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What do 21st century women really want – Guide for men beyond the high heels and push-up bras

Updated on February 11, 2012
Is there any substance behind the wants and needs of the 21st century woman? Of course. Read on and find out what she really wants.
Is there any substance behind the wants and needs of the 21st century woman? Of course. Read on and find out what she really wants. | Source

What do women really want, is a question which is probably on the mind of every man on the planet. While many great poets and psychologist have penned down their words, thoughts and complicated gibberish, this article is a more real and practical approach to help guys find out what their girl wants. Here are 10 things that a 21st century woman wants and craves.

1) She like flowers but not too many

The 21st century woman may knotted up in the power of Armani Suits and high heels, heading teams and strategizing sales, but she'd still like a bouquet or two to pop up at her doorstep once in a while. But make sure you don't overspend on those orchids and dahlias, because even a single rose will make a gloomy day bright. If you really want to spend, why not buy an Eau De Parfum instead.

Help her out in the kitchen and earn yourself a delicious homemade meal and brownie points that will last forever!
Help her out in the kitchen and earn yourself a delicious homemade meal and brownie points that will last forever! | Source

2) If you could do the chopping, she'd really love to cook

The feminist debate aside, the 21st century woman is shouting her lungs out to tell you folks that she actually enjoys cooking. It is the other labor work that revolves around cooking that is sometimes a major turn off. Don't know what that is? Allow Princesswithapen to spell it out. It is the chopping of vegetables, cutting the meat, doing the dishes, cleaning the kitchen, cleaning out the bins and so on. So if you really want your girl to cook up a delicious and mouthwatering meal for you, all you have to do is help her out in the kitchen. Not only will she find that very romantic, you may also be rewarded with a special after-meal treat, inside the bedroom.

3) Going Dutch is just a shield

Sure, the 21st century woman wants to pay for her own meals and movie tickets but she secretly craves for you to step up every now and then and pay the bills. It is difficult to explain why she likes this, but think of it as the thought of you being the man looking after her needs in her life. Don't misunderstand this. She doesn't want to live off your money. All she asks for is to you to make a dinner date special by footing the bill in a very male-like display of care and affection.

4) If someone told you chivalry was outdated, don't listen to them

Lately, men's magazines for some reason have been going berserk with all the talk about chivalry having died and modern women not appreciating the opening of doors anymore. Hey, don't even listen to that. Chivalry is still very much in vogue and your girl will have a massive smile on her face if you open doors for her, pull out the chair for her or simply say "After you" when it matters.

A romantic proposal sealed with a kiss has never gone out of vogue, and never will. Like they say, don't try to reinvent the wheel.
A romantic proposal sealed with a kiss has never gone out of vogue, and never will. Like they say, don't try to reinvent the wheel. | Source

6) She'd rather you go down on two knees in your backyard rather than propose in mid air

Underwater weddings, proposing while bungee jumping or proposing on the top floor of the Empire State Building do make for great cover stories in magazine but the 21st century woman is not too sure if that is what she really wants. To play safe, don't spend time planning whacky and weird ideas to propose or get married.

5) An unshaven look is nice too

While a cleanly shaven face is an evergreen dashing look, the 21st century woman does not mind a disheveled look every now and then. However, don't confuse the unshaven look with looking untidy or unhygienic. Pair your unshaven and chiseled look with a nice shirt and denims and you will have her wanting for more!

Don't get nervous when your girl goes through piles of clothes. She's just chekcing out what's new.
Don't get nervous when your girl goes through piles of clothes. She's just chekcing out what's new. | Source

7) When she asks you to go shopping with her it doesn't mean she'll spend all your money

The look of horror on all your faces when you hear the word shopping, is priceless. While it's hilarious on one hand, she understands that you'd be holding on to your credit cards for life when you would hear her wanting to go shop. But trust the fact that when she feels like going shopping, it's really just about getting some retail therapy, smelling the fragrance whiffing out of those lovely perfume boutiques and the works. Don't worry, the 21st century woman knows the value of money.

