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What Makes A Relationship Healthy

Updated on February 15, 2018

The first and major building block in having a healthy relationship is respect. You have to give respect to your partner to receive respect back. Giving respect will allow each other building block for a healthy relationship fall into place.

Once you have applied respect into the relationship you can work on honesty. Being honest has always come easy to me because it is easier to tell the truth the first time. The truth will always come out eventually and it is hard to keep track of all the lies. So be honest with your partner. Communicate openly with one another and it will truly help your relationship. I know it can be hard at times but trust me being honest has saved my relationships before.

After you have opened up more with partner it is time to try being more supportive. Support one another choices and dreams. Never belittle your partner because their dream can mean everything to them. If you do not support them they may feel like they can not share anything with you and they will never try hard to achieve their dreams. Be understanding with your partner and offer encouragement while they go through whatever it is that they are doing. Value your partners opinions and talk things through if you do not understating. Be honest and respectful during this step but never discourage or belittle your partner.

Cooperate with one another is the next building block. Ask for help and advice but never expect it from your partner. Your partner doesn't owe you anything and it is not healthy to play the "well I did this, so you owe me this" game. Accept change and always try to make decisions together. If you watch The Office you then you can understand this reference. Jim would make major life decisions without talking to Pam and it almost cost him his relationship. He was scared of upsetting her when he was hurting her more by hiding everything. Just be open and honest and if you can't then you shouldn't be with your partner. Always be willing to compromise, not everything can go your way and understanding that will seriously help your relationship.

Next is to always trust your partner. If there is no trust then a relationship can never grow. Trust me on this, I was with my ex husband for 7 years and almost 5 of those years we hardly had trust in the relationship. He had done something in the relationship that was hard for me to forgive but I did. Then I had done something when we had taken a break and he really never got over that. So trust was nearly gone from our relationship and it made it EXTREMELY hard. If you have no trust in your relationship then work on it or leave! You're wasting your time if you do not fix that issue.

Next is be accountable and accept your wrong doings. Sometimes you mess up and it is important that you accept your mistakes. Accept responsibility for your behaviors, attitude and values. Always communicate with your partner if you feel that they haven't been accepting their wrong doing as well. Always, always communicate! It is a relationship savor for sure!

Our last building block is safety. Now, this may sound like a strange topic but this one includes not manipulating, threatening and not bringing up past faults to use against them. Another important point here is always respect one anothers personal space. Do not force your partner to have sex with you or to cuddle you. Sometimes your partner needs space and when that happens always respect them. Express yourself in a non-violent way and apply all the key building blocks into one. Be honest, trusting and accountable.

All in all be there for another. Be the person that your partner can go to when they need advice, encouragement and help in their daily life. Always be honest and open-minded, trust me on this one it really matters in a healthy relationship. Relationships truly take work and if you don't want to work for a healthy relationship then you should not be in one until you are ready.


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    • dashingscorpio profile image


      8 months ago

      "Communicate openly with one another and it will truly help your relationship." - Not necessarily! (It'll let you know where you stand)

      There is no amount of "work" or "communication" that can overcome being with someone who simply does NOT want what you want. Communication is actually the GPS for relationships!

      It lets you know if you're "growing together" or "growing apart".

      The goal is to find someone who shares your same values, wants the same things for the relationship you do, naturally agrees with you on how to obtain those things, and last but not least have a mutual depth of love and desire for one another.

      Compatibility trumps compromise.

      Like attracts like and opposites attract divorce attorneys!

      There are only two ways to experience joy and peace of mind in relationships. We either get what we want or we learn to be happy with what we have. Accept them (as is) or move on.

      Each of us (chooses) our own friends, lovers, and spouse.

      Each of us has our mate selection process and "must haves list".

      Each of us has our boundaries and "deal breakers".

      Know yourself, Love yourself, Trust yourself.

      "Never love anyone who treats you like you're ordinary."

      - Oscar Wilde


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