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Warning signs that your relationship is ending
Every relationship has its low points, so a bit of smoke doesn’t always indicate that your relationship is going down in a blaze. Unfortunately, that fact makes it difficult to tell when your relationship is going to flop. It’s all well and good to stay for the long haul, but if the relationship has more nadirs than zeniths, then it’s time to reevaluate its worth. If you’re lucky, you might be able to salvage a broken relationship. There are several signs that your relationship might go bust soon.
This does not mean the few quibbles that arise from time to time. Usually, these fights are regular, more toxic than a viper’s venom, and about the same things. There is often no real resolution, just a series of tense ceasefires in the interim. This is emotionally draining and makes both parties unhappy in the relationship. Unless the roots of such fights are properly addressed, the relationship is going down faster than the evening sun.
At least fights show that both parties have some spunk in them still. It gets worse when either one person gives up or both persons give up. Withdrawal can be as easy as tuning out and disregarding your partner. You know it’s going to go belly-up when your partner just sighs and/or walks out of the room when you attempt to discuss important issues.
There is nothing worse than feeling emotionally disconnected from your partner. This leads to relationship failure because it is often overlooked or not discussed. There is persistent frustration about emotional needs not being fulfilled. By the time it becomes noticeable to one or both parties, it may be too late. To undo that extended period of emotional drift requires more effort than being a truthful politician.
With fears of being single or changing your personal equilibrium, breakups are anything but pleasant. Using her personal experience and stories from her practice, Susan Elliott provides sound advice for those still driving by the ex's house or obsessed with self-blame.
Once boredom creeps into the relationship, it’s a life of attrition. Then you’ll start finding reasons to be apart, even when you’re in the same building. The final act of the breakdown is when absence from your partner does not make your heart grow fonder. You feel alive around others and begin to resent your erstwhile loved one.
You don’t feel like yourself
This can be the result of being abused in various ways, or feeling as though you need to change yourself 360 degrees to accommodate the relationship. A feeling of emptiness might likely accompany this self-loss. When you go that extra mile, lose yourself and it makes no difference anyway, know that you might only find yourself if you lose the relationship.
When temptation translates into horning, the relationship might be doomed. Not many persons would tolerate infidelity once – even fewer would tolerate it repeatedly. Going outside of the relationship to satisfy emotional and sexual needs is both a cause and symptom of relationship failure.
The good vibes you had at the start soured into bad ones. Sometimes, you might just figure something is amiss without being able to identify causes or signs. These vibes are early signals of something deep-seated and harmful to the relationship. Sometimes it’s an indication that things are started to drift away or change for the worse.
Once an affair comes to light, many unfaithful persons "wake up" and want to save their marriages. Yet, they usually make terrible mistakes in their bungled attempts to win back their partners' trust. Linda J. MacDonald, an infidelity specialist for 23 years, has identified behaviors and attitudes that determine unfaithful persons' success or failure to mend their marriages after the wrecking ball of an affair.
No one sign on its own is insurmountable. However, these signs usually appear in clusters; not even a trip to a magician can save a relationship in such cases. Maybe your relationship can be salvaged, but decisive action is required regardless. After all, optimism is no justification for inaction.