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Wedding traditions in my country, Pakistan

Updated on March 28, 2012
floral mehndi(hina) on bride's hands.
floral mehndi(hina) on bride's hands. | Source
bride is signing Nikkah namaa.
bride is signing Nikkah namaa. | Source
dinner after Nikkah.
dinner after Nikkah. | Source
rukhsati after Nikkah and dinner.
rukhsati after Nikkah and dinner. | Source

Wedding traditions in my country, Pakistan

Wedding ceremony in Pakistan is full of striking, sensational and eye-catching traditions. It continues for several days. Normally, arrange marriages are in practice but love marriages are also becoming acceptable. Pakistan has vast variety of cultures and traditions, which varies town to town. Here I am trying to elucidate some common traditions being practice in wedding ceremonies in Pakistan.

Engagement

Everybody is familiar with term engagement, as it’s the exchange of rings between would be husband and wife. This is stated as Mangni in Pakistan. This ceremony has also some unique traditions to be followed here in Pakistan. It is a small ceremony. The families of both, would be bride and groom, get together at same place, mother or sister of would be bride, places the ring on would be groom’s finger and mother or sister of would be groom, places ring on would be bride’s finger. Then, they are bestowed with gifts and blessing. After that wedding date is decided.

Mayun

This a tradition in which bride goes into the state of solitude. She is not allowed to see his would be husband until the wedding. Same is for groom. Some, rituals and traditions of prettifications of bride get started. The mother, sisters and cousins of groom bring Ubtan, which is a paste of turmeric powder, sandalwood powder and aromatic oil, for bride in a decorated tray. They rub it on the face and hands of bride. Similarly, bride’s mother, sisters and cousins bring Ubtan for groom and rub it to his face and hands. While performing this ritual, some traditional songs are sung. This continues for eight to fifteen days till wedding.

Mehndi or Rasm-e-Hina

This tradition is stated as both, Mehndi or Rasm-e-Hina. It takes place just a day before wedding. Bride wears yellow dress and floral ornaments. Mother, sisters and cousins of groom bring mehndi(hina) for bride. It is applied in beautiful floral way on her hands, sometimes, groom name is also written in her hand by Mehndi. In some parts of Pakistan, mehndi tradition is carried out for groom also. But mehndi is not applied on his hands. Dinner is served after that.

Barat

Barat is the tradition of groom, taking his way to bride’s home, to bring her to his home and life. Traditionally, groom used to sit on a decorated horse, but now this tradition has been replaced by a decorated car. The whole family, relatives and friends of groom accompany groom in this beautiful journey of his life. Bride’s family welcome barat by throwing flowers on them, usually rose petals are used.

Nikkah

Nikkah is the legal bounding between the bride and groom. Traditionally this ceremony of wedding takes place after the arrival of barat, but now a day’s nikkah is held before barat. Islamic Imam, called as moulana saab, recites some verses from Qura’n and performs the Ijab-o-Qabool, which is proposal and acceptance. Moulana saab and witnesses goes to bride, who sits in a separate room along with her female family members and friends, read nikkah namaa(a legal document) to her, she accepts nikkah by saying “qabool hai” and signs the nikkah namaa. Same process is performed with groom. Fathers of bride and groom act as witnesses (walis). Alongwith bride and groom, witnesses and moulana saab also sign the nikkah namaa. An amount of meher is written on nikkah namaa by mutuall agreement of both the families; this amount is due on groom to pay his bride. This is an Islamic compulsion on groom and considered to be a financial security for bride. After nikkah, dinner is served to theguests by bride’s family.

Rukhsati

After nikkah and dinner, groom and his family leave with bride. This tradition is called Rukhsati. Usually, this is the most emotional moment as bride says goodbye to her parents, brothers and sisters. At the time of departure, eyes of bride and her family becomes wet with emotions, traditional emotional songs are played.

Walima

This is last and compulsory ceremony of Pakistani (Islamic) wedding. Groom and his family throw a dinner party to all relatives and friends as an announcement of his wedding. This is a grand reception. Usually, walima is performed the next day of rukhsati but sometimes it is held after few days. After walima bride and groom leave for honeymoon.



