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Biggest Regrets

Updated on October 17, 2017
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Devika enjoys sharing her work with a friendly community. Writing is a big part of her life. Online work has improved her lifestyle.

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Fake People and Regrets

Fake people think different and feel good about themselves too.

It is difficult to live with certain people, and that one has to put up with, my biggest regret is meeting fake people.

Sometimes such people are just cruel in their thoughts and this can make one feel disappointed.

I regret being with fake people, I met them a while ago and somehow couldn't see them for who they really were,until I discovered their true personalities in other occasions.

They covered their false lives so well. Each time when invited to their home I felt the uneasiness thinking not much of it after all they were friendly in the beginning of our meeting.

Believe it or not, I still continued hoping things would get better, or change and that we could all be good friends and family together.

· Friendships are made, and broken, built, and rebuilt, no matter which way you see it, something has to come of it.

When I first met the family I was not sure of how to present myself in their presence. After all these years nothing has changed.

I saw many different people and had noticed something about their behaviors.

They were not as social with us in the presence of others.

Their friendliness pops up when not in the presence of others. I finally, I saw them for who they really are, just fake people in my eyes.

· Why do I think they are Fake?

· For example:

A couple who have an almost three month old baby and had the baby Christened on one Sunday. It was a family affair.

They didn't invite the closest of family to the main event, had asked them to stop by much later in the afternoon for a sweet treat and a drink. They had invited neighbors to the event.

This to me was a very inconsiderate decision. It was rather disappointing for the family not invited.

A big regret for me meeting that kind of people, exactly how life is, with family or friends often there are the misunderstanding moments.

I am grateful for having a friend whom I can speak to about such situations and someone who understands my thoughts.

She advised along the way as I have made my new life in a foreign country.

· What are your biggest regrets?

I have never regretted anything in my life and lately had discovered my biggest regret which is meeting FAKE people. The saddest part, they are part of somebody's family.

The big hugs and kisses can be so not real, and when you realize it is all fake, moments like these can make you see things differently, get those kind of people of your list.

Other regrets one can have is not spending time with family and close friends.

Most individuals regret not standing up for themselves when they were younger. Confronting their issues with bullies which they had to live on with for years on.

Losing good friends from your school years, and the people who you grow up with and move away can also be regrets at times.

The lack of communication loses that friendship you wish could be present again.

Relationships can be among the biggest regrets, when breaking up with your one and only, this can have greater effects on one's mind. The memories linger on.

If you always bother about what others are gossiping about you it can hold you back from doing many good things in life. A regret many people have and don't admit it.

Lack of confidence makes one think less about them, in the process they are not secure in making decisions or speaking up.

You have to follow your dreams. If your parents want you to fulfill their dreams instead of yours is another regret that can make you feel disappointed later in life.

Living constantly in different places, can make many changes in your life. That too can leave you with regret.

Life has many challenges sometimes you can regret not going further in your goals, such as in your daily activities. The individual can feel fear and fail in thinking about targeting their goals.

You wish things could have changed like something about you could have changed to save your marriage. In many cases, marriages can be saved but wrong decisions make it fail faster.

· If only you could turn back time?

Parenting is tough time spent with your child flies by fast, but you wish time could be spared even more.

Forgiving others is it family or friends, or moving on can be difficult. Some kind of regrets doesn’t go away.

· Do you regret not asking your school mate out on a date?

When you were younger friends weren't as impressive. They talked you into mischievous stuff and you off-course went along with it and now wish you hadn't.

You dropped out of college and now without the degree you always thought of and wanted. It can make you feel deep regret not having that paper of education in your hand.

Love the job you have, choosing a job you don't like will forever make you unhappy.

Ignoring your health when you should have taken more notice of what was going on.

In failure to speak up when you had the chance at a function or in not attending an event of your friend from school days.

Learning a new language, if you wanted to, and meeting new people while free and single, not enjoying your single life can make one think all sorts, especially, after marriage.

· Do you wish your parenting skills were improved?

Most people experience such regrets, and the problem is saying goodbye to someone for the last time when it mostly hurts. If someone you love is dying, and all regrets come flooding in your mind. You may not know what to do or say.

If you are really sorry about your past mistakes and don't want anyone close to you to make the same mistakes talk to them about it allow a clear understanding about life.

You can be there for them to solve their issues.

Sharing your thoughts about regrets on paper can be the most relieving process, let out your feelings and feel better from the inside.

You learn from your mistakes and also make new mistakes, and regrets are held onto for many years.

Live life in the present and not in the past.

Do not hold onto regrets, not everything can be changed.

Sometimes you can be harder on yourself than on others.

Just about everyone has skeletons in their closets so you are not the only with a deep regret.

All learning lessons and the many mistakes can open ones mind to further learning. Fake people can be rude, disrespectful and so merciless. They can make one feel less confident and down about them.

Such people don't care of how others feel and often leave them out of their conversations or special events. The types who won't accept you in their lives.

· How can you change your life to avoid such regrets?

Fake people invite certain guests to their functions in order to benefit from them.

· For example:

Some traditions are rich in thought about receiving cash and expensive gifts from their guests when invited to events.

They tend to be friendly with families and friends who are known to have good careers and who have good bank balances.

It is not worthy of your time to be with such people and feel you liked by them when you are not. Deep down they don't care about you.

Such kind of people will often come by and have pampering moments only to get something from you.

Over time, I have come across many people but the FAKE people disgust me the most they are merciless and most selfish.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hello fpherj48 thank you for the vote up and so kind of you to stop by here take care now.

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      Paula 3 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

      Devika.....I thoroughly enjoyed this hub and can understand what you are expressing here. It is rarely easy to immediately see the true nature of someone we have recently met. There's an environment of being disingenuous and putting on airs for the sake of impression.

