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How To Make Him Beg To Be With You

Updated on February 9, 2016
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Wendy is a psychologist and mother of 2 bilingual children. She lived 5 years in Spain before moving to France, where she teaches Spanish.

Tell Him what he wants to hear and you will have him addicted to you, begging to be with you.

What Men Want to Hear

What Men Want To Hear From You

Can you remember when was the last time you sincerely thanked your man for something he did for you? Or can you honestly say when was the last time you gave a compliment to your boyfriend or husband? Unfortunately, once in a long term relationship, most women have a tendency to take their men for granted and unlike what we might be brought up to believe, men have emotional needs too, and there are certain phrases that most men would love to hear to feel appreciated.

In a relationship, it's not only women who need to hear that they look nice, or that they're wanted, your man also needs to hear how much you appreciate him, love him and admire him. But sometimes for fear of sounding silly, for pride or timidity, we don’t tell our men often enough how much we love them.

What You Should Tell Him To Have Him Begging To Be With You

What you should tell him to have him begging to be with you
What you should tell him to have him begging to be with you

What Men Want to Hear

With this in mind, I have collected a few phrases that men like to hear from their women.

Come on, join in and tell us which are the phrases that you would like to hear the most from your woman. And you girls tell us which are in your opinion the most romantic, complimentary or sexy thing you’ve ever told your man.

Phrases for the romantic:

  1. “I like you”. To whisper these little 3 words with a languid accent has an incomparable power over a man’s ego. We will hug you and be proud of having you by his side.

  2. “I trust you, I know you can do it”. This is a really magic phrase it proves the confidence you have in him, in his physical and mental strength. Men love this one as it makes them feel almighty powerful. Also you can use this phrase when you want your man to do something for you. For example if you want him to change the wallpaper in your room or take care of your cat while you go on vacation, all you need do is to whisper this phrase and he will be proud to do whatever you are asking him to do.

  3. "You're the best". I don’t think this one needs explaining.
  4. " I am so lucky I met you" For him this means “you are marvellous, absolutely great and more important you make love like a God !”
  5. “What would I do without you” this is another ego booster. This is the perfect phrase for those situations when you are in trouble and he saves you. Like for example the day your car breaks down and he drives you to your workplace, or the afternoon when your nanny is sick and he offers to look after the children while you go out shopping with your girlfriends.
  6. "We are a team, baby!", this is perfect to let him know that you support him, that you are a couple and his aspirations are important for you.

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Phrases For Everyday Life:

"Thank you". Do not overllok his small gestures -opening a door for you, making you a cup of tea, making the bed, etc. Every small gesture counts and often we just overlook them instead of letting our man know that we appreciated what he did. Even more, just saying "thank you" will let him know what he is doing well to please you, so undoubtedly he will do it again!

"You are so handsome" or "You look really handsome on that suit" . It may sound obvious, but men enjoy a good ego-stroking. Yes my friends, men too -like us girls- like to hear that they look good. Don't hesitate to let him know how good he looks. Remember those first dates when you used to find that he had the loveliest smile in the world, or how you went soft on the knees every time he simply looked at you with his deep blue eyes... Well, don't hesitate to remind him how good looking you find him.

"I love you just the way you are." When he hears this, he'll be encouraged to be the best possible version of himself because he will know that you love him that way. It is important for a man to know that you don't want to change him and you accept him just the way he is.

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For the More Intimate Moments

  1. "You drive me crazy, I am mad about you" Another phrase that does not need any explanation.
  2. "I love being wrapped up in your arms." I love saying this one to my hubby and it is 100% true, I really love when he wraps me up and makes me feel so loved and safe.
  3. “You are so hot”
  4. "What would please you tonight?" This is perhaps the most aphrodisiac phrase you can tell your man; but be careful if you say it you must be prepared to assume your responsibility and try to please him. This phrase is open to all kind of “indecent proposals” are you ready for them.?
  5. “I had an erotic dream and you were in it…” If he asks you to tell him about it, say that you will show him instead!
  6. "Spank me Daddy"

I Think That Most Men will Agree with This One:

What men really want women to do and say

Phrases for the down to earth men

"Dinner's ready!"

