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What men over 50 want in a relationship

Updated on May 20, 2013

What are men seeking in a woman


men and relationships

Okay ladies, here it is. I have done a poll by asking men what it is that they truly want in a relationship.

I realize that one of the most common ways to meet men, is online dating sites. Many have also have more than their share of horrific experiences. I understand this, as I have also had my share. So I decided to rethink the whole process of finding a good man.

What I came up with may surprise many of you. So just for now I ask you to put aside all your bad memories of online dating, and I will share with you what I found out direct from men.

What men want from a relationship

to not be alone, lonely

Someone to love and wake up next to

sharing life's ups and downs together, good and bad.

the rest of the answers I will put in across a line of type, as there are many.

l) A need to have someone in my life to cherish 2) I am a hopeless romantic and love to be in love 3) It is no fun doing things alone, travel, dining, walking on the beach etc. etc.

Someone to share life's up and downs to share this life with, A partner who is your love and lover, Your best friend and all that that entails.

What men want in a relationship

Love, Someone to share everything with

Love, Companionship and trust

Honesty, Communication and Romance

Love, Respect, to share the ups and downs, Honesty that brings out the outer beauty and trust, inner beauty, security and simplicity.

Being in love, sharing love, someone to talk to and confide in, honesty about both of our shortcomings

to give unconditional love, to share and communicate, to accept each other and our individuality.

First they want a relationship because they don't have one, companionship to not be alone,

sharing our interests, communication, lifestyle decisions together, social life and activities, home and a future, intimacy.

love , my soulmate, who enriches my life.

to find the missing part in life that makes me whole, to love and be loved for who we both are.

a very special friend, a loving partner,

A partner in life, A person to talk with, without judgement, and being judged,

A person to strive for a common goal with.

Men in love

Thank you to the men who answered this questions

They will remain anonymous, but by speaking to me and being honest in their responses they have helped.

To all the women out there, me included, who have misunderstood, had failed relationships, gotten hurt, and wonder where the nice guys are. I can say with a healed heart, that they are out there. You just have to talk to them. Ask the right questions, and really ask the ones that have meaning to you. They are more than happy to tell you.

If you do not ask, you will not know whom you are dating. So Date on purpose, ask them, and above all be honest, it is never to late to find Mr. Right, and hey even Mr. Right ON .

Please share below, would love to hear from you


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      Demas W Jasper 

      20 months ago from Today's America and The World Beyond

      I like what Rodney Dangerfield is purported to have replied when asked if he would ever marry again: "No. I'm just going to find a woman I don't like and give her a house!"

      Actually, he did marry again and when he died she did get the house.

      My key would be to find a woman who sees you for what you are, accepts you for what you are, and has the love and courage to forgive you for what you aren't.

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      21 months ago

      I think both should look in the mirror and realize that their expectations may be a bit too high and then come to their senses.

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      2 years ago

      Before anything can happen on a on line dating site such as POF age restrictions should not be an obstacle.

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      2 years ago

      those are some good lines... actually not so good...

      If a man has money... he will pay as you go...

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      2 years ago

      i just want to meet a 4' tall woman with a flat head. no teeth and her father owns a liquor store

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      John Hansen 

      3 years ago from Queensland Australia

      Hi Jaydene, good advice here. Being a man over 50 (though married) if I was asked what I wanted in a relationship I would give the same answers as the men you surveyed, so I agree that your hub is spot on for at least 95% of guys. With younger guys it is often a much different story. Well done.

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      3 years ago

      Words are not enough! Mostly what I hear is: just companion ship without commitment!

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      Andre Chandler 

      4 years ago

      Hi Jaydene... You were on my page on a certain site :) .. and for some reason I could't message you. My screen name there is LaMans.. and I'm a Webmaster. I would like to hook up on Skype to discuss a couple of things that may interest you. Let me know. I'm on Linkedin as well.

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      5 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

      Thank you Alocsin, I appreciate that we really do mature in time, and really get to know what we really value in life :)

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      5 years ago from Orange County, CA

      As someone in the demographic you mentioned, I can attest to your words being true. At that age, you also are more focused on the inside of a person rather than the exterior appearance. Voting this Up and Interesting.

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      5 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

      I totally agree with you:)

      we need to get to the core of what we really want before we can realize our mate standing before us .

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      Peter Messerschmidt 

      5 years ago from Port Townsend

      It's hard to generalize, of course... but I think most people (of both genders) basically want to be SEEN and HEARD... and to feel safe to be completely themselves without any need to impress or put on airs.

      I think where we run into trouble is that we often have a good "story" about who and what our perfect is like... but often those requirements are far from the reality "nuts and bolts" that result in amazing relationships.

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      5 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

      thank you Audrey, i do agree and think you are right

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      Audrey Howitt 

      5 years ago from California

      Perhaps there is not so much difference between the sexes at that point in time--great hub!

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      5 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

      Thank you for your comment, I appreciate your list ideas, and it may be that number 9 and 10 are the most difficult to find :)

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      5 years ago

      Good morning Jadene from your fellow Canadian Colin at lake erie time ontario canada 1:29am while listening to Muddy Waters and grooving on your hub presentation of world class proportions and offering up a tongue in cheek (and sincere too) top ten list of what Epi-man who is 54 years young is looking for in a woman:

      10. Someone who is wealthy and can support me

      9. Did I just mention a rich woman?

      8. So there you go ......

      7. but seriously folks,

      6. she is the sunrise over my lake

      5. ..... in the morning

      4. and the full moon at night.

      3. She is a woman who will touch my soul

      2. and free my mind

      1. and give me the love of a lifetime

      and bonus:

      I will give her this love back with our two hearts beating as one.

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      5 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

      glad you liked it. Me too am still looking for this man .

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      5 years ago

      perfect! you hit the nail on the head! i really can't think of anything to add! and i'm still

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      5 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

      BrtBell, thank you for your comment. Yes I think that is key to making the right choices . Life can be better shared with the right one. :)

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      Randi Benlulu 

      5 years ago from Mesa, AZ

      Hi jaydene! Great article, great ideas. This is wonderful.."Date on purpose" Something anyone out there who wants a real relationship should be doing. Thank you!

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      5 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

      Hi , thank you so much for your input, as what you have said is very important for a relationship. I am glad that you found a solid relationship :)

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      5 years ago

      Interesting and I agree with most of the content. As for me...I have someone who allows me to be me as I allow her to be her. It is this basis plus a mutual respect and trust that our relationship was built. The connection was always there for us when we were friends and we let it grow without force until it turned into deep love...The truth of what this man wants (and has) is a best friend that compliments my personality without having to worry about being someone I am not...cheers (and I am not even 50)

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      5 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

      Hi, well yes this can happen also. At least we know they start with good intentions :) Thanks for you comment.

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      5 years ago from Virginia

      My last boyfriend was close to this age. He said that he wanted all these things as well. In the end though I think what he wanted was a bit different than what he said. This is a very interesting Hub, I enjoyed reading the results of your survey.


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