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What happened to True Love?
Years ago there was such thing as true love. People stayed by each other's side through thick and thin. Now in today's times things have changed. Everything is either about money or sex.
Many girls today are after guys who have money. The sad thing is not every guy has a lot of money. Just because a guy does not have a lot of money, does not mean he is not a good guy. Not all guys who are struggling are in a bad future. Some just didn't chose the right professions or weren't responsible with it when they were younger. That doesn't mean that they can't build their life back.
Some girls feel that if a guy does not spend a lot of money on a first date that the date has to end. They don't focus on the guy they are with. They don't focus on other good points that he has and know that things can change in the future. Not everything stays the same. If a guy is in his early 20's of course he can't afford a lot but that does not mean that in the future he can't. No one knows what the future holds. To ruin a good thing because of money is wrong.
Other people make sex be a deal breaker in a relationship. While sex is an important part of a relationship because it deepens the bond between two people who love each other it does not mean the end of a relationship. People who feel that they have to end a relationship over sex are shallow. When you love someone you love them for who they are and sometimes the physical stuff ends up getting better as time goes on. To end something good over sex is wrong though.
Things get tough and instead of making it work people break up. Sometimes they cheat. Years ago they would have found a way to make it work. Now people are lazy and just call it quits because they feel that they can't handle it.
Now if someone is abusing you or hurting you that is one thing. If you hit a snag though you should overcome your differences and find ways to gain the love back instead of just giving up.
When you really love someone you do not want to give up on that person. You fight for that person as much as possible.
What ever happened to being with someone for who they are on the inside? Looking at what is in their heart? Don't you want someone who cares about you and who will be there for you through thick and thin? There is more to a relationship than to how much money someone spent on you and how good the sex was. True love is having someone be there for you when times get hard. It's having someone that you know you can always count on, the person accepts you as you are and loves you unconditionally.
You could have someone spend money on you and you could still not be happy. True happiness has to come from the person you are with. Just because you go on a fancy date does not mean you will be happy. Sure you will have temporary happiness but if he does not love you it does not matter.
You could go to an expensive restaurant and he could be flirting with the waitress. You could go see a Broadway show and after it criticizing you and fight the whole way home. He could buy you expensive jewelry but you feel he isn't emotionally available.
Then you could have a guy who is a hard worker and isn't rich but cares a lot about you. He tells everyone he knows how much he loves and cares for you. He supports you and always wants to know how your day is going.
The guy who wants to know how your day is going and supports you will give you true happiness. You could be yourself around him and he is not only the guy you really like but he is also like your best friend. You know your heart is safe with him.
A lot of people do not focus on true love anymore. They think that money means respect. Just because someone spends money does not mean they are Mr. Wonderful. You have to look at the whole package. When you truly love someone you love them for who they are not what they could give you or how good the sex is. You also will do anything to make the relationship work. You will not want to give up on a good thing.