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What do you see when you look in the mirror?
My Own Worst Enemy?
I'm not sure if I'm a narcissist of some kind, but I've spent an inordinant amount of time looking at myself in the mirror. Sometimes I'm admiring my eyes, wondering why my teeth are crooked, messing with my hair, agonizing over whether or not to pop the latest pimple, or just making stupid faces for the hell of it.
In all this time, though, I have discovered something interesting: my face never looks worse than it does in the bathroom mirror. I mean this both literally and metaphorically. There's something about bathroom lighting, combined with the light-colored reflective tiles, that seems to accentuate every little flaw. It's hard not to feel self-conscious when your every physical shortcoming is just thrown in your face.
I'll say this, though: Any time I've seen my reflection in a mirror anywhere else, I don't look half bad. I'm not a dreamboat, sure, but I'm not the bony goblin I see in the bathroom mirror. Now, granted, pretty much anybody looks attractive if they're far away enough, but there's a simple and important point here. If you put yourself under the light and call your every little flaw into question, you're going to judge yourself more harshly than you deserve.
I think it's easier on people with a full-length mirror, though. They have the ability to step back a bit and take in the whole picture. That makes all the difference. When you step back and look at all the good things you have going for you, your flaws won't hold your attention.
So, if you have the opportunity, I recommend you take a step back from the mirror and allow yourself to get the big picture. Allow yourself to stop sweating the small things, and you might just like what you see.
And in case you hadn't guessed, I'm not exactly talking about mirrors anymore. Let that marinate for a while, okay? And remember, don't sweat the small stuff. Life's too short for that.