What I've Learnt After 5 Different Relationships
Being in five different relationships over a decade was not because I was not a playboy or some sort of "difficult-to please man", instead I think it was preparing me to meet the right person.
Relationships are meant to be fun-amidst ups and downs, only when you meet the right person therefore by way of helping others I decided to put into writing accumulated lessons from my experiences to help someone out there.
1- Be faithful
A faithful person is one who does what he has promised to do, regardless of any obstruction. How faithful you are to someone shows how much you love him.
2- Be Ready
Buying an automobile and not knowing how to drive it is not so different from starting a relationship and also you think it entails is sex. Many people think being in a relation is always going to be a happily ever after scenario until they realize:
- You've got to be there for each other.
- Understand your difference.
- Spending time together
- Be faithful.
Take this from me relationship is not all about sex, so be ready to serve, love and support each other cos that is what really makes it a relationship.
and also don't start a relation cos you growing older, curious or you are pressured by parents and society.
3- Forgive Quickly
Actually I learnt this the hard way, cos back then I always found it hard to forgive others, but then I realized bitterness can kill faster than your worst enemy.
Whenever someone touched a raw nerve please let it go. The heart is too precious to store such trivial matters.
4- Understand your weaknesses
We all got our weaknesses, we all got something we suck at, cos we weren't created perfect, even God after creating the world (according to the Holy Bible) saw all He'd created and said it was good, note He didn't say its was perfect. [Gen 1]
There is something your partner might be bad at but that is why you are in his life, for as long as you are in his life, concentrate on the his good side and help him improve it.
5-Treat me as you want to be treated
Over the years, the law of Karma has proven to be true.. What ever you did to others would also be done to you directly or indirectly. So when you go about talking bad about your partner, telling their mistakes to others, cheating on them, being judgmental and always finding fault just don't forget it would be done same or even more to you.
6- Be grateful
Appreciating each others effort no matter how insignificant it seems can exponentially increase your love for each in diverse ways. Telling someone what you love about them does not only make them feeling good it also makes them want to do more.
So the next time you go out with her or hear of something good he has done be the first to tell him something you would have loved to hear if you were in his shoes.
Cos that is what love is all about-making each other feel good.
© 2019 ghanaboy