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5 Signs You are Being Taken Advantage Of

Updated on September 19, 2017
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A kind of abuse

Being used and taken advantage of by another in any kind of relationship is the worst thing that could happen to you. This is a form of abuse that can extricate yourself from.

If you are naive or blindly in love, it is easy for another person to take advantage of you in many different ways. A person may use you and this freeloading relationship often involve any or all of the following one-way relationship where you as the giver experience emotional, sexual and economic abuse. He may do it deliberately or do it subtly that you don't even know you are already a victim of the one-sided relationship.

A relationship with freeloading is a one-way relationship, in this case the guy is the one mostly getting the benefit while the woman does all the work. For the most part, lying is always present as this will often draw you the victim into the deceiver's web.

If you have been bothered by that uneasy feeling, check out these signs. You might already be in for a ride by someone only out to freeload on your kindness (and bank account!).

Am I Being Used?

1. Financial dependence

When he relies too much on you for his needs and he does not exert an effort to make life better for himself is one sure sign of taking advantage of your kindness, hence should be stopped. Be forewarned that this kind of guy would resort to desperate acts like lying to you to get what he needs. Helping a few instances is not bad but when it goes on for too long, you must take the decisive step to put an end to this dependency.

Give him a kick start and make him realize that although you strive to be an independent woman, it does not mean that it is now your duty to provide him financial support at all time. He should be man enough to get a job and not depend on you. A situation such as this, tells you clearly of the kind of man he is. It reflects his lack of ambition for himself and how he sees you merely as a source of livelihood for him. Definitely, your relationship will not lead anywhere but you suffering the brunt of the financial responsibility for years to come.

Men by nature are providers but if you give them the opening become dependent on you, they would gladly accept this, and you have no one to blame but yourself in the long run.

2. You are there for him in time of need but not the other way around.

He is just available when he needs something from you. You will notice that every time he needs something, you are at his beck and call. But expect that when it is your turn I bet he will nowhere to be seen. This person simply does not care about you.

3. He resorts to blackmail.

This guy will do anything at all costs when you refuse to help him out. If he is really good at it, he would be good at making you feel bad for not helping him out. Worst, he could do some other more dangerous things just to obtain what he needs. Prevent the possibility by leaving the relationship as early as you can.

4. Lying and deception is part of the game.

Lying is his tool just so he can remain freeloading on you. Deception is part of the game and it is possible even that he is not really into you but only after what you can give him. In this one-sided relationship, it is also possible that he is not open about your relationship to those closest to him like his family.

5. You are there to provide for his convenience and comfort.

Notice that this guy will happily tag you along when he needs you. You may be unaware but he may use you as his right-hand, his assistant, driver, creditor and all kinds of support you can think of. When you really think about it, all of these will only be working for his own benefit and not yours.

Get out of the this abusive relationship. Learn to say no and do not allow a friend or a boyfriend to use and abuse you through freeloading. You definitely deserve someone better.


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      Gei Moore 5 years ago from Philippines

      Wow thanks dashingscorpio, that's a great way of saying that. The mind should rule over the heart, but for some that is hard to live by. Our role is to remind them that. Thanks for reading!

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      dashingscorpio 5 years ago

      These are really the signs that a woman doesn't love herself or has low self-esteem. Some women are not comfortable unless they are with a man who (needs) them. In fact they believe as long as he "needs" them they will continue to (have him) in some way. No one can (use) y0u unless you allow them to do so.

      A gullible person who blames others for taking advantage of them is pointing their finger in the wrong direction. It is (your responsibility) to look out for your own best interest.

      Never separate your mind from your heart when making relationship decisions. The purpose of the mind is to protect the heart.

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      Gei Moore 5 years ago from Philippines

      Hi idigwebsites! Thank you for taking time to read this hub. If you know he is using you and still love him anyway, that is you call. I mean, despite knowing that fact and it is alright with you, that is called blind love or unconditional love. Whatever you call it, it is your choice.

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      idigwebsites 5 years ago from United States

      What if you really know he or she using you but you still love him (or her) anyway? It's so hard, I know there are people like that. That's sad.

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      Gei Moore 5 years ago from Philippines

      Hi soconfident! That is true. Sometimes, you need someone else to point out to you the possibility that a partner may just be using you. It is hard, but it happens. Thanks for reading.

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      Derrick Bennett 5 years ago

      Great hub, a relationship is a two way street they both need to bring something to the table. No one likes to be or feel used.

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      itsladyo 5 years ago from Savannah Ga

      Wish you the best! You may actually draw something you can use from my Hub, especially my latest.

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      Gei Moore 5 years ago from Philippines

      hi itsladyo! You are so right. Thanks!

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      itsladyo 5 years ago from Savannah Ga

      If it looks like a duck and quacks like a duck, it's a duck. We have got to discover self and learn to love ourselves so that we don't leave the door open nonsense.

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      Nikki Major 5 years ago

      Great Article....many are beingused and don't know it. Good job.

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      Nathan Bernardo 5 years ago from California, United States of America

      Yes, absolutely, it does not feel good to be used, to have someone have no regard for you, love you when you are good use to them, but go on to better things at the drop of a hat or when you don't please. You covered the subject well and it's all very true.