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WHAT WOMEN DON'T KNOW - The Secret Of Love

Updated on July 2, 2010

Think About It...

Dear "women of the world." Think about it. You can not make a man love you! Nomatter what you feel or how much he does for you, or how successful he is...you can not force the heart unless it is true. It is like a "magic key." You can not "cast a spell" or pretend that he loves you. It will never happen. You can not look your best, ask for favors and expect a man to fall "head over heels." You need to realize that "love" is like a gravitational pull from a very deep place. But you need to be "yourself" and true in every way before the "pull" can happen. Be honest with yourself and it may happen if your heart wants it too.

I do not think that I am an expert, but I am good at understanding men. As a child I grew up around them and formed more bonds with men then women. Some of them were very famous and some of them were womanizers. What I noticed as a young girl was that women would "hold on" a bit too tightly without letting the man keep his space or his identity. They would expect way too much in the beginning instead of letting things progress naturally in the relationship. This is a big mistake and something that a woman can not recover from when it comes to "love." Men can tell if you are lying. At least most of the successful men I have known always know exactly what is going on. They can see through a lying women very quickly. It's all in the eyes and what you do.

The old saying "If you love someone, set him free." Without finishing the quote, the point is that a person can not "love you" if you do not respect "who they are" and "why" they are who they are. Period. Expecting a lot from someone you want to "land" and or trying to manipulate a situation (no matter how subtle) never works in the "love game." You can see how plenty of younger women date much older men who I can say from first hand experience have been "duped" on many occasions. I just cough it up as the men being very lonely or desperate for attention. You must be your own person and very independent if you want to end up with a very special man. There are not many out there (trust me! ha) so you need to be respectful of yourself as well as others when you find one.

The first lesson of respect is to set limits when it comes to your actions and progress accordingly and let things "flow." Remember "love" is about "trust" and it spills in all of your actions. I can tell many have blown it because they did not trust who they are. Believe in yourself, stop thinking of everyone else. Love yourself and things will happen. Trust me.

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      GPAGE 5 years ago from California

      So glad to hear poojasd7....thank you for stopping by also! GPAGE

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      poojasd7 5 years ago from India

      Loved it...can relate to this one very much.

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      GPAGE 6 years ago from California

      Jaspals....thank you so much for your comment. So nice to see you here....Best, GPAGE

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      Jaspal Singh 6 years ago from India / Australia

      Nice writing. Touching very sensitive issue. Enjoyed reading.

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      GPAGE 7 years ago from California

      JAMES! So nice to see you!....glad you agree!!!!! G

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      James A Watkins 7 years ago from Chicago

      Fantabulous! Your advice is spot on, girl!

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      GPAGE 7 years ago from California

      viryabo...thank you so much for your positive comment! I like what you said here. Adds to the soup in such a good way! Thank you always for being here. G

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      viryabo 7 years ago

      A lot of women should read this. I believe it will allow them realise that love must flow naturally. From a young age, i realised that your lover must be your friend.

      The 'hot love' bond which makes many women make the mistake of thinking "Yes! this is it" loosens before they know it.

      The love that begins on a 'friendship note' starts naturally and flows into a deeper bond. This is because friends get to know each other on a clear slate and open-minded start.

      I totally agree with you that No Man's Love Can Be Forced.

      Men only respect and love deeply women that respect themselves, have some humility (but must take no nonsense!!), and can carry the load of their challenges with dignity. And they must be warm.

      Love this article G. Great read as usual.

      GodBless.

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      GPAGE 7 years ago from California

      dreamreachout...thank you so much for your lovely and for completing the quote! I have seen it written a few different ways....Nice to see you here. Best, G

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      dreamreachout 7 years ago

      Wonderful hub highlighting a true side of man-woman relationship!! The charm of being understanding weaves a subtle spell of bonding!! To complete one of your quotes here .. " If you love a man set him free, if he comes back he was always yours, if he doesn't come back he was never yours" :)

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      GPAGE 7 years ago from California

      Dean! VERY entertaining! Made me laugh a lot! Well I am a magician that makes things appear, not disappear!!!!! ha I like the HA meetings.....VERY cute. LOVE this comment!

      Gx

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      cheaptrick 7 years ago from the bridge of sighs

      Hi'a G!It seems like a simple matter to me...I Loved my Wife with all my Heart and I know that cause she Told me so!!

      I joined"Husbands Anonymous" cause I kept having the urge to"Have an Opinion"!!!

      My sponsor would come over and sit with me till the Urge went away...Thank God for the HA meetings!!:)x

      BTW:She was a Magician!

      She made All my money...DISAPEAR!!!{Alcohol fueled Maniacal Laughter Follows}

      dEaN...x

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      GPAGE 7 years ago from California

      dawn...always nice to see a new face here! You are right about desperate women and men! Not good at all! GPAGE

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      GPAGE 7 years ago from California

      ladyjane...I so enjoy seeing you here! Love the new pic ; Thanks for the nice comment too! Best, G

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      GPAGE 7 years ago from California

      prasetio! Thank you so much for your lovely and positive comment! It is always wonderful seeing you here. Thank you also for your ongoing support! I always feel your heart here. G

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      Dawn Michael 7 years ago from THOUSAND OAKS

      very true article, a man needs to always have a little pursut in a woman. A woman who appears to be desperate is a huge turn off and the same goes for a man.

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      ladyjane1 7 years ago from Texas

      GPAGE you really nailed it right on the head with this hub. I have seen so many times when woman or men try to manipulate someone to love them and if its not there its not there. Great advice, Cheers.

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      prasetio30 7 years ago from malang-indonesia

      May I give a comment? I really understand you. You are my GURU. Hi all woman hubbers over the world, please read this hub!!!! I suggest you to find the secret love inside this hub. You'll never regret to landing to this place. I'll help you to promote this hub. Thank you very much. Thumbs up for you.

      Best,Prasetio

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      GPAGE 7 years ago from California

      Well, thank you very much Frankie! ; E! I very much appreciate you telling me how you feel! Makes me feel even better to know that I have made someone happy! I'm a big beautiful flower today!!! G

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      epigramman 7 years ago

      ..well I love myself even more when I think of you Ms. Gardner and all of the nice things you've said about me and the support you have given me at hubpages - lucky day that I met you - the sun shines everyday and the flowers never wilt!!!

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      GPAGE 7 years ago from California

      Thanx Pamela...I always love to help. I know a lot of women who make the same mistake over and over again. Maybe they will get something out of this. Best, G

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      Pamela Oglesby 7 years ago from United States

      GPAGE, This hub has excellent advice and I have observed those same things but you put it together very well in this hub. Thumbs up!