What Kind of Movie Would Your Love Story Be?
Keep Passion Strong in Your Life!
I think if my own personal love story were a movie, it wouldn’t be allowed on Disney. I would like to believe it’s worthy for the big screen, with Hollywood’s hottest stars vying for the lead roles. But maybe it would be a mini-series, or worse yet a “Made for T.V.” movie shown over and over again on the Oxygen or Lifestyle channel. For me, it’s an award winning classic through and through and I’ll walk my own red carpet, if I had one!
The first scene would zoom into the live music club that I owned. I had a new band coming in to play. As they were bringing in the music gear, I took one look at Jason, the guitar player, and I think the earth literally shook. I was so overwhelmed by these unusual feelings I had around him that I did everything I could to not talk with him. I just couldn’t.
As much as I totally avoided him, I also did everything I could to make sure his band played often at the club so I could at least see him. I knew that was insane, to just want to see him, but I really believed that was all I would ever have of him. Or, so I thought, and that was okay. Just to see him and know all was well with him took the edge off wondering about him as much as I did.
It took several years, yes, years, of working with him before we actually began to talk to each other. At that point it was strictly business, strictly to the point, strictly as limited as possible, and over the top exciting for me for those brief moments. All the smarmy small talk that you typically enjoy with business associates would never play out, it was just too risky for me to talk to him that long.
It would take about two more years for those words to get close to being on a personal level. That was back in the late 90s and I clearly remember how he broke the ice that day. I won’t share, but it was a total shock to every part of my system that he went past the line of the business at hand. It took me a moment to compose myself although I still doubt I uttered an intelligent word back that day.
At the time, we were living about 72 miles away from each other and would end up staying on the phone for hours. We had so much to share with each other. I guess catching up for all those years we didn’t talk. We still talk like that today though, so maybe it was something more.
We had become deeply attached by this time. He finally asked me out on a proper date. I was so happy and so afraid. I also said NO. If you are wondering about how crazy that is, trust me, so do I.
Every quality he has from his deep consideration of others, to the ways he expresses himself passionately about his work has kept me completely enthralled with him. He is an extremely intelligent man and can talk about so many things. With the worlds sexiest voice to go along with that! Not to mention he’s very easy on the eyes.
Getting back to the story…
About six months after he asked me out the first time, he asked me out again. This time, with my heart pounding through my chest, I said yes. The hair was literally standing up on the back of my neck. I knew my life was about to change and in some really big ways and it was complete scary happiness.
That was in January of 1999. He was shaking the night he first kissed me. Knowing that he was as nervous as I was is one of the most touching things I’ve ever experienced. It was the kind of first kiss that even the most romantic of movies cannot capture. Okay, so maybe the first kiss was a little tentative and awkward, but the follow up kisses were epic! After all those years, this was finally the start to our happily ever after.
Happily ever after isn’t always easy, but it’s always worth it. We have our challenges the same as most modern couples. We have blended families to work with, difficult ex-something or others, and in-laws, not that I’ll mention any names! And yes, we have some great fights and even better make up sessions.
He’s heavy metal and I’m punk/goth/hippie if there is such a thing. But it works, and it works perfectly for me. He is my best friend and I couldn’t imagine how my life would’ve gone without him. Somehow I think it would be much less colorful and parts of me that I value today may never have been realized.
That’s the story of us. There has been romance, OH, so much of that for me, comedy, drama, mystery, and adventure. I imagine even horror at a few points in there, not that anyone got hacked up or mutilated. And of course not to mention some serious XXX, but my mind wanders...
Having the opportunity to share this story with you is what leads me to the path I’m on today. I’m passionate about sharing the rewards I enjoy in my life with my One True Love with other couples. I know how fulfilling and complete a couple can be and how that affects the whole world around them in some powerful and positive ways.
I spent four years studying to gain my certifications in Coaching, specializing in conflict resolution and energy psychology. I coach, I write, I sponsor the 101 Day Sex Challenge, and of course I sell some of the most amazing sex toys available at HappyHer.com. I am a Passion Pusher and I’m out to save the world, one couple at a time. It’s one of the ways I celebrate one of my own life’s greatest blessings.
Well, that’s our story from my point of view and it’s not a Disney made movie. My darling husband may have other views from where he watches it play out. Maybe he would recall about how I caught my hair on fire, or about the first time we went camping together. I think I’ll ask him to share his story of us, even if it’s just for me. In the meantime, I hope you are inspired to think about your own love story(s). I would love to hear them.