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      HubTub 5 years ago

      Very well written and interesting hub, uzma. I had no idea there were so many different traditions for weddings in Pakistan, nor did I realize the elaborate ceremonies that take place. Thank you for educating me! Voted up and SHARING!

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      LaThing 5 years ago from From a World Within, USA

      Very interesting hub. Wedding seems like a long process, but looks colorful.....

      Thanks for sharing with us, and welcome to hubpages.

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      Uzma Shaheen Bhatti 5 years ago from Lahore,Pakistan

      @HubTub: thank you very much for stopping by, reading and providing me with your feed back.I am glad that by my hub you came to know some new things. thanks again for voting up and sharing.

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      Uzma Shaheen Bhatti 5 years ago from Lahore,Pakistan

      @LaThing: thank you, i am glad that you find my hub interesting. yes, in Pakistan wedding is a long process. there are some more traditions which varies town to town or family to family, but I tried to mention here some common ones.

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      HubTub 5 years ago

      You are welcome. Keep up the great work!

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      Uzma Shaheen Bhatti 5 years ago from Lahore,Pakistan

      thank you HubTub.

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      Kimberly Lake 5 years ago from California

      This is a beautiful ceremony. This hub is well written. I love the pics. Voted up and shared

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      Uzma Shaheen Bhatti 5 years ago from Lahore,Pakistan

      @KimberlyLake: thank you very much for stopping by and providing me with your feecback. i am glad you liked it.thanks again for voting up and sharing.

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      Sheila Brown 5 years ago from Southern Oklahoma

      Very interesting and beautiful hub. I enjoy learning about different cultures and your is beautiful. Thank you for sharing this with us. Voted up and interesting. Have a beautiful day! :) Welcome to HubPages!

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      Uzma Shaheen Bhatti 5 years ago from Lahore,Pakistan

      @sgbrown: thank you very much for appreciating my hub and my culture. your feedback is very valuable for me. thanks again.

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      Syed Hunbbel Meer 5 years ago from Karachi, Pakistan.

      No doubt that a wedding ceremony in our country is one of the most beautiful and colourful events. However, I do feel sometimes that many a times, the futile and somewhat exaggerated expenses should be limited only to the ones, who can really afford that, and should not be overwhelmed over everyone.

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      Uzma Shaheen Bhatti 5 years ago from Lahore,Pakistan

      @Hunbbel Meer: I agree with your point that exaggerated expanses should be limited only to those who can afford it, but that is hard thing to do, as the common practiced traditions become compulsions some times. I have a plan to write on this aspect also. thank you very much for stopping by and providing me with your valuable opinion.

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      Freya Cesare 5 years ago from Borneo Island, Indonesia

      I am agree with Hunbbel Meer. Indonesia also have custom to exaggerated expenses in marriage ceremony and party which in my opinion is not necessary. But it is hard to change tradition.

      Vote up! ^_^

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      Uzma Shaheen Bhatti 5 years ago from Lahore,Pakistan

      Freya cesare,I am totally agree with you,here in pakistan marriage has become very expansive ceremony especially for women,because women has to give dowry to her husband.there are many people who are raising voices against these extra expensive traditions but,you are right, its very hard to change the traditions.

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      Suhail Zubaid aka Clark Kent 5 years ago from Mississauga, ON

      How did I miss reading this awesome hub? Simply wow!

      I was talking to my wife ysterday about the wedding traditions of Pakistan. Of all the things from our country of origin, we miss wedding ceremonies the most.

      Although the expenditures are sky rocketing, I believe that these functions stimulate demand, growth and therefore, the economy on the whole. There are a number of people who benefit economically from wedding functions. Just think of the list of lightmen, cooks, waiters, tailors, decorators, garland makers, henna / mehndi makers, other manufactureres and service providers, so on and so forth. I personally believe that weddings are one event where we should tolerate expenses.

      Again, a very nice hub, sending me down the Memory Lane.

      Voted up!

