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Bring Love and Romance Into Your Life with Feng Shui

Updated on October 10, 2016
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Sadie Holloway is a workshop facilitator who teaches interpersonal communication skills to help people strengthen their relationships.

Did you know that you can give your love life a boost just by making a few simple changes to the layout of your bedroom? Learn how ancient feng shui practices can help increase the chemistry and connection between you and your lover.

Invite romance into the bedroom by mindfully arranging furniture, mirrors, and other objects.

Feng shui is all about the flow of energy in your home.
Feng shui is all about the flow of energy in your home.

Piles of laundry, electronics scattered across a bedside table, a photo of your prim and proper great-grandmother looking straight at you bed—are these some of the things you picture when you dream about a romantic interlude with your lover? Probably not. If you are like the average single or married woman, you probably envision a calm, relaxed, quiet atmosphere when you think about being physically intimate with your lover—whether he is your boyfriend, fiancé or husband. So if these things aren’t part of your fantasy dream date, why are they cluttering up your bedroom?

Therapists and relationship experts often suggest that in addition to increasing positive interpersonal communication within a marriage or partnership, clearing out life’s daily clutter can strengthen emotional and physical bonds. If you are distracted by your cell phone sitting on your bedside table or you have to tiptoe around heaps of dirty clothes before you slide into bed, getting in the mood could be a challenge. Thankfully, there are some basic feng shui techniques you can learn to help transform your sleeping quarters into a romantic hideaway for the two of you.

What is feng shui? Feng shui is an approach to design and furniture arrangement that creates positive flows of energy, called chi, through the placement, or removal, of certain items in your home.

Feng shui isn't something that can easily be mastered overnight or with a few quick tips, but if these ideas and concepts appeal to you, why not continue learning about feng shui and how it can enhance your home life and your work life.

Try a few of these tips this weekend and see how small changes can make a big difference to your energy and excitement levels.

Simplify your bedroom and clear out the clutter. Your bedroom should only be used for three purposes resting, dressing, and sharing private moments with the one you love. Using your bedroom as a storage room, a home gym, or an office should be avoided. Since it is also a place where you want privacy and feelings of intimacy, keeping photos of all your relatives, no matter how lovely they are is not recommended. Children don’t need to be banished from your bedroom, but there should be clear boundaries that this is a place for adults first and foremost. It is not a playroom. Keep only the things that have purpose and meaning in your bedroom. If you don’t have the luxury of a separate bedroom (i.e.; you live in a studio apartment, try to at least create visual cues that define where you eat, where you sleep, where you entertain, and where you work.

The greatest pleasure in life is love; the greatest possession is health; the greatest ease is sleep; and the greatest medicine is a true friend.

-- Sir William Temple

Your bed should be the focal point of the room. The bed should not be placed under a window or pushed into a corner. If possible, arrange your bed in the middle of the room. There should be enough space to walk around at least three sides of your bed to maximize the flow of energy.

Make sure that the bed is facing the door. This provides protection against intrusive energy, and lets you melt into the moment. When your back is to the door or any entrance, and you can’t see someone (or something) approaching, it is easy to feel overly cautious and guarded, which can lead to tense muscles and a lack of present moment awareness.

Splurge on high-quality linens if you can. High thread-count sheets in warm (fire element) colors are a good choice.

The Use of Color in Feng Shui

Element
Colors
What The Colors Attract
Metal
grey, white
clarity, lightness,
Wood
brown, green
growth, vitality
Water
blue, black
abundance, purity, freshness
Earth
light yellow, beige
nourishment, stability
Fire
red, yellow, orange
passion, high energy
Choose colors according to the energy you wish to bring into your bedroom. You can use these colors on your wall, in artwork, and in your bedroom linens and accessories. Source: Feng Shui Color Guide - How To Use Colors in Feng Shui by Rodika Tchi

If it belongs in your office, keep it out of your bedroom! Laptops, cell phones, office papers, manuals and work-related books should be removed from your bedroom if you want to create a welcoming atmosphere for romance and relaxation.

Is your bedside table home to a jumble of electronic devices? If you want to turn up the sexual chemistry in the bedroom, turn off the devices and banish them from the bedroom.
Is your bedside table home to a jumble of electronic devices? If you want to turn up the sexual chemistry in the bedroom, turn off the devices and banish them from the bedroom.

Remove (or reduce) the presence of negative energy sources. Electronics transmit negative chi, not to mention create electro-magnetic fields that can have a negative effect on your health and well-being.

Try to keep your electronic clocks, telephone, and other gadgets several feet away from your bed. You could opt for a wind-up analog clock to reduce one electric device, and it won’t glow as brightly as the red number s on a digital clock.

Sleep experts recommend keeping TVs out of the bedroom because they can cause the mind to be distracted and/or overstimulated before bed. Avoid bringing a laptop computer to bed, too.

Salt crystal lamps are often used in feng shui because they are believed to help purify objects, the air, and the mind and body. As the salt crystal is warmed by a candle or light bulb, the salt draws negative energy in the crystal and releases positive energy back into the room.


A salt crystal lamp is a calming addition to any space, especially the bedroom. An orange salt crystal lamp will cast  a warm glow around the room, inviting the fire element (passion, energy) into your bedroom.
A salt crystal lamp is a calming addition to any space, especially the bedroom. An orange salt crystal lamp will cast a warm glow around the room, inviting the fire element (passion, energy) into your bedroom.

Create a special place on the right side of your room to display treasured objects that represent love, beauty, and positive energy. Cherished books, mementos, flowers, and crystals are lovely choices. But be careful not to display too many objects otherwise the space will feel cluttered. Dust the objects in this special place regularly. If you choose to put photographs in this (or any) part of the room, make sure that the images depict people in pairs.

Do you and your current romantic partner see eye to eye on how clean and organized the bedroom must be?

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Learning about and applying feng shui principles to the layout and design of your bedroom can energize your sex life, improve the quality of your sleep, and invite more positivity and prosperity into your life. Even if you aren’t sure if feng shui could make a difference and help improve your love life, clearing out clutter and being mindful of the energy in your bedroom can still improve your overall mental and emotional health. And people who radiate positivity and good health are naturally more attractive to their (potential) mates than people who carry a cloud of negativity with them wherever they go.

© 2014 Sadie Holloway

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