What Do You Do If She Turns You Down?
Putting Yourself Out There
You could be sitting there all night in a stressed out fashion wondering what she'll do when you make a move.Or, you could get brave and go for it. What do you have to lose?
If she turns you down then the next thing you want to do is make sure she sees you looking great and not paying attention to her. After a couple of times she will see you there and wonder what you're up to. If you work it you may have a chance at winning her good graces.The trick here is to somehow get in on the conversation she's involved in, providing she's in a group of people. You wouldn't want to do this if she were just talking to one other person. It would seem rude.
Getting together in groups is the best way to see and be seen. You know there are study groups, lunch groups, nightlife groups. You have to be willing to get out there and give a few things a try. Maybe you've never gone skiing, but if you do you open yourself up to a whole new group of girls. The ones that are out there staying active. What else could you want?
You can make sure you're seen at the commons on campus at certain times of the day. You can attend the theater productions and comedy presentations the other students are involved in on a regular basis.Just get out there and you'll run into her eventually. At worst, you'll never see her again and you'll end up with another great person.
This isn't to say that if she is the one, that you should stop trying. I believe if a relationship is right it will find a way of succeeding. If you know, you know. And you should never stop trying to help her see life from your perspective. Have fun yourself. Let her see you indulging in life. She'll see you're a happy guy who people like to be around. The worst thing you could do is close yourself up and never try again. That's just plain wrong. You have to love yourself and live an interesting life before anyone else can take an interest in you.
Comments
Good ideas, especially your suggestions for getting out there and meeting people. You mentioned "If she's 'the one'"....I used to believe in "the One" but I no longer believe that there is just one person out there, just for us, and we are supposed to get out there and find that person. I believe that we could have a great relationship with a variety of people at different times in our lives. Take a widower, for example. He may have a great marriage with his first wife, and after she passes away, he could remarry and have a happy marriage with his second wife.
Some relationships could be better than others, depending on the person and their maturity, shared values and life goals, personality and life style...but the idea that there is ONE person out there just for us, that we must FIND, is very limiting and could be discouraging to some.
Good counsel to keep on enjoying life. Hopefully thought, the one who got turned down will deal with her shortcomings so she'll not only be happier but also better.