      It is often disappointing when we begin to see the authentic nature of some individuals. We sometimes feel as though it is our shortcoming that we didn't pick up on the fake and fraudulent behavior of others.

      In truth, all we are responsible for is to be true to ourselves and accept people at face value, without pre-judging. If they ultimately prove that they do not deserve our friendship and trust, this is a fault of their very own.

      Very interesting thoughts here, Devika......Up+++

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Marlene you are so right about certain opportunities and regrets along with it thank you very much for showing up here.

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      Marlene Bertrand 3 years ago from Northern California, USA

      I must be getting old, because I am starting to look back at my life and think about all the missed opportunities. I'm happy where I am right now, but I do regret not taking advantage of some of the opportunities that presented themselves throughout my life.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      misslong123 one has to move on to make peace with oneself. thank you

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      Michele Kelsey 3 years ago from Edmond, Oklahoma

      Sometimes I dwell too much on my regrets. There aren't things in my past that I can do anything about now, except make improvements in my current life. This is something I have to face and accept. At times, it is difficult to move on from your past though.

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      Ausseye 4 years ago

      Hi DDE,

      Just a silly take on fake in song that comes from a genuine songster who is no longer but while here he said a lot much like your hub:

      http://www.youtube.com/watch?NR=1&v=EMz2EyNvdf...

      just how fake can you get in close contact is the real question...puppet's all stringing us along. Love your hub by the way..or am I faking it??

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      Devika Primić 4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Ausseye great comment from you and so true no matter what we do to escape the fake people it is not possible, thanks fro commenting

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      Ausseye 4 years ago

      Hi DDE

      Love the nature of your poetic thought and boot it up.

      But escaping fake people is impossible as we are all

      Subjects of some political scum who is fake, fake and more fake

      So if we can’t get them out of politics how can we get them out of our lives.

      To dream the impossible dream is an ultimate denial

      Of how much fake there is around us

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      Devika Primić 4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Yeah so true lovedoctor926 and thanks for taking the time to stop by

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      lovedoctor926 4 years ago

      Great hub. I have a radar for fake people. I can spot them from a mile away and try to keep my distance as much as possible. Takers and users, but they never give back. Some people never cease to amaze me. They use you for rides, when they don't have any money and never pay you back. You can never count on these types of people for nothing. As far as regrets, I don't have any. Just lessons learned. Be careful who you trust that's all.

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      Devika Primić 4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      thumbi7 thanks for stopping by and commenting on my hub Biggest Regrets, have a good weekend

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      JR Krishna 4 years ago from India

      It is not comfortable to be around fake people.

      Lack of genuineness just repels

      A thought provoking article. Voted up

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      Devika Primić 4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Social-eyes thanks information such as this opens the mind to many avenues.

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      Social-eyes 4 years ago

      Thank you.

      Topics like these help to excavate the soul (chuckle)

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      Devika Primić 4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      A very interesting comment, and so agree with you on FAKE people, sometimes certain people can be ruthless, you have shared such an enlightening insight to this topic glad you stopped thanks for sharing your opinions.

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      Social-eyes 4 years ago

      I categorize Fake people as plain and simple hypocrites , insecure individuals and/or Users. Those who feel they have to and do pretend they like those who come into their sphere, in order to stay close to "what's happening" ; those who pretend to like others they know can be useful to them; those who are insecure and still trying to find themselves and lastly those who genuinely like the other and tries to prevent both their discomfort inviting them to only certain events e.g. not everyone is into Art so that individual would not be invited to a theatre event or Art show.

      Addressing the "excluded family", I see this as a case of being ashamed of family either because they do not portray who you are or are so on the fringe of having acceptable behavior that it requires their exclusion from social events.

      Regarding regrets, as the song says , I have a few.....but realize that though the present sits on the past there are still some dreams that can be revamped and for those that cannot I take any lessons there may be that I can take forward.

      My regrets symbolize my self-betrayal and requires my forgiveness, if not I get stuck in a negative place

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      Devika Primić 4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      zanaworld sometimes we have or don't have regrets and depending on who you choose to be with thanks for commenting

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      Devika Primić 4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      rajan jolly so true, regrets sometimes makes one feel disappointed and think of many issues thanks for the votes up.

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      SA Shameel 4 years ago from Bangalore

      During an interview for a job, I was asked this question - Do you have any regrets in life.

      As such I don't have regrets in life. Currently trying list all my regrets. This hub is handy to find out regrets of life.

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      Rajan Singh Jolly 4 years ago from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar,INDIA.

      Fake people have no place in my life. I've moved away from them and accomplishments have always been more than my regrets, much more.

      Voted up.

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      Devika Primić 4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Mhatter99 yeah great words here, thanks

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      Devika Primić 4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      SEEMA AQUA definitely some food for thought here thanks

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      Devika Primić 4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      kashmir56 I so agree with I have done the same got rid of fake people and feel so much better

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      Devika Primić 4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      billybuc you are so right about genuine beings thanks for sharing a comment

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      Martin Kloess 4 years ago from San Francisco

      I have wondered about my regrets. But then I look at what I have accomplished.

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      SEEMA AQUA 4 years ago

      great sharing absolutely write

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      Thomas Silvia 4 years ago from Massachusetts

      Great write, i no longer have fake friends within my life any more, i cleaned house of them long ago. I now have great friends who make my life awesome as i do their's . We enchant each others life in our daily encounters and in doing so share a very awesome and very special friendship .

      Vote up and more !!!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      I'm at a point in my life where I do not have regrets. I find them to be a waste of my time and efforts. I do not have fake people in my life. I surround myself with genuine human beings who care about others and are committed to finding a better way to live.

      Great food for thought my friend.