« You are so smart »

“Shouldn't you be down at the bar with your buddies?”

“You're so sexy when you're hungover.”

“I'd rather watch football and drink beer with you than go shopping.”

What do guys want


A compliment has to be genuine

It Is Important That Your Compliments Relate To His Attributes.

Before you say any of these phrases to your man take into account his attributes. Is he awfully handsome? Or is he very brainy? Is he good at working with his hands? It is important that your compliments relate to his attributes. Give him recognition and appreciate his qualities because normally no one else does. At work, more than likely he is always stressed or trying to meet a deadline and no one tells him how good he is at his profession; all he gets from his superiors is pressure. It is up to you to pick up his qualities and compliment him about them. In return he will feel appreciated and loved and will love you more for it.

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Listen To Your Man To Know What He Wants To Hear From You

If you want to know what your man wants to hear from you, first LISTEN to him. As the saying goes, “God gave all of us two ears and a single mouth so that we may hear twice as much as we speak”. Careful listening to your man will enable you to pick up his emotional needs at the time of your conversation. We all need to hear different things at different times, listen carefully and you will know what he needs.

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What Do Men Want To Hear? What Do Readers Have To Say?

David Russell: "What do men want to hear? Start with the truth and end with the truth and you have it covered".

Tonymead60 : "I think the biggegest turn on is... hey darling the chip pan is on and i've cooked steak for tea..."

"good morning sunshine"

AngelTrader: "Truth, honesty oh and truth! Simple really!"

Asher Fallen :"I would agree that hearing any of those things from the right woman would be simply awesome, but, call me crude, spank me Daddy works coming from almost any woman."

"I am glad to have you as my husband".

DREAM ON : “Don't stop now. One more time honey”


If you have a good man, and you don’t compliment your man, another woman will!!

© 2009 Wendy Iturrizaga

What Are Your Favourite Phrases, That You Never Grow Tired Of Hearing ...

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      3 years ago

      Another great hub Princessa . words that mean alot to me are '' I love you and I'll never lie to you '' And turn on would be whispered in my ear '' I want you right here right now'' I saw you on facebook and I sent you a request I hope you don't mind

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      Wendy Iturrizaga 

      4 years ago from France

      Hi Bobby, have you tried letting her know how you feel? Most women like to talk, so if she has something bothering her and you show her that you can listen to her she will probably let you know why you are drifting apart.

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      4 years ago

      All i want to hear is i love you, she seems to have faded from saying it and or initiating the exchange. Makes me feel like I'm losing her or her thoughts are with someone else

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      Mr. Freshness 

      5 years ago

      Princessa, you're wrong on about half of them and don't even have the most obvious ones in your article.

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      Wendy Iturrizaga 

      5 years ago from France

      Norah: thanks for sharing :-)

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      5 years ago

      Great complete me is the best thing my man wants to hear me whisper to him.....thumbs up it boosts his ego

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      6 years ago from East Coast Canada

      There's a ton of stuff in here to praise this article for. The fact that you thought it was important enough to blog is the most interesting of those.

      I do believe there would be some generational/cultural gaps in what has been presented. For I feel what my Dad would like to hear would be different than what I would like to hear. Though I'm ok with being wrong if that is the case.

      But I sometimes feel that the important thing is to know when to say those things. "I know you can do it" may come off condescending in certain circumstances. Sometimes silence can be utilized as a sign of trust/faith in your man, rather than say anything, simply being there can be encouragement enough.

      I'm not sure this is the place for it, though I have been thinking (actually been told I should) do either an article or fictional work on dispelling the fairie tale beliefs placed on men by their women. Living up to unspoken but long held belief system perpetuated by mainstream media/literature is one of the most deadly to young relationships. I've not started on this project, though, now that its out there, I think I need to get on it before someone else does. ;)

      Very thought provoking, well done!

