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Building a Strong Relationship
What Makes a Relationship Strong?
I will start by saying without Fear there is no Courage. Fear is an important part of life and is what helps us to become strong and courageous people!
What makes a relationship strong? What is it that makes two people become so close? Believe it or not it is our fears. In many cases it is fears, worries and desires that bring people together. Working together through these things makes us stronger. Remember when you first started dating your current partner? I bet the beginning of the relationship was built by helping and guiding the other person through their dreams, fears, worries and helping them achieve their desires. Fear does not have to mean something bad. It just means something that we are unsure of. There is nothing better than having another person in our lives who will support us through big decisions or even in the smallest decisions for that matter.
Pleasing Your Partner
Pleasing the other person and being there for them is what helps us to become close and helps us to build trust in a relationship. Having a person in which you can tell anything to, being comfortable enough to share your deepest thoughts and desires with is a great achievement and can also be hard to find!
Great Quotes about fear and courage
I found these great quotes here.
“It takes more courage to reveal insecurities than to hide them, more strength to relate to people than to dominate them, more 'manhood' to abide by thought-out principles rather than blind reflex. Toughness is in the soul and spirit, not in muscles and an immature mind.”
“Don't wait until everything is just right. It will never be perfect. There will always be challenges, obstacles and less than perfect conditions. So what. Get started now. With each step you take, you will grow stronger and stronger, more and more skilled, more and more self-confident and more and more successful.”
How to Love
Communicating our Fears and Desires
But of course there is a catch. In order to keep this strong relationship it must go deeper than just our fears and desires outside of the relationship. You must be able and willing to discuss and work through the hardest and most difficult times in the relationship itself. This is where a lot of couples have trouble. They have no problem telling each other about things going on around them, but when it comes to issues and/or concerns regarding the relationship itself, they have trouble communicating. Communication is key to any healthy strong relationship. Believe me, there is not one relationship in this world that does not come with fear and problems. Working through it, discussing it and finding a way to make it work is the secret to keeping the relationship strong and making it stronger every day. Do not let the thing that brought you together tear you apart. Work on the issues. Confide in the person you love. In order to make things work, sometimes we must change things about ourselves. Not to say that the other person should not love us for who we are, but sometimes we must compromise and work on our own issues in order to be a better companion for another person. If we are in a relationship and think that we are perfect, we are wrong. Nobody is perfect. There are things about our partner that we do not like and I know that there are things they do not like about us. But learning how to deal with these issues is what helps us to become even more compatible.
Overcoming Your Fears
Why We Fear Communication
So why is it so hard to tell our partner what worries us about the relationship? Sometimes it is insecurity. Feeling as if we will never be able to totally please the other person if we tell them how we are feeling, or about issues or problems that we are having.
Sometimes it is fear of them leaving us or us thinking that the problem or issue will just go away. Issues will never just go away if we do not solve them. They will only become worse. But what does not kill us only makes us stronger. And if you are able and willing to discuss your inner thoughts with this person, you are only building a foundation for a more solid and stable relationship.
Is Love Work?
Do you think it takes work to build a strong relationship?
Love is Hard Work
Though we all wish that love were easy, it is not. It is hard work. But the reward is well worth it. If you take a few minutes to sit and think about it, you will realize that love being work is actually a good thing, not a bad thing. How boring would life be if we could love just anybody. There would be no building a relationship; there would be no caring about the other person or trying your hardest to make them happy. It would not matter what special times you shared. You would not get those butterflies in your stomach or have a chance to experience the excitement you feel when he or she kissed you. What would be the point? Getting to know a person inside and out, and learning to love them despite their faults is what love is all about.
Building a Strong Marriage
Build Something Real!
So if you have issues, you are lucky! It means that you are on your way to building something real, something special. Cherish it and keep on working!