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What A Man Wants From His Woman
A good man is hard to find
It's true. A good man is hard to find. There are plenty of scoundrels, scamps and players out there. In fact, some men feel it is a challenge to be scandalous and behave like the whores they accuse women of being.
Not all men fall into this category. A lot of good men are looking for a good woman to walk beside them. It may take some time, but if you maintain your own integrity, communicate clearly and honestly, and speak your truth, you might find a good man.
When you find a good man, how do you keep him happy? The following tips will help you keep a good man once you have found him.
Men Want Respect
Show Some Respect
Here are some simple things you can do to show your respect:
1. Stop talking and listen.
2. When your partner talks to you, put down your phone and look directly at him.
3. Ask questions, but don't interrupt.
4. Look for ways to encourage and edify him.
5. When he screws up, resist the temptation to say, "I told you so."
6. Speak well of him.
7. Don't take everything personally.
8. Compliment him and thank him for things he does well.
9. Don't get into texting or email arguments when he is at work.
10. Tell him you respect him, and give a concrete example of why.
You might be surprised to learn that the most important thing to the man in your life is respect.
Men want to be respected by their wives, by their children, by their coworkers, by their bosses. It is a part of who they are. Men need respect to feel like they are doing what they are called to do.
Respecting your man doesn't mean you blindly follow him. It means you ask for his opinion. You listen to his advice, whether you plan to take it or not. You let him talk without constantly interrupting. Tell him you appreciate the hard work he does, and his dedication to you, your family and his work. Let him know that you admire him.
Respect speaks directly to your man. Speaking his language will help bring the two of you closer together.
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His Biggest Cheerleader
You can be your man's biggest ally, his most ardent supporter and most vocal cheerleader. He wants you to be impressed, whether it's with his business acumen or his tough workout regime.
He wants you to notice what he does and encourage him. He wants to know that you notice him and support him. When you let your man know that you believe in him then you strengthen his spirit to keep going.
To be his cheerleader, thank him for working hard. Tell him you admire his dedication and devotion, not only to you, but to other areas of his life. You will lift his spirits and he will feel even more connected to you.
Smile and tell him you love and admire him. Thank him for supporting and defending the family. Speak encouraging words that uplift and inspire him to do his best for you. When he knows he has your support, your husband would swim shark-infested waters for you.
The way you speak matters
Follow the leader
The man in your life wants to lead. And he wants you to allow him the authority and responsibility to lead effectively.
He doesn't want to feel undermined and sabotaged. What he wants is a woman who will listen and who will lean on him for support. Men have a strong desire to lead both in the family and in the workplace.
You don't have to follow blindly like a lamb being led to slaughter, but don't belittle him or argue with him publicly. Honor his leadership and respect his authority by praising his good decisions and graciously making space when he makes bad decisions.
Someone has to be in charge in a relationship, and with the authority comes great responsibility. Allow him to lead and give him the authority to make decisions. This doesn't mean you become a doormat, but rather you choose to let him lead.
It takes great courage and strength to allow someone else to be in charge, and your man will blossom when you give him this gift.
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Do you respect the man you are with?
Sharing his wisdom
He likes it when you ask for his advice. He likes to problem solve and conflict resolve. If you'd like to make your man feel important and necessary in your life, ask his opinion. Ask for his help. Tell him you need some insight or inspiration.
Now, once you have asked, let the man talk. Listen to what he says, whether you plan to follow his advice or not. You don't have to do exactly what he says, but respect the fact that he may see things differently than you do, and he may have some insight into a problem that you have missed. Be open to the idea that his idea might just work.
Your man wants to know that you value his wisdom and insight. There is a reason that men and women are different, and asking his opinion will let him know that you value and trust him.
To be a friend to your man, try the following activities:
1. Go for a bike ride, a walk or a run. Enjoy the outdoors together.
2. Learn and participate in a hobby that he enjoys.
3. Be quiet. You don't have to fill the air with words.
4. Watch football.
5. Spend time next to him, doing whatever he likes.
Your man wants to be your friend. Women tend to mistake the male idea of friendship for the female version of friendship.
He doesn't need to talk all the time, in order to build and strengthen your relationship. In fact, all your talking serves to distract and annoy him. What your man wants is you. Sitting there next to him. He wants to hang out. He wants to know that you like him.
When you spend time with your man, don't talk. There is no need to fill the air with words, and in many cases, this is counterproductive. He wants to be with you, but men don't need to talk all the time to enjoy themselves. He wants your companionship and your company. Let him know that you like him by showing up, spending time and not talking.
The Married Girls Guide to Great Sex
This Book Might Offer Some Insight
The Married Girls Guide to Great Sex is a must read for any woman considering marriage to her man. It details how to stay friends with your partner, and how to continue appreciating him through all the trials and errors of being married. It's not just about sex. The title is a misnomer. It's a catchy title for a very important message.This book is really a marriage guide, that could help you fall in love with your man, all over again.
How To Communicate in Marriage
Love & Respect is a great tool for men and women. It outlines why women should respect their partners, and why men should love their wives. Women are naturals when it comes to being loving, and men thrive on respect. When we get into relationships with each other, then we have to learn new ways of communicating.
The book explains that neither communication style is wrong, but men and women are just different. It can definitely help any marriage.
Books that can help your relationship
Yes, your man wants sex. But it is not the most important thing in your relationship, believe it or not. After you begin meeting his physical needs for intimacy, he will become more responsive to meeting your emotional needs.
Sex is not your man's number one need. It is symbolic of his deep need for your respect. Respect is his deepest need, and part of respecting your man is being physically intimate.
Men and women view sex and physical intimacy differently. Men are primarily visual creatures. They love to look at the beautiful female form. Give him the gift of seeing you naked, and you fulfill that basic need.
Besides being visual, men need physical release. It is biological. They crave that contact and release in the same way that a woman craves emotional closeness. When you meet your man's physical needs, he will open up to you emotionally.