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Warning to All Men
Yes, We Are Can Be Complicated
As a woman I will be the first to admit, we can be rather complex creatures to deal with. One minute we are up, then the next minute we are down, sometimes all it takes is something as simple as you clearing your throat to tick us off. So let this be a warning to all men about how crazy we can get.
We are also very bad at assuming you should be able to read our minds, and complain about doing something by ourselves, without help' Even after you have offered to help hundreds of times, but in our mind's you should have insisted we let you do it, talk about confusing.
We will tell you nothing is wrong with us even though it is clearly obvious to you, and anyone else who accidentally gets in our way that something has made us mad. We can talk about how big our butts look in our favorite jeans all day long, but if you say anything about it, in our eyes that means you're calling us fat, even if you meant it in a good way. One minute we will tell you how we want to do all the work around the house, then turn around and get huffy because you actually expect us to keep up that bargain, as if everything really means everything. We really do not need a man's approval, I mean most of us think we are Venus anyway, by the way do you think I am pretty, how about sexy, maybe even smart, pun intended, notice my personal touch of sarcasm.
What we really want
Yes we are way crazy and a bit emotional, but if you make us happy, we will make you happy back. While we may offer to cater to you, we do not like being taken advantage of. So if you see us displaying some of the behaviors above it is because we either feel used, neglected or in some cases maybe even a little depressed. We love to hear you tell us we are beautiful and no matter how many times we say we do not need your approval, we really would like it. When we love someone it is with our whole heart, and when we are mad it is with our whole heart as well, which is why we sometimes act so crazy.
Show us you love us, as much as we love you. Surprise us with occasional back rubs or by making us a relaxing bath and handling the chores and kids for at least one night, even if we protest. Offer to open the door when our hands are full, and for crying out loud please pick up after yourself. Do the dishes when we cook do not wait for us to ask, just get up and do it. If you do these things and do them from your heart, you will be one happy man.
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Thank you guys for the comments.
Interesting hub, fun to read and potentially useful!
It's the thought that counts no matter how small the gesture. I agree with acaetnna. I love chocolate covered roses and teddy bears. Lol.
Appreciates the insight provided here... *smiles*
You've definitely hit the nail on the head with this one, brilliant. I would expect my man always to open a door for me and not just when I have my hands full though!
I appreciate you offering the perspective. I think we guys can be a little hard to read too, but we probably don't like to think that we are. Perhaps it's just me...sometimes I think more with my emotions than I do my logic, which tends to put me in the gray area most of the time.
I think that's the message you're trying to convey though is that women may have a lot of emotions going on in their mind. When that happens, it can be hard for us guys to read into what you may be thinking because we try to be too logical in too many situations. I think if we step back a little from trying to see the world in black and white so much and more about what makes the woman we are with happy we would have a more successful relationship with women.
Well, that's my two cents worth. I hope it makes sense and thanks again for offering this perspective.
I had to chuckle at the throat clearing part. My sister just called her husband out for giving her a dirty look. After 35 years of marriage, you gotta expect a dirty look once in a while. And sometimes they're just tired.
Hello again SanXuary,
Good to see you again. I think you just made pretty's point.. men don't understand women. We are all wired so differently.. Merry Christmas to both of you!
Very cute prettynutjob. I think all men should read this. Well done!
Sweet, I thought you were just having a bad day or something. It looks like you have done quite a few Hubs and I had no idea what this one was about. Chocolate, flowers, whatever your favourite food is now get happy.
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My point is yes we are crazy sometimes,but if you make a women happy she will make you happy back.
The point of this HUB is what? I guess that sums up women.
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