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A Best Friend Is...
A best friend is someone you can depend on, no matter what life throws your way. He or she is honest, even when it hurts. You might not spend every day together, but the time you do spend in each other's company is satisfying. You can talk for hours, or not at all, and still be understood.
In Tough Times
You may not always see eye-to-eye with your best friend, but your differences are what makes your friendship so special - because you are able to set aside your varied views and find commonalities that you can relate to. But as with any relationship, you can sometimes cross the line, stepping over your best friend's toes enough to cause deep-set hurt that can only be resolved if you both want the friendship to continue. When that happens, it is best to take a step back, give your friend space, and eventually he or she will come around.
In the meantime, it can be hard to cope without that person in your life. If you have been hurt, or if you've hurt your friend, the best thing you can do for yourself is to change your reaction to the situation. And the only way you can do that is by putting it out of your mind temporarily to focus on the other positives in your life, maybe even learn a new skill or hobby. Avoid thinking about your severed friendship until you start to feel less bitter about it. Then and only then can you start seeing your best friend's point-of-view (even if you don't agree with it) and make a decision on what you would want to do about your friendship. If you feel it is still worth keeping, you will find the right words to reconcile. And if not, you will have learned how to be a better friend to others who are more interested in spending time with you for who you are.
Why Friends are Important
People were not meant to be alone - that has been proven over and over again. Very few people can successfully thrive without human interaction. And companionship - romantic or platonic - is what leads us to seek out friends in the first place. We want to feel wanted, loved, and appreciated. We want to be heard, cheered on, and be entertained. That's how life is. Having a best friend, then, is a natural progression of a friendship where trust and admiration have increased to where you often think of your best friend as being part of your family. A true best friend helps you improve yourself, but at the same time accepts you at face value. It's been said that you must "keep your friends close and your enemies closer." But really, it is better to be a friend to as many people as you can, and then you may not have as many enemies to worry about!