPE CASES
REPORTED CRUELTY CASES BY HUSBAND/RELATIVE
REPORTED DEATHS RELATED TO DOWRY CASES
The question of safety of women in India is under serious threat with the increasing number of violence through each passing year as evident from the stats. Despite of the new laws implemented,the curse doesn't really seem to end. Numerous incidents make the morning headlines every day,there are protests against the inhuman crimes and there are arrests in some cases. But what about the remaining ones? Some of those remain forever locked up in the custody of closed files.
According to India's National Crime Records Bureau,here are a few records of crimes reported only in the year 2013.
118,866 (Domestic Violence)
Now,here lies the question. Why is the situation so grim?
Who is to be blamed?
Is it the ignorance?
The so-called male-dominance?
The eternal taboo on the idea of 'sex' by the society?
OR,IS IT JUST FOR FUN?
Yes,the current situation is not at all a comfy one!
The scenario is unpleasant. Be it in school,college or job...a female is safe no more,irrespective of her age.
Intelligence,merit and proficiency are mere words when 'How she looks','What she wears' or 'Is she appealing?' during an interview often become crucial factors for her selection.
She is asked to compromise with her self-respect.
Being a male is tough when such horrendous activities are committed by other members of my gender.
A woman is not a toy. You can't just play with her emotions...her body.
She is not a sandbag that you can hit after coming back from office just because your day has been tough on you.
She is not a machine and you never inherited the right to use her as you wish to satisfy your bloody needs.
She is just another human being. She is happy when you treat her well and sad when you don't. Just like you,she has her own emotions,her struggles,her failures. Like you,she has her limits.
And,when she gets back at you for your misdeeds...the society brands her
' S P O I L T '!
But again,WE are the society!
Violence at home is India's 'failing'
"My husband came into the room, locked the door. He turned up the music so that no one could hear us outside. Then he took out his belt and started to hit me. He kept whipping me for the next 30 minutes."
Aditi (not her real name) is among millions of Indian women who have faced domestic violence.
"As he was doing this, he warned me that I shouldn't make a sound, I shouldn't cry, I shouldn't scream, because if I did, he was going to hit me even harder. He was hitting me with his belt, his hands... soon he began to choke me. He was just so angry."
The incident Aditi describes took place when she was just 19, a year after her "grand wedding" for which "people flew in from around the world to bless the couple".
Source : bbc.com
Of all the rich G20 nations, India has been labelled the worst place to be a woman. But how is this possible in a country that prides itself on being the world's largest democracy?
In an ashram perched high on a hill above the noisy city of Guwahati in north-east India is a small exhibit commemorating the life of India's most famous son. Alongside an uncomfortable-looking divan where Mahatma Gandhi once slept is a display reminding visitors of something the man himself said in 1921: "Of all the evils for which man has made himself responsible, none is so degrading, so shocking or so brutal as his abuse of the better half of humanity; the female sex (not the weaker sex)."
One evening two weeks ago, just a few miles downhill, a young student left a bar and was set upon by a gang of at least 18 men. They dragged her into the road by her hair, tried to rip off her clothes and smiled at the cameras that filmed it all. It was around 9.30pm on one of Guwahati's busiest streets – a chaotic three-lane thoroughfare soundtracked by constantly beeping horns and chugging tuk-tuks. But for at least 20 minutes, no one called the police. They easily could have. Many of those present had phones: they were using them to film the scene as the men yanked up the girl's vest and tugged at her bra and groped her breasts as she begged for help from passing cars. We know this because a cameraman from the local TV channel was there too, capturing the attack for his viewers' enjoyment. The woman was abused for 45 minutes before the police arrived.
source : theguardian.com(23rd July,2012)
16th December,2012. A female paramedic student was violently attacked and raped by six men inside a moving bus in Delhi. Her male friend was severely injured when he tried to save the girl and they were thrown from the bus after half-an hour of inhuman torture.
The girl succumbed to the serious internal injuries on the 29th of December,2012 in a Singapore hospital.
What Needs to be Done?
- How old is 'old' enough to punish the juveniles involved in the heinous activities? The law must answer the question once and for all.
- The taboo on sex-education must be abolished for good. The more a particular subject is kept cached from young minds,the more interest it develops.
- The free-flowing access to pornography on computers and mobile phones has to be restricted.
- The film and music industry must be more responsible with its contents. The cheap blue film market is at the fingertips today. Almost all the modern Bollywood films have so-called 'appealing' item number scenes. Above all,a recent blockbuster Bolly song (female voice) gets as low as "I'm a piece of chicken,wash me down with alcohol..." when the part is translated!
- Creating and spreading the awareness of self-defence is to be incorporated right from the grass root level,specially among the females.
- India's current female to male ratio is around 914:1000(lowest since 1947). It is this gender bias that is leading to even more instability. Abortion is an act of murder and the toughest actions should be taken against the beasts engaging themselves in female foeticide.
- Last but not the least,it's the women who need to speak up after they come across an incident. In most of the cases,a thought plays at the back of the mind...What will they think if I disclose the incident? How will they react to it?
If it remains a secret now,it simply encourages the culprit. At the same time,the family members/friends need to be by the victim's side and help her in every possible ways.
What do the IPCs say?
According to the 2012 statistics by the National Crime Records Bureau, 8233 incidences of dowry deaths were reported under section B of the Indian Penal Code (IPC) and 106527 incidences of cruelty by husband or his relatives under section 498 A of IPC.
India’s constitution guarantees protection to live a life of dignity and respect to all its citizens, specially the marginalized one’s by virtue of Article 15. Also, India has ratified International Conventions like Convention for Elimination of all forms of Discrimination against Women (CEDAW).
Hence, India made special provisions for women to address this inequality. Legislations like Sections 113 B, 498A & 304B of the Indian Penal Code, 1860, Dowry Prohibition Act (DPA), Protection of Women against Domestic Violence (PWDVA) address violence against women.
source : blog.ipleaders.in
Awareness is the key
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Should the public be allowed to intervene in case a criminal is caught on spot?
The Silver Lining
The Union Cabinet on Wednesday(22nd April,2015), cleared a proposal to try juvenile in the age group of 16-18 under laws for adults for heinous crimes.
Confirming the news, Union Minister told mediapersons, "Juvenile Justice Act at has been approved by the Cabinet today."
He also said, "Important feature is while recognising rights of a juvenile in the event he is between 16-18 years and the children's court comes to a conclusion that because of circumstances of his crime and his psychology he has committed a heinous crime, it is important that he (juvenile) be treated like an adult," as per ANI.
source : zeenews.india.com
- India Archives - One Billion Rising Revolution
I will #Rise4Justice! On 14 February 2013, one billion people in 207 countries rose and danced to demand an end to violence against women and girls. On 14 February 2014, we are escalating our efforts, calling on women and men everywhere to RISE, RELE
Various initiatives are being taken to make the masses aware as to where the country stands on the issue of violence against women and kids.
The One Billion Rising campaign has had an enormous success in raising a voice against the crimes against women,not just in India but also around the globe.
Different documentaries,short films,dramas etc.are being created to educate people. Various television shows are aired on the national channels which ask the oppressed not to remain silent,but to shout against the crimes.
Helplines for women are made available in various sectors in case of an incident.
In spite of all the precautions,crimes do happen on a regular basis. Too often,the criminals manage to get away.
Just because the male can,he may NOT harm a female.
The size of dress of a female does not mean a YES.
To be a beast or to be a Real Man...choice is what would make him a human.