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      Mel Carriere 

      6 years ago from San Diego California

      I like it when a woman says she feels protected and safe with me. I don't agree with the gentleman above who says he wants to hear the truth. I don't necessarily want to hear lies, either, but I think I'm well enough aware of my own limitations to have them constantly repeated to me.

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      6 years ago

      It worked!!! You are the best on earth! He called me two days ago, apologized, begged for pardon and he asked me if he could move again with me!!! Now he is sleeping again by my side, we made love again (and it was really great!), he is loving, caring and everything! Woaaahhhh I’m so happy thank you thank you thank you!!! I was so happy that I forgot to write you immediately (sorry about that but I think you will understand!). For sure I will come back to you for other things. If you need help in any area of your life contact Dr. Lametu and he will help you out via:

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      7 years ago

      great hub

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      7 years ago

      I would say trust because this is the way a man feels loved, needed and admired. You are the best! This is a good one too. A man falls in love with a woman who makes him feel good.

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      Solomoney Harmony 

      7 years ago

      Well all in the name of all because i can not fall for a girl i don't trust!

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      7 years ago

      Great hub!

      I would like to hear:

      Hug me.

      Carry me on your arms.

      Help me get dressed / undress.

      I like the way you need my body.

      I'll show you how to kiss all my body.

      I'll show you how to turn me on.

      What if we make love every day?

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      8 years ago

      the 'in sickness and health....' promise is fine. But there is more to a relationship than simply 'standing by' someone. There are spontaneous hugs. Do we get too many? There are loving squeezes. Never too many! And intimacy builds, expresses and sustains. A relationship without intimacy is like dry food without spices.

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      Sheila Lee 

      8 years ago from Canada

      Great hub! I believe men just want honesty... the truth. But you've done a great job here. I voted up!

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      8 years ago

      I think it changes per men! I like to hear your opinion :)

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      Rev Bruce S Noll HMN 

      8 years ago from Asheville NC

      Congratulations Princessa, on a truly fine and longstanding hub. The comments are impressive. I would like to suggest that it isn't always what is said, but often how it is said. (Nothing new there, but meaningful)

      For me the following quote sums up the topic:

      "Flatter me, and I may not believe you. Criticize me, and I may not like you. Ignore me, and I may not forgive you. Encourage me, and I will not forget you."

      - William Arthur Ward

      voted up, awesome and interesting!

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      Wendy Iturrizaga 

      8 years ago from France

      raburcke: now, that is soooo romantic!

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      8 years ago from Fuengirola, Málaga, Spain

      I will stand by your side, for better and for worse, in sickness and in health, till death do us part!

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      Ramphil Basco 

      8 years ago from Iloilo, Philippines

      No doubt why there are lot of people commenting in this hub.. as a man, all I want to hear with the woman i love is "you completes me!" sounds cool and great..:)

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      8 years ago

      What man want to hear is:

      I respect the fact that you are overwhelmed and struggling to make it a better life for us both. I have invited a clean and sexy girl to join us tomorrow night. Get some rest, recharge and we will all have an awesome time even though I don't feel like doing anything other than watching TV and being on the phone all day as usual.

      That's what a man wants to hear, appreciation, recognition, respect, reward and a trull self effacing comment like admitting your level of small contribution!

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      negbedion daniel 

      8 years ago


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      8 years ago

      Thanks :) I have been with my boyfriend for almost 11 years and he has always asked me to say, "Who's your Daddy" and I never feel comfortable trying this, but think I may after reading guys comments that they actually do like it!

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      8 years ago from India

      Nice Share. Would like to add few romantic phrases - No matter what may happen , I am there for you , and the best of it all when you are in love - LETS GET MARRIED ( this makes your life )

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      8 years ago

      I love it...I m trying this on my boyfriend

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      8 years ago from Universe

      I luv it!!

      Voted up!

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      8 years ago

      Thanks for the Hub! I'm gonna try some of them out =)

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      8 years ago

      Haha all these phrases strokes my manly ego! All women should read this, there's it not enough ego stroking happening in the world today.

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      truth alone triumphs 

      8 years ago

      Appreciation and encouragement is something that every human irrespective of gender, caste, or creed needs.

