What Is Love? Noun, Adjective, Verb, or Something Else?
It Started Out As A Joke
So, I'm driving home doing some thinking, as usual and I begin to think about what love really is. Love has so many different meanings to different people, but is there truly one definition to it? Honestly, I don't know the answer to that, but I can give you my perception of it.
During my freshman year in college, I had a free spirited teacher for one of my GE English courses. One of our first homework assignments was to define what love was to us. At that point in my life I had been through a few bad relationships and my attitude toward love was basically non existent. So, for the assignment I defined love as "It's just a feeling and like all other feelings, it too shall pass." At the time it was just meant as a joke, but as I ponder this question about what love is today, it has become more of a serious answer.
Love is a feeling
What about that couple that has been married for 50+ years? I know would be a question I would get from someone who would defend love as to be so much more. I'm good at acknowledging the proposed and opposed of my argument and in my defense a marriage to me isn't based on everlasting love. Honestly, I believe in that 50 year span that couple has fallen in and out of love with each other numerous times. The understanding that a marriage isn't built on love alone is what keeps a couple trucking through the years rather than asking for a divorce when you feel unhappy. Making that marriage last requires you to know that love is just a feeling and like all other feelings, it too shall pass.
Yes, however, love would be a nice edition to the equation of marriage and essential to a happy one, but love does not hold any marriage or relationship together. You really want to know what kept that couple together for so long? Patience, understanding, forgiveness, acceptance and most of all TOLERANCE! It's one thing to love someone, but to be able to tolerate another person and their annoying habits day-in and day-out is something that a lot of people, especially in this day, can't handle. In my eyes, that's something that goes far beyond love. However, I do believe that the thought of love can bring tolerance.
What about your soul mate? I'll admit I do believe in kindred spirits, but I do not believe that there is only one true love for everyone. Love is something you will find time and time again. If your mate of 30 years passes and you feel you will never love again, you are wrong. You can definitely find love again. It's really just about making yourself available to love again. It's just a feeling and like all other feelings, it too shall pass.
So, if your still reading this and haven't figured out where I'm going with all this, then hang tight and read this next sentence. Love is just a feeling and like all other feelings, it too shall pass.