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What Ever Happened To True Love?

Updated on January 21, 2015

True love...

Those two words may be the two most over used words ever used in the English language. And what does it mean really? True love... Could it mean that it’s not false? But then what is False love? True love is just a confusing phrase over used in romantic movies and love songs. Does anyone even know the meaning? Maybe that is the problem, we don't know the meaning. Maybe that is because we don’t know how to love. Whatever happened to romance and chivalry? A man sweeping a woman off her feet with romantic gestures. Being a knight in shining armor... Romance is lost on most of the world. And that is a sad thought. Where would the world be without romance? The musicians would have nothing to sing about. Movies wouldn’t be the same. Even non romantic movies (Doesn’t the hero always get the girl in the end?) And yes Romance is linked to love. Romantic love may be the best kind of love.

So what happened to love? And I mean Real love, not sex... Yes that is a sad reality; a lot of people equate sex with love. For some people all love is, is sex. And that’s not what love really is. Love is unconditional; Love is caring for someone so much that you would do anything for that person. And to love someone is so amazing; there are no words that can describe how wonderful it is... But the sad thing is a lot of people have never experienced it and properly never will... People today are selfish and narcissistic, they only care about themselves and are unable to love another person. People love themselves so much there is no room for anybody else. People tend to play the blame game. And who is to blame is dependent on your sex; Women say men don’t know how to love. Men say women are too much work. They are too quick to pass the buck. They never stop to consider that maybe they are the problem. Maybe they are the ones incapable of love.

There are different types of love... There is the love a parent has for their kids. The love one has for a relative or friend. The love a person has for a pet. The list goes on... Some types of love you're born with, you will love your parents no matter what, the same with your relatives. But people you meet, if you love them is entirely up to you. But once you love somebody, you will always love them. It is unconditional and forever. William Shakespeare wrote a poem about true love... Sonnet 116... And in it he says, ''Love is not love that alters when alteration finds...'' In other words once you love somebody nothing can change that, not time, not circumstance. He goes on to say, ''If this be an error and upon me proved, I never writ nor no man ever loved.'' Sonnet 116 is my favorite poem and its meaning is true and beautiful. What he says is true, if your love for someone fades away, it was never love to begin with. When you love somebody, it's forever.

We all got tired of those 'Chick flicks' that was a trend in the late nineties. You know the ones I mean... The typical boy meets girl movies. And I think especially us men, because it was always the same thing. Over and over again. The only thing that changed was the actors and movie titles. Maybe you'd get a movie that had a seriously depressed director and one of the main characters died in the end. But otherwise it was the same thing over and over again. But if we give those movies a chance we'll see how true love looks like. In one of these 'Chick Flicks' we see Billy Chrystal and Meg Ryan team up to make one of the best romantic comedies ever... When Harry Met Sally... And the movie shows us how strong love is. Two friends who realize how much they actually care for each other. Friends who fell in love. There is no other love more beautiful then when two friends fall in love with each other.

How Do you know when you really love someone and not that you're not just infatuated with them? That is another difficult question, because we sometimes might think we love someone when in fact we are in love with the idea of love. We are then in fact infatuated with that person and not in love... Love is when that one person means everything thing to you. When you would do anything for them. They are the first person you think about when you wake up in the morning. They are the last person you think about before you go to bed at night. You wish that you could kiss them goodnight and tell them they must have sweet dreams. You want to hold them and make sure no harm comes to them during the night. When something happens to you they are the first you want to tell about it. They are always on your mind and you want to talk to them every minute of every day, even if you don’t. Sometimes they might not even know how you feel about them. But you don’t care if they know or not. Or even if they do know but don’t necessarily feel the same way. You don’t care because your are just happy that they are in your life. That is true love...

Does a ''soul mate'' really exist? We have all heard people say that they found their soul mate or a person says they want to find their soul mate. But does a soul mate really exist? I like to believe so. I like to believe that there is that one person you want to spend the rest of your life with, but in today’s world is that a possibility? Divorce rates are higher than ever, jobs ensure that couples don’t see each other as much as they would like to. The problem is it is very difficult to maintain a relationship in the world we are living in. That could be why we don’t have soul mates. We might find them, we might have them for a while, but then it might end because of circumstances. But does a soul mate really exist? Who knows, some say yes, some say no. How about facts... Why is it that our grandparents were married for Fifty years or more? Why is it that you could always see the love between them? Isn’t that prove enough?

Romance... Is all you need to keep the love between you and your significant other alive. Guys put down the remote and do something with the woman you love. Buy her flowers, treat her like a royalty, and listen to her. And most importantly, don’t take her for granted, because that is the easiest way to lose her. Just love her and tell her how much she means to you. If you’re lucky enough to have your soul mate, than you are the luckiest man alive...

Do you believe that true love lasts forever?

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© 2015 David Denver Fouche


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    • David D Fouche profile imageAUTHOR

      David Denver Fouche 

      3 years ago from Johannesburg

      Mrs. Demander thank you for your kind words. And thank you for reading my hub.


    • Deborah Demander profile image

      Deborah Demander 

      3 years ago from First Wyoming, then THE WORLD

      Very well written. I agree with you. When you truly love someone, you love them forever, regardless of the circumstances.

      And sometimes it hurts.



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