      True appreciation for mind is like a healthy and balanced diet for body.... making you fit and complete.

      While false appreciation is like STEROIDS or VIAGRA..... when you stop it you have devastating results.

      Therefore women who truly love their men or are true to themselves and have high morals ..... should ignore stuff like the one above.

      and if you strongly support or challenge me..... post this comment on top princessa!!!!

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      What a nice hub. Need not to comment. Good job.

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      8 years ago

      Interesting article.

      It is not always true that men do not get enough praise from women and often feel unappreciated and their self confidence can suffer.

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      8 years ago from Nigeria

      It depends on the man. If u dare use any of those statements on me, you may not know it, but it is the first cue for an au revoir. Don't blame me, I can smell manipulation easily...

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      8 years ago from Michigan

      All of these things just came so natural for me but it was so unwanted, Don't think I will be so eager to show it next time,if there is a next time.

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      Tony Mead 

      8 years ago from Yorkshire


      I think the biggegest turn on is... hey darling the chip pan is on and i've cooked steak for tea...:}

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      break up books 

      8 years ago

      You are 100% correct! Men do not get enough praise from women and often feel unappreciated and their self confidence can suffer. They have emotional needs too and you would be surprised just how much you get back with a few words of encouragement and appreciation each day. Thanks for enlightening us!

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      8 years ago

      I love it when my boyfriend wakes up and says "good morning sunshine" it truly makes my day

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      8 years ago

      actually it seems like a fight b/w men and women, they never understand each others, women demand for so many things and have different wishes and the husband is trying to fulfill that, but when men demand for something then they are complaining and acting like a child. something doesn't mean ( sex, kisses, badly hugs and so on) there could be good behave and communication, care, emotional thinking, good words)

      you know we say give respect get respect,

      but most of the women think that when her husband speak well and accept her request it is his need for her, but the fact is that he has good sense and deep love with full respect to her, and she thinks what ever he does it is her rights. in fact as i think they should work together and give respect to each other and understand the meaning of life and living,

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      8 years ago from New Zealand

      Truth, honesty oh and truth! Simple really!

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      8 years ago from Houston TX

      Nice article that really exposed the secrets to a man's heart.thanks for this great revelation.

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      Ankush Kohli 

      8 years ago from India

      In this hub there are lots of creative ways to say, complimentary and appreciative things to your Partner. The basic need of a man is respect and the for a woman is to feel loved.

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      8 years ago from Cali

      Great hub, and look at what a stir you made! This is so important, as women often compliment each other and get compliments from the kids etc. Men don't do this, they really rely on their partner for that extra little ego stroke... especially when it comes to compliments on their appearance.

      Good job Princessa, and ladies... go forth and compliment!

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      9 years ago

      hm. I could add a few.. Entertaining read!

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      9 years ago

      The truth in as loving a way as possible. :-)

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      Sranunta Lamduan 

      9 years ago from Bangkok, Thailand

      Could I say those words to other hubby? Loool Just kidding

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      Sima Ballinger 

      9 years ago from Michigan

      This hub is definitely useful. You put this package together very nicely. I like this. There are lots of creative ways to say complimentary and appreciative things to your man.

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      9 years ago from Texas , USA

      I think everything has pretty much been covered. I just wanted to say how much iI liked this hub and I hope my wife reads it.

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      Asher Fallen 

      9 years ago from Clarksville, TN

      I would agree that hearing any of those things from the right woman would be simply awesome, but, call me crude, spank me Daddy works coming from almost any woman.

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      9 years ago

      Thanks. :)

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      9 years ago from Alberta, Canada

      My husband likes to hear how much I appreciate him and how great he is - as a husband, a lover, and friend etc...I know he likes it because he always tries to fulfill that role after I say it and does it with a smile ;)

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      9 years ago

      Okay. I've been patiently contemplating your last advice for me to consider looking elsewhere. I am open but not pursuing. I fear that I may miss an opportune opening simply because I haven't been sent those kind of signals for yearsf and may not even recognize or believe it possible. I now understand better why men hire female escorts or .... It's a sad society we live in that often gets characterized as 'oversexed' when so many women and men hunger for a meaningful relationship in several overlapping areas including sexuality. It's no wonder match-making websites are so inviting and do so well.

