- Gender and Relationships
What Is Your Earliest Memory?: Questions To Ask Your Significant Other
As a teenager I loved perusing the pages of “The Book of Questions” and finding questions to ask my cousin Liz. In the years since, I’ve asked all sorts of questions of my own devising, and in the process developed a proficiency for learning how to draw people out of their shell. Recently I was thinking about the things I still want to know about my significant other. This thought inspired me to create an article with questions geared towards those in romantic relationships. Many of these questions can, thankfully, also be asked of your family, friends, and coworkers. This list is for anyone in a romantic relationship; it doesn’t matter if you’ve been with your significant other for a month or fifteen years. While it’s possible you’ve already discussed these topics because you have been together such a long time, hopefully the questions will spur you on to ask related questions.
I’m admittedly biased in favor of long, animated conversations with my significant other. I realize that not everyone is as interested in such things, yet, for those who are, I hope these questions inspire you to seek greater intimacy with the person you love.
Do you have a significant other?
What is your earliest memory? How old were you?
Do you prefer written or spoken compliments?
When do you not like being touched?
If you could take a cross-country road trip with any rock star, living or dead, who would you choose and why?
I would hit the open road with Ringo Starr
Which foods would you refuse to eat with ketchup? What about with ranch?
If you had to describe yourself with a single word, what word would you choose and why?
Which of your personal flaws do you dislike the most?
Would you rather be famous and slightly unhappy or unknown and extremely happy?
Would you rather swim in a pool, river, lake, ocean, or not at all?
Which foods remind you most of your childhood?
Do you think you would have thrived in a different decade or century? If yes, what time period do you think you would have been well-suited to?
When is the last time you laughed so hard you could hardly catch your breath?
Would you rather visit Paris, France in April or New York City in October?
What kind of music do you remember your parents listening to when you were growing up? Is there a certain song or musical artist which evoke specific memories?
One secluded getaway option
If you could spend an entire week in a beautiful, secluded location with your significant other, where would you want to go?
What is one item of clothing you refuse to wear?
Would you shave off your hair in order to raise $10,000 to benefit your favorite charity?
Under what circumstances do you feel most safe?
When do you feel most loved?
Have you ever imagined living life as the opposite sex? If so, what specific differences did you consider?
What is one thing your parents did right?
How many times a day do you look in a mirror?
What subjects are you most passionate about? As a child, were these your favorite subjects?
Would you rather cuddle on a couch or hold hands in public?
When did you last hear a book read aloud? Is this an activity you would enjoy?
Which bands and/or musical artists remind you of your high school days?
If you had to be part of a rock band, what role would you like to play: lead singer, guitarist, drummer, or something else?
Are you grateful to be in a romantic relationship? Why or why not?
How often do you find yourself humming a jingle or a song you heard earlier that day?
Do you think life gets more complicated the older you get?
Would you rather see a gorgeous sunset in a secluded, mountainous setting, or watch the sun rise over a metropolis such as Mexico City or Houston, Texas?
Do you prefer being kissed on the neck or the lips?