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What does it really mean to you...LOVE?
Love...a word that is sometimes used in situations where there really isn't love. Whether it be in a romantic relationship, friendship, family, etc., do we, do I truly understand? There is so much I want to say but hopefully I don't go all over the place.
I like to make mix CDs for when I'm riding around in my car, I usually have an average commute of about 45 minutes on most days to wherever I'm going. Well anyways a few weeks, after just doing alot of thinking on certain events that have transpired, I attended a friend of mine's wedding, then I started hearing about alot of people getting divorces, people in marriages who were having troubles, people settling for unfruitful relationships in friends and also romantically, and of myself and my current status...The word LOVE continually rang in my ears. The biblical definition of love was my ultimate source of understanding of course...
"Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails...."~1 Corinthians 13:4-5a
So back to the CD, I just did a search through my collection on my computer, by just typing love and many songs came up. Songs about God's love, what true love is, the love that was worth the wait, how to not go looking for love that it will come your way, love that stretched out to peeople who were less fortunate, sick, about to give up, etc.
As I sat in my car as I usually do, I turned up the music and absorbed the lyrics of these various songs, I really listened to them and I still listen to that CD today. Love...man all these years dealing with the version that wasn't love at all.
I was able to sit back and think about those past relationships that weren't love at all, they were selfish, self seeking, envious, jealous...why did I waste my time? I thought of the people who were having issues with their marriages and then I thought of that new and fresh love...and then I thought of my true love...Jesus.
I had to reflect...in spite of myself, in spite of what I do to Him, the good, the bad and the ugly, in spite of how I see myself, and not always in the best light, He takes care of me when I don't take care of myself. He loves, me accepts and wants to be with me forever. He wants to hold me all the time, He wants to comfort me and cherish me. His love has so many functions it also protects me and corrects me, not afraid to show me that what I do at times is not beneficial.
Could I expect any human being to possibily do that for me? No... I can't and like me and other men and women alike we sometimes look to that person that we are interested in or in relationship with as that hope...But that is an equation that will never add up. When your perspective changes, you know that the person is imperfect will mess up, you can better understand and know that whatever God brings to you is for his purpose. Don't get twisted folks yes I do desire to be married one day, but God is showing me day by day my love for him has to be number one, no making anyone an idol, or even an idea an idol.
And people seek love so much that they settle for someone just because they are there. Yes I've been there before, but I'm like life is too short to be yoked up with someone that is not a good thing. Why waste my time on something unfruitful life? God promised us peace, and he promised us his love, do you think he would would want you in a situation where none of that is occuring?? Ok I think I have ran off enough for now...
"And now, Lord, what do I wait for? My hope is in You." (Psalms 39:7 MKJV)
"Jehovah is good to those who wait for Him, to the soul who seeks Him." (Lamentations 3:25 MKJV)
~Dilemma (S.O.U.L.ed Out Creations 2007)