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What holds a Relationship Together

Updated on October 19, 2017
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Relationships need a solid foundation

Relationships are held together by love, trust, and respect, good communication and understanding is also required between two loving persons.

Couples meet, and choose each other due to some kind of spark that had flared up.

This happens during a conversation or from a smile of the other person.

· What does he want from her in a relationship?

When he saw her for the first time something inside of him awakened.

That something made him love her and want her for the rest of his life.

· What do two people look for in each other in a relationship?

They look for love, caring moments, to share their lives together, to be accepted and to feel romance in certain ways.

To share secrets, interests, to be on the same page, to talk about their lives, and to hope and dream together forever.

Unfortunately, for many couples that part of life fades away very fast. It is sad to see how most couples drift apart due to such small talk and of the lack of interest.

You got to face up to reality at some point. Everything has to change in a relationship coping with that change is the crucial part of you.

You want to develop, and build a solid foundation in your relationship but you choose not to focus on what more will be, or can be in your life.

Not knowing is normal but ignoring certain aspects can make you feel at a loss.

· The unexpected often brings you down.

In fact, most men feel honesty holds their relationship together solidly. That works well only if you have honesty.

Communication is the key to all relationships and should be used often to solve the many issues.

Communication for many women can be most problematic when men who want to communicate keep their pride, and walk away feeling belittled by their women.

· What do women think of men?

The men and women issues are always different and will not everyone can be on the same page. No matter what you say or do what you want that will not change.

Always be truthful to each other and show communication most effectively.

· What does he look for in her?

He wants his women to be confident, and he would be at ease if she chose him for who he is and not out of desperation.

When she knows it is him that she wants it must be for love and not for his money or for out of pity.

Two people who really love each other would enjoy spending any moment together.

Playing the game like if he wants her, or if she wants him. Mixed signals can make the situation more complicated, or problematic.

A man wants his woman to be strong, and to be able to overcome situations together without the constant whining.

Some women don't know how to cope with hard times.

These individuals choose to leave their relationship as most men choose to they walk away from the problem. It all feels a good way to get out of the rut.

He wants his woman to be responsible, to be cheerful, to be happy, and willing.

The support of a woman is very important to a man. As support shows she is feeling for him and want to go through such moments as one.

Cheating in relationships becomes a problem when he, or she gives the wondering eye to another.

When the relationship gets tough commitment becomes a failure.

To have a good relationship with your partner, you got to take all that comes to you but in all ounces.

Some men treat their women like dirt, or pretend to care for them in public. When behind closed doors it is a different kind of relationship. In some cases abuse is silent.

These kinds of relationships are sorrowful to be in it can ruin one's true self.

Men who treat their wives greatly and put them on pedestals are real men the more gentlemen kind and are rare to find in this day.

A man always needs the support of a woman. He may pretend he does not need her but deep down he needs her more than you will ever know.

The need to love him, and for him to love her, and the need to be loved is as normal as you seek the other to be part of your life.

· What do you want from your partner?

· Are you still dreaming of having the one in your life the one who will love you for who you really are?

· Do you feel trapped in your relationship?

When you feel trapped in a relationship that can make you want to leave, and not return. Certain situations can make you feel down, and lost in thought.

It is never too late to leave. If he has treated you like dirt, just go and don't turn back.

You can fight about anything in your relationship. If you don't know when to apologize, or when to draw the line then you are going downhill.

Blaming your partner for your wrong doing is not going to solve anything.

· For example:

She was engaged to him for over five years they fought about everything, and he mostly cheated on her. Every time she spoke about him cheating on her to him he denied it, The husband blamed his wife for his wrong actions.

In this case, he wanted to control her. Being the man he showed authority, and made her feel pitiful.

She followed his instructions and let him take over her life. He gave her a place to stay that was his number one way of showing her appreciation. she had no choice but to put up with his behavior.

· What do you think men really want from a woman?

Compatibility plays a huge role in a man's life he wants her to be that one.

You got to be powerful if you want a powerful partner in your life.

If you want a man to love and passionate then you got to also be that way.

If you are in a serious relationship, make note of what you want from her, and she from him knowing for sure is not always right in your face.

Love and compatibility mostly holds what you need most from him or her. In such a way you can make it well together. This is only if one knows the needs of the other.

She and he need each other at all times.

Sit down, and be rational don't nag. Be yourself, and communicate in the most simplest of ways.

Understand each other, and know your roots. You need to point out and let it all pass by without unnecessary arguments.

A relationship is held in a firm bond when love is not like any other. When your partner sees you are the only one he, or she can count on you are good to go.

The person who stood by you for all times, and through all times is the one you will always have by your side.

Love your partner and grow together that holds a relationship closer.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hello Raine Law Yuen, I so agree with your comment. Growing apart is often the problem thank you for stopping by.

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      Raine Law Yuen 3 years ago from Cape Town

      Thanks DDE for this insight. My experience with relationships is that there sometimes comes a time when two people grow apart because they outgrow each other. We change with time and maybe sometimes its best to just let go when a relationship has more negative consequences to stay together than to be apart.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Good Day jtrader, great words from you''We have to remember to always value what we first saw in our partner.'' Thank you very much for the Vote up and interesting.

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      jtrader 3 years ago

      Sometimes people are attracted to another individual for things that you mentioned, like their sense of responsibility, their smile, etc. Yet at the same time, in some situations these very qualities can make us irritated.

      For example, a spendthrift wants to spend all their money on clothes but their responsible partner says no. We have to remember to always value what we first saw in our partner. Voted up and interesting!

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi D.A.L. you are one of my great supporters here and I so appreciate your comments. Thank you for all votes take care now.

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      Dave 3 years ago from Lancashire north west England

      Devika I think you summed up a great deal about relationships in your first paragraph.Anyone with a relationship problem would be well advised to read this and other articles you have produced. Great advise as always. Voted up, interesting and beautiful.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi AliciaC thank you for the constant support.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      FlourishAnyway you are lucky to have such a partner and so rare to find thank you for stopping by

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi MsDora thank you

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi billybuc thank you for sharing your valuable words.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hello Ericdierker thank you for sharing your opinions here.

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      Linda Crampton 3 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

      You've shared some interesting and useful ideas about relationships, Devika. It takes work to maintain a relationship, so it's good to read suggestions like yours.

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      FlourishAnyway 3 years ago from USA

      Luckily, I picked someone I still share chemistry with after knowing him more than 20 years. He could tell you how long we've known each other, as he keeps track of the details and dates anymore and is the sentimental one. Odd, huh?

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      Dora Weithers 3 years ago from The Caribbean

      You cover so many aspects of the relationship. It takes them all for it to hold. Thank you.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      You have a very interesting writing style, and the truth of your words shines through.

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      Eric Dierker 3 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Very interesting. Practical aspects of relationships are always valuable to evaluate. Around here if we relied on them we would be in trouble. Just hard proven love is our binding agent.