      Years ago two women--unconnected and years apart--offered/wanted to be my mistress. Each time, I let it drop. I wish I knew where they are now.

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      9 years ago

      Hey, I'm desperate for an advice am an African woman married to an American man he is personal trainer, we are married for four years now . We have been separated for two year

      And now we are together but he thinks that was bad idea cos it put him in so much money problems and he complain about me not being able to support him emotionally cos of the culture difference how can I support him to save my marriage ? Please help

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      Jason R. Manning 

      9 years ago from Sacramento, California

      Princessa, God bless you for this article. You have done a tremendous service for relationships all over this community. I have been married for 11 years now, and nothing pleases me more, or drives me to work harder for my family then the vary phrases you have mentioned. Finally a woman who really understands men. Stupendous!

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      9 years ago

      ahh nice. Cool Hub. :) :)

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      9 years ago from Denver

      I will just want to hear that i love you and i will be with you for all my life.

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      9 years ago

      The best way to maintain good relationship is used the word "I love you". Once a while say "I am glad to have you as my husband".

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      9 years ago

      nice information in hub page community

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      9 years ago from Rochester N.Y

      The thing that I love to hear most is when the sun comes up and my man turns over and looks into my eyes and say"GOOD MORNING MAMA".and then smiles. This makes me feel all warm and happy inside. It makes me feel that he's truly happy to have woken up next to me.

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      Tom C 

      9 years ago

      My wife and I have been married for 27 years, and for the most part it has been a very positive time, but I now feel very taken for granted, and am thinking about divorce. I know it would probably be the worst decision I could make, but I no longer feel like putting up with her self centered approach. I have seen her through some very difficult times, and do not expect any thanks, but there is always an undercurrent that seems to judge me, and it is tiring. I feel I would rather be tired alone, than feel the emotional drain that she seems to put me through. Menopause was not smooth, and it seems there has been some behavior that she has decided to hold onto that is not at all something I want to be part of. I will probably give it some time, but both men and women are not aware of how their lack of kindness can sabotage even the strongest of love. I am not innocent of this either, but even when I try to be kind it is met with hostility, and I am tired of it. Maybe she would be better off with someone else, someone she could say these nice things to.

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      9 years ago from San Francisco

      lol some of the stuff is really funny ... do we men really want to hear all that's here? anyway, nice attempt .. must say there's no harm in being appreciated!

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      9 years ago from Chicago

      "Spank me Daddy" - a personal favorite of mine.

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      9 years ago

      Feelings. Hmmmm. Novel idea that men have feelings? Too often the notion is that men just want the 'act'. Bull. Many --perhaps most-- like a genuine impulsive hug, kisses, kind interest, etc. and not simply to log another org. I finally--I think--got my wife to recognize this and promise to read the resource for a sex starved marriage. She thought I was rushing her until I reminded her that she had the book now for over 8 months and keeping it in a drawer wasn't helping. I am committed to this relationship but there are days when your last suggestion to me is quite tempting. We'll see.

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      Dawn Michael 

      9 years ago from THOUSAND OAKS

      I know that most men that are married just want to hear "hey baby do you want to have sex tonight!!" I think that, is something most women usually don't do but should!

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      9 years ago from Liverpool, UK

      I think the things you say to your man would always depend on his maturity and maybe age, for example my man is 28 - and if i said to him you're amazing and you inspire me, he would be chuffed, however if i said would you like me to use my mouth(to put it nicely)whilst you play on your xbox, i think he might cry. :) Everybody to their own! xX

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      9 years ago

      great job! men definitely want to hear these things; but don't say it if it's not the truth.

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      9 years ago from Orange County, CA

      Really good hub. You included healthy information for many people. I'll try these out in my relationships and see what happens.

