- Gender and Relationships
What to Expect when Dating a Younger Man
When the cougar claws come out...
You could be the type that swears that you would never be involved with younger men. Anytime you read of a couple their age difference is very important to you. The fact that she is older or younger than the man is even more important to you.
But no matter how much you have vowed to never be involved with a younger man, you will at some point in your life get approached by a younger man or men. No woman can ever escape this fact. Some men do no seem to care about the age difference while some see it as a challenge that they would love to tackle. Some are curious. Some adore older women. Some want a sugar-mummy. Others want to be mothered. Or maybe you look younger than your age and he still wants you when he finds out your real age. Or he finds you attractive and just likes you just as you are. Well, they all have their own reasons.
So you always vowed to never be involved with a younger man but here you are.You are dating or about to date a younger man. Never say never.
Some men do not want to be reminded of the age factor so you better learn to never bring it up. Be honest about your real age and leave it at that. I once read a story about a 26 year old man who thought he was involved with a 24 year old woman but when he one day snooped through her papers he found out she was 40! He left her.
There's nothing you can do about your age. There's nothing to be embarrassedconfident about your age when you meet someone new. Embrace it as it is. You might not be comfortable telling out your age to everybody but when you are in a relationship you really do not have a choice. Some men would not want to be involved with an older woman, some do not like women who lie about their age so be open about it from the start. Just say it and let the man decide.embarrassed
Dating a younger man could be strange to you. You never imagined you would ever date a younger man but somehow you are involved with one and you probably do not know what to expect with him. Here are some hints;
Most of them are in it for Fun and not Commitment
It excites some men to be involved with an older woman. But some might not want to get too involved in it. Societal expectations are to blame. Men are expected to be older, taller and more financially stable than the women. Therefore most of the younger men you will meet are going to be have less qualities of a husband. He could be earning less than her. He just wants to spend his money on simple things and cannot imagine raising a family with that money and with her since his money will not make sense to her. He is excited to be her man but he doesn't trust that he could be sufficient for her. So he settles on what he is sure he can offer her - fun. So long as she does not start talking about commitment and serious matters like marriage and children he is willing to involved with her.
They still have Female "Best-Friends"
"Most of them have female "bffs" (best friends forever). As a grown woman you have been through most types of relationships and you know for a fact that some ideals are fallacies. You have seen it all. You do not believe that a man and a woman cannot be just friends. But he has several female friends and insists on keeping them. He goes out with them. He wants you to believe that men and women can innocently "be tight" and will accuse you of being clingy and jealous if you show signs of being territorial.
You have to keep up with the young blood and dress the part
You have to look great all the time. Younger men are vain. They are shallow. They are attracted by the outward looks and the material aspects of a woman. Watch out you could start dressing up as young as his peers just to fit in. You cannot act your age anymore when you are with him. You want to feel and seem young. While your friends are dressing up as women their age you are struggling to dress up as women his age.
He could easily pressure you into a bad habit
While you try to prove to him that you can fit into his age group he will notice that he can influence you. That's how women involved with younger men suddenly get involved in drug use and drug peddling. Or in robberies. Be careful about being involved with a younger man who has a bad influence in you because you will find yourself involved in his bad habits. Even older people get into peer pressure. It's a shame when your peer pressure is a man you could mould into the man you want him to be.
They are more energetic than men your age
Younger men of whichever age are more energetic than their older female counterparts. It's mainly psychological. He feels he's younger and therefore more energetic than you so expect that in the bedroom and everywhere else for as long as you will be together.
He has a younger "main" woman
He is with you for casual reasons but he has a woman with him he has serious plans. If you provide for him financially chances are high that you are also providing for her through him. He couldn't imagine ever being involved with an older woman but you came to his life with goodies and he likes it because it enables him to sustain his other woman. You could unknowingly provide for a younger man with his full secret family.
Not all younger men are the same
You can be involved with a man who simply sees you as an older woman with whom he cannot have serious plans with. But you could also meet a younger man who truly does treasure you and has no issues with your age and so it is unfair to paint them all with the same brush. Some might be really great long-term companions. When you get involved with younger man give him the chance to show you how he intends to impact your life. Sometimes, age really is nothing but just a number. And don't we know some couples who have been together for ages despite the fact that the lady is older than her man? So go on, give the man a chance.