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Wedding Vows: Should You Write Your Own?

Updated on December 14, 2015
Should you write your own wedding vows?
Should you write your own wedding vows?

Should You Write Your Wedding Vows

Wedding vows are a once-in-a-lifetime commitment--those beautiful words that will unite a man and a woman forever in matrimony. The most famous comes from the English, Book of Common Prayer, from the sixteenth century. These words are obviously timeless!

Wilt thou have this Woman to thy wedded wife...? Wilt thou love her, comfort her, honour, and keep her in sickness and in health: and, forsaking all others, keep thee only unto her, so long as ye both shall live?


If you're being married in church, etc. be sure to check with clergy before deciding to write your wedding vows.
If you're being married in church, etc. be sure to check with clergy before deciding to write your wedding vows.

Wedding Vows: Religious Restrictions

Some religions* follow their own format when it comes to weddings and therefore, you won't have the option of writing your own vows. Others are more lax and will give you the opportunity. Be sure to check with clergy before making the decision to write your own wedding vows. 

* Naturally, if your wedding is held off hallowed ground, there will be no restrictions on your wedding vows. You may write your own, if you wish.

If you're the nervous type, I don't advise writing your own wedding vows.
If you're the nervous type, I don't advise writing your own wedding vows.

How to Write Your Wedding Vows...

When writing your vows, it's important to do it together. Write what's from your hearts and make them relevant to you both, your past experience and your future together. Practice them together. Don't make them so long that you burden yourself with their memorization, which will make the vows appear stilted. And don't make them so short that they're meaningless.

NOTE: If you tend to be the nervous type, I advise against it. Weddings are stressful enough without having to memorize and speak your vows in front of friends and family. After all, you don't have the option of a TelePrompTer.


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    • Deborah McCoy profile imageAUTHOR

      Deborah McCoy 

      7 years ago from Florida

      Thank you for your comments!

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      Jesse James 

      7 years ago from Crooked Letter State

      I like this hub. I toyed with the idea of my own vows, but it's hard to say it better than the traditional way. Great hub though.

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      Sarah Carlsley 

      7 years ago from Minnesota

      I've debated the same, but I think we're going to go with traditional wedding vows. I've seen them done however, and unique wedding vows are very cute, if you can pull it off!


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