- Gender and Relationships
Weddings - Texas Style
The Happy Couple
Love and Marriage
First comes love, then comes marriage, at least for some who hold traditional views. What about the wedding planning? How does a couple go about choosing a venue to hold an event that will likely impact the rest of their lives? The answer: with a good deal of care.
“For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.”— Genesis 2:24
The Flower Girl
Decisions and choices begin almost immediately following the moment that starry-eyed man gets down on one knee and proposes marriage to his beloved. Finding a convenient and beautiful location where one's friends can gather and celebrate this perfect day can be a challenge.
Where to Sit?
The question that comes up for wedding guests surrounds the issue on where to sit. Traditionally, there was one side for the bride and one for the groom. But where does one sit when they are friends of both?
At this modern wedding, the dilemma was resolved by a simple chalkboard sign that read, "Whether you're here for the groom or bride, select a seat on either side. We're all friends here."
That worked out splendidly as one side of the seating was basked in direct sunlight and the other side offered the comfort of shade. Despite the cool temperatures in the sixties, the atmosphere was pleasant.
Love and Marriage
The second principle of marriage is love, not merely the romantic kind, but the everlasting love that seeks the protection and best interests of someone else.
Here Comes the Bride
The Walk Down the Aisle
Who will walk the bride down the aisle? Sometimes it may be necessary to find an alternative to the traditional walk down the aisle. In this case, the bride's father was officiating the ceremony. It wasn't practical to have him walk her down the aisle as well, so her sister and best friend did the honors.
A Thousand Years - Christina Perri
Choosing the Music
Traditional songs may take a backseat to the modern music that is played at today's weddings. Certain favorites will always be welcomed when the audience is mixed between the young and the mature set. The proficient disc jockey will create a combination of just the right balance.
For added confidence, have a backup plan to provide music for this special occasion. Whether it's compact discs or a live band, the music sets the tone and keeps the audience enthusiastic as well as provides for a memorable experience.
In the case of one unfortunate couple, the disc jockey bailed out of his responsibilities two days before the wedding, leaving the couple to scramble for a replacement. He also disappeared with the prepaid funds. Be sure to choose a reputable professional when it comes to music and check their references.
You May Not Want The Sound of Silence - Simon and Garfunkel
The traditional wedding vows we know today have roots in the Anglican Church, under the rule of King Henry VIII. It was then that he approved the vows found in what is known as the Common Book of Prayer, published in 1549.1
I take you to be my wife/husband and my spouse and I pledge to you the faith of my body, that I will be faithful to you and loyal with my body and my goods and that I will keep you in sickness and in health and in whatever condition it will please the Lord to place you, and that I shall not exchange you for better or worse until the end.”— Traditional Christian Vows
At one wedding, the bride was disappointed when the printed copy of her wedding vows couldn't be found. The minister advised her to speak her vows from her heart. At this time of physical and mental stress, a back-up plan could prove valuable.
Sometimes an Uninvited Guest Shows Up at Weddings
A New Twist
The minister surprised the audience with a twist to the standard question, "If anyone can show just cause why this couple cannot lawfully be joined together in matrimony, let them speak now or forever hold their peace". Instead, he asked the guests if everyone approved of the marriage.
Outdoor wedding in Ancient Times
To love and to cherish, from this day forward."
Adequate parking and a convenient drop-off at the door is important in order to preserve the fancy high heels and hairdos of those in attendance.
The location for this wedding was rural, quiet and beautiful. There was a large ballroom that would serve as a contingent if the weather didn't cooperate.
Out in the Country
Hidden Springs Events
The Weatherman Isn't Always Right
Planning a wedding outdoors is fraught with uncertainty. After all those months of detailed planning, no one wants their special day ruined with a turn of bad weather.
For this November bride, the day could not have been more perfect. Had the ceremony been held one day earlier, they would have been soaking wet in a downpour of the unpredictable Texas weather.
For that reason, always have a Plan B when it comes to an outdoor wedding.
Rustic, elegant event venues
To Dance or Not to Dance - That is the Question
There seems to be enough pressure on the bride and groom, with all the planning, coordination and expense that goes into a wedding ceremony, without adding a dance routine to the mix. In the wedding footage of the following video, the couple performs like Fred Astaire and Ginger Rogers.
Some Couples Choose to Dance Down the Aisle
Entertaining the Guests
The wedding reception not only had a DJ and the current music playing, the hosts provided a photo booth where guests could get their pictures taken. A choice of unusual hats and various props gave comic relief after the ceremony.
A barbecue buffet dinner was catered which included lemonade and iced tea. There was an open bar for wine and mixed drinks along with popcorn snacks and sweets for the guests.
The wedding this weekend was a great success and a whole lot of fun. Everything went off without a hitch, that is, except for the young married couple who were there for that exact reason.
The Reception Faciity
Planning for Success
Successful entertaining takes a good deal of planning, significant expense and time. The young couple pictured here sent out invitations six months in advance. They set up a web site for updates and communication, and arranged for donations and gifts to be made directly to their favorite stores. The wedding planner did a great job finding a professional photographer who was both personable and talented.
A good time was had by all.
© 2015 Peg Cole