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      Uzma Shaheen Bhatti 5 years ago from Lahore,Pakistan

      sohail, again you provided me your beautiful feedback. i am really very thankfull. yes people living abroad miss our traditional ceremonies, I can understand your feeling.you are right from these ceremonies there are many people who get benefits, but i am personally very against towards dowry traditions. sometimes grooms family demends very high dowries that bride's family could not affoard it and these traditions must not be practice as compulsion but it should remain to personal choice of those people,who can affoard it.

      thank you again for stopping by and giving me your feedback.

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      Nell Rose 4 years ago from England

      Hi, this was a fascinating look into the marriage, I love learning about other cultures so this was great, thanks nell

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      Uzma Shaheen Bhatti 4 years ago from Lahore,Pakistan

      @Nell Rose: thank you very much for stopping by and your feedback.I also love knowing other cultures,such things can bring people closer.

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      Rabia Saif 4 years ago from Multan, Pakistan

      In answer to it soon I will be here with the hub 'Marriage Traditions in Islam' :P

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      Uzma Shaheen Bhatti 4 years ago from Lahore,Pakistan

      @Rabis Khitran: I think that's a great Idea. you must write about marriage traditions in islam.I am looking forward to that.

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      Mohammad.Wasim 4 years ago

      Islamic tradition is quite different of marriage.

      Actually Pakistan has no own marriage tradition. The existing tradition imported from India. It is a combination of Hindu culture. It is quite obvious that Pakistani do not like Islamic way of weddings. Pakistani never follow his religious book. It is only to show and keeping in house for deceiving God.

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      Rabia Saif 4 years ago from Multan, Pakistan

      @ Mohammad.Wasim

      exceptions are always there. yeah unfortunately this is the case with most of the people but still there are true lovers of Almighty Allah and the Islamic teachings. My elder sis got married according to the exact way presented by Sunnah. Apart from my family I witness many other families adopting the Sunnah way of marriage. What we need is only to propagate Islamic teachings. It is our utmost duty to urge love for Islam in people and not to spread disappointment. May Allah show us the straight path. Ameen

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      Uzma Shaheen Bhatti 4 years ago from Lahore,Pakistan

      @muhammad wasim: to some extent you are right, but as Rabia said exceptions are always there.in pakistan there are both types of people, one who love their deen and ALLAH and follow it, other are those who are far from their deen and ALLAH.

      thank you for stopping by and sharing your views.

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      Uzma Shaheen Bhatti 4 years ago from Lahore,Pakistan

      @Rabia Khitran: I totally agree with your viewpoint. thank you again for providing me your valuable comment.

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      Tammy 4 years ago from North Carolina

      Weddings in Pakistan are beautiful and lavish. The traditions in your country are similar to ours on some levels. This is a wonderful look into your culture.

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      Becky Bruce 4 years ago from San Diego, CA

      Thank you! I love learning about other cultures first hand! So interesting but the Rukhsati seems like such a sad part because there is so much more focus on it then in American weddings where the handing-over of the bride is more public and ceremonially. Or at least that's what it seems to me.

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      Uzma Shaheen Bhatti 4 years ago from Lahore,Pakistan

      @tammyswallow: Thank you tammy for having a look into my culture and appreciating it. it is colorful but also lavish. I would also love to know the similarities of your culture to ours.thanks again for stopping by and commenting.

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      Uzma Shaheen Bhatti 4 years ago from Lahore,Pakistan

      @tammyswallow: Thank you tammy for having a look into my culture and appreciating it. it is colorful but also lavish. I would also love to know the similarities of your culture to ours.thanks again for stopping by and commenting.

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      Uzma Shaheen Bhatti 4 years ago from Lahore,Pakistan

      @Becky Bruce: Rujhsati is an emotional and sad part. you know, whenever we attend any wedding my mother used to weap also with the bride's family. she is so emotional and soft hearted.

      thank you very much for stopping by and providing me your valuable feedback.

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      Aoun Muhammad 2 years ago

      You have helped me to do my school's assessment

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      sunitasri 2 years ago

      Nice hub. It is very interesting.

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