- Gender and Relationships
What Are the Differences Between a Man and a Woman?
Human beings consist of male and female entity. There are different opinions about what constitute a man and a woman. Some say man and woman are two distinct individuals, whereas others say they are same. From spiritualists to psychologists, everyone emphasize that there is the presence of male entity in every female and female entity in every male. Psychologist Carl Jung called this Anima-Animus, Taoist in China called Yin-Yang and the Hindus called Prakriti-Purusha.
The human brain has two parts.
Left brain thinks, there is mathematics, logic, rules.
In the Right brain there is feeling, it understands art. Logic does not affect the right part.
Women are governed from the right brain. Men are governed by the left brain.
The process of thinking is different in men and women because they are governed by different brains. Men and women feel differently, think differently, understand differently, handle problems differently, prioritize things differently, and experience differently because they are ruled by different parts of the brain.
Is the difference between men and women just biological?
It is true that men and women are attracted to each other because of the biological and psychological differences. (Remember the nature law: unlike poles attracts, like poles repels.) However, it is also true that the differences usually lead to a bitter relationship. Relationship between a man and woman often fails because women expect men to think and act as women, and men expect women to think and act as men. If men and women understand the differences, they will not only learn to tolerate the opposite sex, but also build a cordial relationship.
Even though people understand the biological differences between a man and a woman, most of them are not familiar with the psychological differences. Man and a woman’s body function in a different way, so does the mind. Men and women use different parts of the brain to understand and process information. It is often said that female brain multi-tasks where are men think about one thing at a time.
Behavioural and psychological studies on men and women suggest that women want men who are strong and assertive, and can provide emotional and financial security; and men want young and healthy women who are able to reproduce. Men seek good health and youth in women, whereas women look for men with high social status, men having sociable and approachable characters.
Studies on human brain suggest that male and female brain have different capacity to handle communication. Men underperform in conversation skills, women listen and talk better. Compared to men, women have better memories and they can understand facial expressions and body language more skilfully than men can.
The differences between men and women are social constructions, which are natural and cannot be escaped.
Difference between a Man and a Woman According to the Jungian Analytic Psychology
According to Carl Jung, every male has female element inside him and every female has male element inside her. The male element of a person’s character is called Animus and the female element of a person’s character is Anima. The Anima is the archetypal feminine symbolism within a man's unconscious and the Animus is the archetypal masculine symbolism within a woman's unconscious.
Anima and Animus are not sex-linked characteristics but more of symbolic masculine and feminine expressions. Masculine qualities in an individual are related to assertiveness; whereas the feminine attributes are related to emotions.
In Jungian psychology, Anima and Animus are two archetypes that help a person to balance the character. The Anima personifies feminine psychological tendencies within a man, and the Animus personifies masculine psychological tendencies within a woman. The Anima and Animus are powered by the collective unconscious and conditioned by the individual’s experiences.
The main difference between a man and a woman is
Difference between a Man and a Woman According to the Hindu Overview
According to the Hindu worldview, there are two basic elements in the world: Prakriti and Purusha. Prakriti is the feminine entity and Purusha is masculine entity. Prakriti and Purusha both are present in man and woman but in different proportion. The one who is dominated by Purusha element is man and the one who is dominated by Prakriti is woman. Not only the mortals, but immortals also consist of Prakriti and Purusha. Goddesses are the supreme embodiment of Prakriti and Gods are absolute symbol of Purusha. The basic difference between a man and woman, according to the Hindu Worldview, is the proportion of Prakriti and Purusha. Man is distant representative of Prakriti and close representative of Purusha, whereas woman is close representative of Prakriti and distant representative of Purusha. Interaction between Prakriti and Purusha keeps the world in equilibrium.
Difference between a Man and a Woman According to the Chinese Cosmology
Yin and Yang
Yin is female and Yang is male principle in Taoist (Daoist) worldview. Yin and Yang represents dualities of the nature and are two parts of the whole. According to Yin and Yang theory, male and female, light and dark, hot and cold, life and death etc. are not opposing forces but complementary entities. Male does not exist without female, light cannot exist without darkness, that’s why Yin and Yang maintains the harmony of the universe. In the Chinese dualistic cosmology, Yin is the dark negative feminine principle and Yang is the bright positive masculine principle.
The Taijitu represents the principle of Yin and Yang, which is one of the oldest and best-known life symbols in the world. The Taijitu is usually interpreted in gender perspective. They are two opposite but complementary poles of existence. The male principle or Yang embodies the qualities of the sun (active, bright, and shining), whereas Yin, the female principle, symbolizes the moon (passive, shaded and reflective). Yin and Yang are depicted as black half and white half in a circle. The white Yang moves and blends into the black Yin. The light in Yang merges with darkness in Yin. Yin and Yang contain the seed of another principle, that’s why there is a white spot in Yin and black spot in Yang. The flow of Yin and Yang represents phenomena of life and the process of the universe.
In Taoism, dual distinctions such as good-bad, love-hate are not real but just the by-product of moral judgments.
Books by Alan Pease and Barbara Pease
Books on Difference between a Man and a Woman
Why Men Don't Listen and Women Can't Read Maps by Alan Pease and Barbara Pease
Allan Pease and Barbara Pease are internationally renowned relationship experts. They give personal relationship advice through books, TV programs and seminars. Why Men Don't Listen And Women Can't Read Maps by Alan Pease and Barbara Pease has been translated in 31 languages and over three million copies sold worldwide. In this highly successful book, the authors share their observations about men and women and their thoughts on relationship. The authors also give advice on how to manage conflict and build healthy relationship. According to the authors, men and women are same species, but live in the different world.
Why Men Lie and Women Cry by Alan Pease and Barbara Pease
Why Men Lie and Women Cry by Alan Pease and Barbara Pease is a follow up to the bestseller Why Men Don't Listen And Women Can't Read Maps by the same authors. In this book, Alan and Barbara Pease share their observations on human behavior. They evaluate men and women in psychological and behavioural point of view, and give advice on how to understand men and women better and build healthy relationship. The authors also give reference on scientific theories behind their observations. There are many punch lines in the book such as “Both the genders lie. Women lie to make others feel good. Men to make himself feel good."
Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus by John Gray
Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus is a guide to maintain a healthy relationship. If you are going through a tension period in your life, Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus is a must read book because John Gray gives time tested tips on how to reduce relationship tension and develop love. The main thesis of the book is how to understand the differences between men and women in order to solve frustration and disappointment, and create happiness and intimacy.
According to the author, men and women differ in many aspects. Men and women communicate, think, feel, perceive, react, respond, love and appreciate differently. There are so many differences between men and women that it almost “seems like they are from different planets, speaking different languages and needing different nourishment,” remarks the author.
Why Men Never Remember and Women Never Forget by Dr. Marianne J. Legato
Marianne J. Legato is a professor of clinical medicine at Columbia University. Her expertise includes the '”study of gender medicine,” based on the research conducted by scholars and scientists. Why Men Never Remember and Women Never Forget provides in-depth analysis of differences between a man and woman, and gives tips to on how to make most of the differences to build a cordial relationship.
Dr. Legato is a woman, so it is natural that she writes from feminine perspective, however, her analysis of male mind is also very appropriate. Without generalizing the entire human race, she presents her perspective in physician's point of view. She shows how the brain and the body affect the behavior, thinking process and interpersonal communications. She explains “what” the differences between a man and woman are, “why” these differences exist, and “how” these differences can be sorted out.