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Your dating profile sucks and here's why

Updated on February 24, 2011

When it comes to writing online dating profiles the truth must be present

How is it that online dating profiles for women never mention anything about their ‘not so good’ qualities. We all have them, right? Why is it that women who post online dating profiles never want to admit who they really are.

  • For instance the profile of username Looking for a friend who writes: I don't want anybody who plays games. I'm honest and I expect the same. I'm sweet and looking for a nice person to have fun with. I like fishing, camping, gargening, swimming and the outdoors. I enjoy music .
  • And this one from Looking for a good guy; I'm a single mom to an 8 year old daughter. Looking to get back into school but between 2 jobs and helping with school work there isnt much free time. I'm a huge blue jackets and ohio state fan. Enjoy
  • And one more from look no further for happiness, I'm a down to earth girl, looking for someone to make memories with. I am hard working, devoted, passionate, and love my family and friends. I would love to meet someone who shares the same values and Columbus Ohio

Nothing, Nada, Zilch, about how they’re single because of the knife stuck in their last partners back before the door knob got cold (you’ll get that one later). Nor is there any mention of how they pick their noses unconsciously when they first wake up, fart and then continue to dig in case they missed something. They didn’t even mention that in addition to the two kids they lovvvvve so much (and of course that man will too), they have 20 cats, 3 dogs and gold fish that keep dying. Where is the truth in all this abstracted fantasy?

With so many reality TV shows (that are oh so real – NOT) one might conclude by reading these online dating profiles that women who troll the internet looking for their ‘soul mate’ are as flawed on the inside as the intentional flaws we see from reality television.

Ladies here is the 411; tell the truth about who you are and not just your situation. Dating and finding dates only becomes complicated when two people are unsure of what to expect from each other. If those expectations are revealed upfront, there is more of a chance that something might stick.

Here is a good example: Hey there. I’m new to the site so bare with me. I thought it would be cool to see what I can attract in this sea of available bachelors; and if something bites, great; if not at least I had fun. And yes, I do like to have fun. I will try anything at least once and within the law <lol>. I am fearfully flawed so if you’re looking for perfection – keep pressing that search button. I like to have genuine conversations. That means that if we’re on the phone and I have to listen to you beat your dog and play Xbox with your buddies, instead of talking with me – again, keep searching. I hate describing myself in writing (to trivial) and not the greatest depiction of what I might look like at 7 in the AM <lol>. Check the pic, it’s me and not much has changed.

This is a decent description of what this user is looking for and what the potential suitor can expect. What do you think? Would you respond ? Don't be shy if you are one of the flagrant violators; just go and fix it!

Source:

“Columbus chatrooms , Columbus chat , Columbus sexy girls." Plentyoffish.com N.p., n.d. Web. 24 Feb. 2011 <http://www.plentyoffish.com/personals/497onlinedating14.htm>.

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    • kellysgirl profile imageAUTHOR

      Mrs Campbell 

      7 years ago from Atlanta, GA

      Like Rachel, I am a people watcher, and not just in real life. I like to see how people promote themselves and I swear I have not found many profiles where the woman says anything negative. I think I'll do a study on dating profiles. Any tips?

    • lindagoffigan profile image

      lindagoffigan 

      7 years ago from Phoenix, Arizona

      kellysgirl, this is lindagoffigan on hubpages and was impressed with your profile. Sooner if not later the truth always comes out with these online profile and most often on the first face to face date. I enjoyed reading what you wrote.

    • kellysgirl profile imageAUTHOR

      Mrs Campbell 

      7 years ago from Atlanta, GA

      Tell me about it Rachel. I was single for a long while before I met my hubby. Dating was getting exhausting - I got tired of the mess and had little tolerance for games. My thing is just be yourself and if that other person can't deal - so be it. And it doesn't stop when you're in a relationship either. There are times when I have to remind my husband that I don't wake up looking glamorous and days when I don't even want to. Thanks for the accolades.

    • rachelsholiday profile image

      rachelsholiday 

      7 years ago

      I love your hubs so much! It's definitely true that we, as a society, focus to much on perfection. People need to remember that often times the reason you fall in love with someone is because of their imperfections, not their perfections.

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