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Wedding Vows: Should You Write Your Own?
Should You Write Your Wedding Vows
Wedding vows are a once-in-a-lifetime commitment--those beautiful words that will unite a man and a woman forever in matrimony. The most famous comes from the English, Book of Common Prayer, from the sixteenth century. These words are obviously timeless!
Wilt thou have this Woman to thy wedded wife...? Wilt thou love her, comfort her, honour, and keep her in sickness and in health: and, forsaking all others, keep thee only unto her, so long as ye both shall live?
Wedding Vows: Religious Restrictions
Some religions* follow their own format when it comes to weddings and therefore, you won't have the option of writing your own vows. Others are more lax and will give you the opportunity. Be sure to check with clergy before making the decision to write your own wedding vows.
* Naturally, if your wedding is held off hallowed ground, there will be no restrictions on your wedding vows. You may write your own, if you wish.
How to Write Your Wedding Vows...
When writing your vows, it's important to do it together. Write what's from your hearts and make them relevant to you both, your past experience and your future together. Practice them together. Don't make them so long that you burden yourself with their memorization, which will make the vows appear stilted. And don't make them so short that they're meaningless.
NOTE: If you tend to be the nervous type, I advise against it. Weddings are stressful enough without having to memorize and speak your vows in front of friends and family. After all, you don't have the option of a TelePrompTer.