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What to Expect on a First Date With A Guy?

Updated on November 9, 2019
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1. Expect To Pay For Your Own Meal (If He Doesn't)

Things have changed since your mother and grandmother went on a date! Because things have changed socially and women have become self-reliant as far as finances are concerned. And if the man you are going out on a date with has the same views as far as women's lib is concerned, expect him to not shell out a lot of money. I am not saying you should not let him pay if he insists, but in the case where he doesn't want to pay, you should be ready to open your wallet.

And if the man you are going out on a date with has the same views as far as women's lib is concerned, expect him to not shell out a lot of money. I am not saying you should not let him pay if he insists, but in the case where he doesn't want to pay, you should be ready to open your wallet.

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2. Expect To Talk About Yourself

This is especially hard if you are an introvert. You don't really know how to start a conversation and keep it going. But here's the thing: you don't really have to a super conversationalist in order have a fun talk. All you need to do is be confident. Because it's a first date, he would expect you to say something, so definitely be ready for that. If talking about yourself doesn't come naturally to you then it wouldn't hurt to maybe giving it a little thought about the things you'd like to talk about.

All you need to do is be confident. Because it's a first date, he would expect you to say something, so definitely be ready for that. If talking about yourself doesn't come naturally to you then it wouldn't hurt to maybe giving it a little thought about the things you'd like to talk about.

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3. Expect Some Awkwardness

Most of the first dates don't go the way they do in the movies, by which I mean, you may not madly fall in love with each other at first sight. Granted, you two perhaps have some similarity but don't expect to be on the same page as far as your date's expectations go. It's possible that either you or your date want different things from the date and you should respect that. For instance, maybe you touch upon a sensitive topic and he tells you not to, don't be offended even though it may seem a bit strange in the beginning. He has a right to feel a certain way and so do you.

It's possible that either you or your date want different things from the date and you should respect that. For instance, maybe you touch upon a sensitive topic and he tells you not to, don't be offended even though it may seem a bit strange in the beginning. He has a right to feel a certain way and so do you.

4. Expect To Listen To Him

It's true that you don't know this guy you are going out on a date with and if he turns out to be talkative, know that you'd are pretty much stuck on this date with him. At any point if you fee like the guy is boring you, all you need to do is stay patient and try and contribute to a conversation. As long as he is not disrespecting you, you don't have to walk out. Take it as a good lesson on handling different kinds of people, you may need it in a different setting some day.

At any point if you fee like the guy is boring you, all you need to do is stay patient and try and contribute to a conversation. As long as he is not disrespecting you, you don't have to walk out. Take it as a good lesson on handling different kinds of people, you may need it in a different setting some day.

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5. Expect To Not Be On The Same Page When It Comes To Sex

The most awkward part of all is when your date wants to have sex after first date and you are totally on a different page. Or it could be the other way. Perhaps, you thought that there was some chemistry and you would indeed land up in bed, but unfortunately he was just not that into you! However, if you are interested and he is too then don't let anyone tell you that it's not okay to have sex on first day. It's all good as long as you are comfortable with it.

Perhaps, you thought that there was some chemistry and you would indeed land up in bed, but unfortunately he was just not that into you! However, if you are interested and he is too then don't let anyone tell you that it's not okay to have sex on first day. It's all good as long as you are comfortable with it.

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    • dashingscorpio profile image

      dashingscorpio 

      4 months ago from Chicago

      Great advice!

      Too often awkwardness of a first date is due to the fact many people say "yes" to going out with someone without having established any real rapport. It's kind of like being a door to door salesperson making cold calls. A few actual phone conversations should give you an indication if there potentially is some chemistry, compatibility, and genuine attraction between you before agreeing to go out.

      Your "Mate selection/screening process" should begin before investing time and money on a date. If there has been no flirtatious banter back and forth, no laughter, or overall positive upbeat feeling about him or her via conversations you've had over the phone there's a good chance the "first date" will probably be the last date.

      Lastly having established some real rapport prior to a first date helps one reduce the nervous jitters often associated with a first date. Some people get so wound up and nervous at the prospect of a first date. Relax! No one is asking to decided on whether to cut the red wire or the blue wire. It's just a date!

      Plan to enjoy the meal, concert, play, festival, or whatever activity.

      It's one thing to go with a guy you think is "hot" and another thing to go out with a guy you "like". The worst case scenario with the second one is you may end up making a new friend. You can't have too many of those.

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