8) She gets drunk to be carried home by you

If you're on a date with your girl and she gets a little tipsy, it’s a signal for you to understand that she has finally begun trusting you and wouldn't mind making you responsible to carry her home. If you consider her getting tipsy to be loose behavior, then too bad for you, you still haven't understood what women are all about. Don't mistake playfulness for a direct invitation to do dirty things in bed.

9) She actually likes your parents

She wonders why all men believe in the in-laws syndrome. Sure, the girlfriends and wives are famous for not being able to get along well with their boyfriend's parents or in-laws, but that really doesn't apply to all women. Women do have the brains and are in fact more emotionally sensitive and realize that you may have a strong bond with your parents. So really, don't make meeting the parents such a big deal.

Who said gifts need to be expensive? It is the act and the thought that matters more than what you actually give her.
Who said gifts need to be expensive? It is the act and the thought that matters more than what you actually give her. | Source

10) Diamonds are not her best friends – But gifts are!

Let's get one thing very clear – Women like expensive gifts. But are you really surprised? Don't men love expensive gifts too? Surely a guy will love being gifted an expensive suit or an expensive gadget, won't he? The 21st century woman understands that priceless diamond rings and jewelry that shines like sunshine may exists only in the lives of the likes of Kim Kardashian and Paris Hilton. Having said that, she would like you to know that gifts are always more than welcome. The 21st century is all about being budget conscious and she appreciates that. Don't splurge out all your money to buy one single expensive gift. Rather, split that money up into numerous smaller gifts.

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      Levertis Steele 

      6 years ago from Southern Clime

      Wow! These are great things that level-headed women want, but I am a little leery about #8. If a woman gets a little tipsy on a date--"drunk" is a better word--she bears watching. This could be a sign of a problem alcoholic. If she is showing this man that she trusts him, she is going about it the wrong way. Many men are very turned off with drunken women, and many women feel the same about loaded men. If you know the severe trauma of alcohoholism, you would RUN! Take her home first.

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      6 years ago from Wales

      A great hub and thanks for sharing.


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      6 years ago

      ......well you think like a princess and write like a queen and for someone like me who is still a single guy at age 53 I need all of the help I can get - and with your wit, wisdom, truth, research and charm you could easily get a writing gig at Cosmopolitan magazine or the New York Times - posting this useful and enlightening hub subject to my Facebook page with a direct link back here - lake erie time ontario canada 6:16am

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      6 years ago from Oviedo, FL

      Thank you for the insight.

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      6 years ago

      Hi Princess.

      A super hub and not only for the single guys, some married one's should take notice.

      Your title brings back memories. As teenagers we didn't need any holding up things stood on their own. It was only in our twenties when things started to loose their strength and need help. Now in our not so young any more age we don't bother if things just hang about, anyway it's not so bad as we men are in the same

      Take care Princess.

      LOL Ghaelach

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      Alastar Packer 

      6 years ago from North Carolina

      Agree with everything you've written on here but shopping princess- maybe you can amend the text there lol.

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      6 years ago from North Carolina

      This is an outstanding hub. This is something all women will appreciate. This would be a good operator's manual for men. Voted up!!!

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      Aurelio Locsin 

      6 years ago from Orange County, CA

      Required reading for single guys out there. I especially like number 8. Voting this Up and Useful.

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      Jeannie InABottle 

      6 years ago from Baltimore, MD

      The next time I am dating someone, I think I should email him the link to this hub. Thanks for sharing this information that men just don't seem to understand. Great hub and voted up!

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      Alecia Murphy 

      6 years ago from Wilmington, North Carolina

      You should write for a magazine. Unlike most of these article writers, you see reality very well. And these are not only practical tips but romantic as well. I enjoyed reading this hub very much. Amazing job!


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