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What men hate: 8 things that turn men off
1. Contentious women.
This is a very defensive person. Who is always ready to pick a quarrel, fight or give some sassy remark. They want to proof themselves right and whole world wrong. They have a chip on their shoulder. These types of women are very difficult to be around much less live with. They can easily provoke a man to anger, to the point of aggression and violence. Men tend to create a wide birth around any such woman.
While men love to be taken care of they hate being mothered. It annoys them to be treated like a child. Don’t think it is your duty to get him into shape. Mothering also include smothering and doting on him – like telling him what to do, when to do it and how to do it. “Why you don’t go and get some sleep or brush your teeth?” Men like to be nurtured not mothered.
I think that some women are better than the CIA, M15 and KGB all put together. They interrogate and investigate stealthily. Checking anything from telephone bill to receipt slips found in your pocket. They want to know who the man spoke to , why they are calling you and what your conversation was all about. While it may be necessary at some point to do these, when a man finds himself subject to any of them, it really annoys him. Men like to be trusted and not feel that their privacy is being invaded.
If a man feels you are trying to catch him out he will clam up, shut down and wall you out from their inner world. The moral here is to devote your energy to building a NEST rather than a NET.
No body likes to be owned, especially men. Treating a man like he is your personal property is a sure recipe for romantic failure. They will run a mile. Trying to control who he speaks and associate with is wrong. While it is natural to feel a little pang of jealousy when he gives other people the attention you want to be only yours, overtly trying to control his interactions with others may make him feel your are paranoid. Paranoia is not very attractive, in fact it is very repulsive.
5. Clingy and neediness
A clingy person is like a burden. They emotionally depend on you for everything. It is as if you have to be responsible for their very existence. Responsible for making them happy, glad, excited and pleased. They look to you to entertain them and get things moving for them. Without you life is dull and boring.
Nobody likes to be around these type of people. Sometimes they stoop to what I call emotional blackmail. They threaten to harm or even kill themselves if hey don’t get what they want – You!
Men see such women as people to AVOID at all cost. Such women usually get treated like floor mats. Men simply use, abuse and confuse them. Because they are so dependent on men to be happy, then the men use this as tool to manipulate them.
This is the corollary one of the above. In other words you weave your world around his. He becomes your existence or you live for him. You have no life of your own. This is most dangerous because you will soon find that you can’t live without him. You become attached or emotionally enmeshed. Men hate this because somehow you become his responsibility, a weight to be carried around.
In fact he begins to treat you like rubbish and his respect just diminish; he doesn’t respect you anymore. .
7. Invasion of personal space
He doesn’t like you invading his privacy, checking his telephone bills and looking into his mobile, eavesdropping on his telephone conversations and wanting to know all his whereabouts. This is very obnoxious to men. He feels as if he is losing his freedom and men love freedom. He will drop you like a hot potato if he feels you are invading his space.
8. A brawling woman
It is better to live in the corner of the rooftop than with a brawling woman the Good Book says. Such a woman is uncultured and uncouth. Most men love ladylikeness. They love feminine women who know how to behave and carry themselves. Most men avoid women who do not have class or culture about them.