- Gender and Relationships
What is hypocrisy? And what are the signs of hypocrites?
Hypocrisy simply means to present yourself as honest, upright and moral to the degree that you are willing to put others down and critique them for not having the same values ... when in fact you are nowhere near what you pretend to be... you are in fact doing what you have reprimanded others for. A few years ago, you may recall, there was a young man who worked for the New York Times by the name of Jayson Blair. Jayson would "embellish" or make up almost all of his stories and the New York Times knew it because they fired him once and then re-hired him. The guy could write... (too bad he didn't know about hubpages) and people were drawn to reading his writing... as long as the public wasn't the wiser the Times said nothing. However, as soon as public eyebrows began to raise... the New York Times basically threw him under the bus (as they should have done for his deceptive ways). Now, I stated all of that to say this to say that The New York Times was aware of Jayson's lying and awesome fictional writing skills of the past... Why didn't they check on the facts, why did they allow him to continue with one amazing story after the next? It seems here, ladies and gentlemen we have more than one act of hypocrisy... was it bad boy, you've been caught or was it bad boy - you shouldn't have been caught? Were they and the public outraged that he did it or were they outraged because they believed him. Hypocrisy is a sticky subject and motives/intent (which no one really knows except the individuals involved) are usually the determining factor.
Symptoms & Self Examination
Most individuals involved in hypocrisy are arrogant at the very least and most likely narcisist. They already believe that they are smarter, more creative and completely superior to humanity as a whole. They are selfish and self centered. (I am now going to get a little personal...) How many of us have done - on a smaller scale - what Blair took to a whole new level?
Take this scenario... You are chronically late to work by 20 minutes to 30 minutes a day... Your supervisor threatens a "write up" if you are late again. You arrive 20 minutes late to work but your boss didn't see you... what do you do? A) Call your boss and say, "I am 20 minutes late for work for the 4th time this week" B)Slip in your chair and fire up your computer without saying a word to anybody. C) Swear up and down that you were at work 20 minutes early you just had to run to your car for something?
Okay, that was pretty easy. Let's try another scene: You are speeding down the street in a school zone in the morning at 65 mph, to make things worse there is a four way stop sign... you slow roll through it and a cop pulls you over... what do you do?
A) smile ever so politely as you say "good morning, officer... what's the problem?" B) Start yelling at the officer about chasing real criminals C) state that you are new to the city and didn't know it was a school zone, didn't know why the kids were running - just figured they were late and ... was there a stop sign? D) quietly take the ticket
You are having a non-productive day at the office and decided to surf the web and type a "hub" during regular work hours... just can't concentrate today. Your supervisor walks up behind you, What do you say? What do you do?
A) Sigh deep and mutter something about being so stressed and that you were attempting to research the exact location of the office in question, while minimizing the window. B) You heard somebody approaching and you already had a word document up with a pre-typed letter on it that was sent last month but you pretend that you just finished typing it and you hit print ... and with a business (seriously fierce) look on your face you look your sup in the eye. C) You say sheepishly "oh gee, you caught me on the net again... I just can't seem to get it together tody... can we count that as my 3rd lunch today... I just won't take one for the rest of the week.)
Okay, I'm being a little over the top with the quiz but I think you are getting what I am saying. Sometimes we get all high and mighty about somebody lying to us when the majority of people in the world today... given a hard place to stand do not have the integrity to be honest and tell the truth. So does that mean we are all hypocrites. Well, let's look at that.
Signs of a Hypocrite
The first sign that you are dealing with a hypocrite is that they are always telling you that they are honest. Just as a light bulb doesn't have to tell you what it does or what it is...honest people do not have to advertise. Hypocrites always carry their angel wings and halo. If you catch them in a lie they always have a story, even if it doesn't make sense, as to why they didn't do, why they did,... they are quite imaginative. Hypocrites are the first to point the finger and will never accept responsibility for any mishap, mistake or error. Lastly, hypocrites make a lot of noise... my mother used to say an empty can makes a lot of noise... it is true. There mouth is always going... they are always running for the positive limelight and like roaches they scurry for darkness when the results for negative behaviors are being served. It is never their fault! Their intent is to decieve in an effort to present themselves in the best possible light. Their motivation is to look good at any cost. So if you have a halo, wings and a nice fluffy white robe and you are still alive... you just might be -