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      9 years ago from Alabama,USA

      Lol - I guess this is why so many men have an ego, LOL

      good read though, thanks for posting it, I would also say a woman would like to hear things very similar ;0)

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      Wendy Iturrizaga 

      9 years ago from France

      The Manly Man Named Fluffy (who likes cereal....): I gathered that from your name LOL

      the pink umbrella: I know lots of people who do so -including me- Maybe because our partners are much older? Never really thought about it...

      brenren57: Start with a compliment, an honest and meaning one that applies to him.

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      9 years ago from Williamsburg, VA

      Except for "spank me, daddy" I think I've done pretty well. Now I need a couple phrases to defuse his frustration when I've really screwed up. Got anything for that?

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      the pink umbrella 

      9 years ago from the darkened forest deep within me.

      calling your man dady seems gross to me. i dont know...

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      Wendy Iturrizaga 

      9 years ago from France

      Dog On A Mission: maybe...

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      Dog On A Mission 

      9 years ago

      Russell D is correct. There is only ONE thing men want to hear from a woman in a relationship. THE TRUTH.

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      Wendy Iturrizaga 

      9 years ago from France

      Preethi Anusha: good idea!

      psbros139: LOL, if you say so...

      Moesky: So what you don't want to hear apart from football talk?

      Maxvon: Thanks for the visit.

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      9 years ago from U.K.

      Nope - this is too tempting! - Great hub though! love Max :)

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      9 years ago

      If a woman said to me that she'd like to watch football...then she'd be watching it alone, while I have a deep and meaningful conversation with the coffee machine. And - just to inspire a few more comments on this hugely popular (and cleverly devised topic) - maybe it's more important to ask what men "DON'T" want to hear!

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      9 years ago from SE Michigan

      Let me think? "Boy that's a Hard One" Hummm

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      Preethi Anusha 

      9 years ago from Hyderabad , India

      I think there is one more thing men wud love to listen during intimate moments .

      Just repeat his name as much as possible... he feels encouraged to perform better with every call .

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      Wendy Iturrizaga 

      9 years ago from France

      Doinwithout: I can understand your position but unfortunately I don't know what to say to help you improve your situation. I am afraid that sometimes I am too radical and my advice would be to find someone else who cares about you. Life is too short to be without love and care. If you have tried your best so far and it hasn't work, I would look somewhere else for what is missing.

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      9 years ago

      I'm sorry you got the impression I've been passive. Hardly. Put off? Yes. Notice my comment about "later" as in "not now". I've been hearing this for years.

      The first two decades of marriage were lively, impulsive, fun and often safely adventurous. The last decade mostly doing without--and not for my lack of trying.

      Please give me a break.

      How gently inviting must a guy be?

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      Wendy Iturrizaga 

      9 years ago from France

      Gr8legs: That's right, there are lots of men who are trustworthy. I have been lucky to meet many of them. In fact most of my best friends are men including my husband and father.

      Susan: I am just so happy to hear that. To know that I made YOU and your partner happy makes it all worth it writing a hub.

      Doinwithout: I am really sorry to hear that. Maybe you should try giving some love before you start asking for some. Longtime relationships become stagnant if we don't take care of them. It takes two persons to form a stable and happy relationship. Just waiting passively won't change anything. Maybe you should try giving the first step in restoring intimacy. Good luck and all the best to you!

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      9 years ago

      You are soooooo right. How to get my wife to read and take this seriously. Hmmm. She's not interested anymore--and won't talk about it. "Later" she says. My patience? How many years?

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      9 years ago

      this is good stuff, in fact while i was reading, i felt like i should tell my man that i love him and appreciate and you know what he had to call me to say thank you and he was so happy. sincerely, today you have made my day. thanks so much for sharing.

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      9 years ago

      I feel sorry for writer83, you have obviously been badly hurt and betrayed on more than one occasion by men. One of the 10 Rules For A Human Being (anon) states:

      "Lessons are repeated until they are learned. A lesson will be presented to you in various forms until you have learned it. When you have learned it, you can go on to the next lesson."

