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WHAT WOMEN DON'T KNOW - The Secret Of Love
Good Luck Girls!
Think About It...
Dear "women of the world." Think about it. You can not make a man love you! Nomatter what you feel or how much he does for you, or how successful he is...you can not force the heart unless it is true. It is like a "magic key." You can not "cast a spell" or pretend that he loves you. It will never happen. You can not look your best, ask for favors and expect a man to fall "head over heels." You need to realize that "love" is like a gravitational pull from a very deep place. But you need to be "yourself" and true in every way before the "pull" can happen. Be honest with yourself and it may happen if your heart wants it too.
I do not think that I am an expert, but I am good at understanding men. As a child I grew up around them and formed more bonds with men then women. Some of them were very famous and some of them were womanizers. What I noticed as a young girl was that women would "hold on" a bit too tightly without letting the man keep his space or his identity. They would expect way too much in the beginning instead of letting things progress naturally in the relationship. This is a big mistake and something that a woman can not recover from when it comes to "love." Men can tell if you are lying. At least most of the successful men I have known always know exactly what is going on. They can see through a lying women very quickly. It's all in the eyes and what you do.
The old saying "If you love someone, set him free." Without finishing the quote, the point is that a person can not "love you" if you do not respect "who they are" and "why" they are who they are. Period. Expecting a lot from someone you want to "land" and or trying to manipulate a situation (no matter how subtle) never works in the "love game." You can see how plenty of younger women date much older men who I can say from first hand experience have been "duped" on many occasions. I just cough it up as the men being very lonely or desperate for attention. You must be your own person and very independent if you want to end up with a very special man. There are not many out there (trust me! ha) so you need to be respectful of yourself as well as others when you find one.
The first lesson of respect is to set limits when it comes to your actions and progress accordingly and let things "flow." Remember "love" is about "trust" and it spills in all of your actions. I can tell many have blown it because they did not trust who they are. Believe in yourself, stop thinking of everyone else. Love yourself and things will happen. Trust me.