- Gender and Relationships
Ways to Make More Friends
Good friends are like gold. You need to do a bit of mining to find some. That’s why it can pay to make more friends. Some should turn out to be treasures. Good friends make life richer.
Here are several ways to make more friends.
Reconnect with Old Friends
Friends from growing up and from school are old friends and often make the best friends. It’s easy over time and distance for old friendships to fade. To make a lot of friends you can start by reconnecting with your old ones. It can be tremendous fun catching up with people you really liked in your youth.
Pay More Attention to Family Relationships
Our closest relationships can be with family members so family is a potential pool of friends, too. To make a lot of friends look to your immediate and extended family for those who share your values and interests in life. Family can be one source of very good friends.
Make More Friends at Work
You’ll meet people at work who have various goals: to survive, to succeed, and unfortunately some who are not above exploiting others. To make a lot of friends at work caution is key. Focus on finding people who are trustworthy and really care about people besides themselves. They are out there; you just have to look carefully. Show a sincere interest in the welfare of people at work and some will respond. Just make sure that their motives are good ones and that they are good people.
Make More Friends around Home
Your local community is a good potential source of friends. Join PTAs, community service organizations, political parties, and religious groups to make a lot of friends, if that is your style. Or form your own local groups around book discussions, hobbies, parents of your children’s friends, or issues you feel strongly about, like the environment. You should be able to make some good friends in your community via these methods.
Make New Friends Online
Web 2.0 technologies have led to an explosion of social networking and bookmarking sites. It’s easier than ever to make a lot of friends online. Use the social network sites like Facebook, MySpace and Twitter to connect with friends from your local area as well as from your schools. You will be able to make new friends through old friends, but be careful of the scammers and exploiters out there. Not everyone cares about your best interest.
Manage Relationships and Time
It will be a challenge to manage your time and the relationships involved as you make more friends. That’s why the social network sites are so popular. You can communicate and keep up with many friends with brief daily visits to your favorite social site(s). Monitor your time, though, so that you can nip any addictions in the bud. You want to maintain control over your time and life.
Take it Easy
You should not rush into a large number of friendships in a short time, especially with people you don’t know well. Committing time to developing friendships is important and you won’t be able to do justice to anyone if you try to move too fast with many people. It takes considerable time and effort to make a lot of friends, especially good ones whom you can trust. Let others earn your trust. Don’t assume others are good people just because (hopefully) you are.