      It would appear that, if you have had repeated similar bad experiences with men, then YOU are doing something wrong. This lies either in your sense of self-worth that you repeatedly attract/are attracted to disloyal men, thinking (uncosciously) that you don't deserve any better, or else or else you are not treating them as they feel they should be treated and they begin to look elsewhere for whatever it is that they are not getting from you.

      This is not blame, it is reality. Oh, and by the way, it also comes from a man who was faithful to his last partner for nearly fifteen year up until three months after the break-up (at her behest) including one year during which we were situated geographically at opposite ends of the earth and I was working in a field in which I was surrounded by young and, on the most part, fit and attractive women. Prior to the break we had not made love (initially due to her medical condition) more than twice in two years.

      There are men in this world who are trustworthy and trusting, I know a good many of them, but you have to deal with whatever is holding you back first.

      Good luck & I wish you love.

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      Wendy Iturrizaga 

      9 years ago from France

      fasam08 and writer83: Come on, I have met plenty of men who I could trust. In fact I DO trust more men than women.

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      9 years ago

      writer83 y do u think is that?

    • Princessa profile imageAUTHOR

      Wendy Iturrizaga 

      9 years ago from France

      Great to read about the variety of things that men would like to hear and the things that women say to please their men. Thanks for sharing.

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      9 years ago from UK

      Great hub, my best one is the one i hear when i get in from work "your tea is done!"

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      9 years ago from Central New Jersey

      I have a very good lady friend.I often make it a point to tell her that I'm honored to have you as a friend.Not all of us men are always feely-touchy.We do have needs.Thanks for sharing this.

    • abchs_princess profile image


      9 years ago

      Great hub!!! :) :)

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      9 years ago from Cyber Space

      trust and men dont go together in the same sentence !

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      Run Down Battery 

      9 years ago from UK

      agree with most of the sentiments here apart from, 'I trust you', which is far too much responsibility to place on any man or woman's shoulders? Trust is a much overated word that I would happily abolish. How do any of us know what's going to happen in the next second, let alone for the rest of our lives? Yup, this one would scare me off...

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      9 years ago

      very nice hub ... i always compliment him and he likes me for that .. even if he is down i am always by his side to encourage him. men also do want to hear sweet words from their partners and the most important they do look for the girl who truly cares for them ..

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      9 years ago

      As someone who recently split with his long-term partner (18 yrs)and having suffered psychological and emotional abuse in the form of very subtle put-downs during the last three years of the relationship, I would give this advice to any woman who wants to enjoy a fulfilling and meaningful with a man.

      It doesn't take a lot to make a man feel good; give him (honest) compliments when he deserves them, tell your friends the good things about him, the good things he does and how he makes you feel good whilst he is within earshot.

      Finally, avoid put-downs, even those said in "fun". If I may quote the American 19th century author Henry David Thoreau, “The squirrel that you kill in jest, dies in earnest.” You might think it to be a little fun, but those little jibes made in fun can still hurt and, like the story of the boy told to hammer a nail into a fence each time he hurt someone, you may remove the nail with a subsequent kindness, but the hole where it once was remains.

      What do men want to hear? The same things as women do, kind words said in earnest.

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      Wendy Iturrizaga 

      9 years ago from France

      stephensaldana: Thanks for sharing your opinion. That is exactly what I was aiming to do, help people strengthen their relationships.

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      9 years ago from Chicago

      This hub can be regarded as one of the most intriguing hub. The information shared is interesting one. The tips like I like you, I trust you, you are the best sounds fabulous. The hub will certainly going to strengthen the relationship. The clarity and balance shine from this hub.

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      9 years ago from California

    • Princessa profile imageAUTHOR

      Wendy Iturrizaga 

      9 years ago from France

      DREAM ON: LOL, that's a good one, I can't believe I forgot that one!

      antonrosa: it works like a mirror, maybe if you tell her more of these things, she'll start doing the same for you :-)

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      9 years ago from USA

      Very interesting. I would like to hear more of that from my wife.

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      DREAM ON 

      10 years ago

      You came up with a nice hub.Simple works for me.Don't stop now. One more time honey.


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