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What Not To Say When You Want To Break Up
What should you avoid saying when you want to break up?
What kind of things should you avoid saying when you want to break up with someone? From my own experience, probably the most important things to remember as you prepare to tell the other half of your relationship that you want it over are - not to say anything to put the blame on the other persons personal attributes, and not saying anything that could leave the other person hoping that you may change your mind. Never admit you're leaving them for someone else. It could be of benefit to bear these things in mind before approaching the other person to tell them you want to relatively drama free break up.
It is reasonable to expect that the person you are ending your relationship with will want an explanation. So hopefully you can provide them with a genuine reason for your decision. But you should try to avoid saying you're breaking up with him/her because of a physical attribute, as it could potentially lead someone to long term self-esteem issues, plus your soon to be ex may think if they fix that attribute you would take them back... ie: Avoid saying something like "I haven't felt attracted to you since you put on weight" or "I really feel I want to be with someone with larger breasts". As if the other person thinks that is the sole reason for you breaking up with them (When it isn't) there's the chance that person could expect that you will take them back after they've hit the gym, or gone and got a boob job etc!
Also, if you want a clean break, as you probably will, with minimal drama's, let the other person talk and express their feelings and answer any questions they may have. This will actually be of benefit because then they are less likely to feel the need to pester you for further clarification about your reasons for the break up over the next few days and weeks. But despite their possible distress and upset, remain clear and firm about the fact that you want to break up so that the other person isn't left to hanging on to hopes for months to come that you'll one day get back together ie: After you've sorted your personal issues (Job, Study, Family problems) out. If you imply your reason for wanting to break up is because of these kind of things, the person you're breaking up with may keep checking up on you for some time to come and think that once you've resolved the issue you've described as the reason for the break up, you'll be back. They could even expect it, and may even go to some lengths to help you resolve it.
There isn't always a way to avoid hurting someone when you end a love relationship, but if you have a good 'Breakup talk' at the time you're ending your relationship, it gives you both some closure and then it's easier to start moving forward.
So what kind of things should you say? Try being honest to a certain degree but try something along the lines of "I think you're a great person and I've enjoyed my time with you but I don't feel I want to take our relationship further" or "I don't feel we are a perfect match for eachother". And if there is another person you are interested in DO NOT admit to this, as bringing a third party into the mix is definately asking for drama and tears...You don't want to go there!
Further reading from Author StricktlyDating:
- How To End A Long Term Relationship
What is the best way to end a long term relationship? Advice on how to break up, for people who've been in a long term relationship and want to end it.
- Broken Heart Quotes For Sad Facebook Statuses
Broken Heart Quotes, for sad Facebook Status updates. A collection of one-liners and phrases about heartbreak.
- Moving On Facebook Status Updates
Relationship quotes about moving on, moving forward, making a new start. For Facbook And Twitter Status updates.