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What is cheating? One gal's opinion
Let me start off by saying that this is only my opinion on this subject.
There are various things that can label a person a cheater. For example, copying the answers from a school mate a school test or school assignments, and being unfaithful to a spouse. The list is endless. According to Merriam-Webster Online, there are several definitions of cheating. The definitions are as follows: 1: to deprive of something valuable by the use of deceit or fraud. 2: to influence or lead by deceit, trick or artifice. 3: to elude or thwart by or as if by outwitting <cheat death>. The definition continues with the following: 1 a: to practice fraud or trickery b: to violate rules dishonestly (cheat at cards> <cheating on a test>. 2: to be sexually unfaithful – usually used with on <was cheating on his wife>. 3: to position oneself defensively near a particular area in anticipation of a play in that area <the shortstop was cheating toward second base>.” Absolutely nothing positive comes from cheating.
Cheating in School
Another name for cheating in school is plagiarism. There are so many different ways for students to cheat. The newest, and most common, method of plagiarism is to use the Internet by simply copying and pasting the information. The Internet is filled with an abundance of topics that are used for essays students are assigned to write. In the students’ minds, copying an essay from an Internet site is an “easy out” to having to do the assignment; but in the school’s mind, this is cheating. Most students are given rules at the beginning of the year as to what classifies as cheating. The students must be reminded of these rules various times throughout the year, or the cheating behavior may persist.
Another way to cheat is looking at another student’s assignment or test and using their information to complete the work. A few other forms of cheating are writing answers on tiny sheets of paper and keeping them hidden under a test, writing answers on your hand, or just looking at a notebook that is lying on the floor, by the student, during test time. I am sure that there are many other ways for a student to cheat. Nevertheless cheating is sneaky and dishonest.
If a student is caught cheating, it can result in a failing grade and sometimes expulsion from school. That is not a good thing to be on a person’s school record, especially when trying to get a job. Some jobs require a degree, whether it is high school or college, and with plagiarism on record, a degree can be a hard thing to achieve.
The Cheating Spouse
In my opinion, cheating on a spouse is the worst kind of cheating. It is the seventh law of the Bible “You shall not commit adultery” (Exodus 20:14 NIV). If a person commits adultery, that person is disobeying God. What exactly is adultery? Matthew 5:28 states, “But I tell you that everyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” The Bible’s definition of adultery goes further than the definition given in the dictionary of “voluntary sexual intercourse between a married man and someone other than his wife or between a married woman and someone other than her husband.” The act of sexual intercourse does not need to be performed. Simply the thought of infidelity is grounds for adultery according to the verses.
I have seen television shows that focus on cheating spouses. Most of the time, the cheater blames the spouse for not giving them enough attention or not giving them enough sex. Sometimes the cheaters are forgiven, just as God forgave David in Psalm 51. But, sometimes cheating ends the relationship in divorce. Families are destroyed because of unfaithful acts. The consequences of cheating on your spouse are just not worth it.
Any way you look at it, cheating is dishonest, unethical, and just plain wrong. The consequences for cheating are sometimes horrific. The highest authority that anyone would have to deal with when cheating is God. Through his teaching we will all learn to live with positive moral attitudes and with an understanding that cheating, regardless of the severity, is, in fact, wrong.