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What to do When Your Husband Cheats
Tell Tell Signs of a Cheating Husband
Every now and then you pick fights with your husband who was previously a very understanding man but now a totally changed man. Therefore it is high time you get to know what is really up with him.
Most cheating husbands will want to quarrel with you so that they had an excuse to storm out from the house. The truth is once outside the house, they can go out to meet their lovers. Some even will go out late at night claiming that they have to meet up with friends which in this case is the lover.
Another thing you can note in a cheating husband is that he will be really over protective when you want to use his phone. They want to cover up the secret calls they make to their lovers. Some will even start being nice to you. Nice meaning more than normal. In most cases they do this because of guilt and they feel that what they are doing is not right but they cannot stop.
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What can you do when know the truth?
The above are just signs but sometimes they are not accurate. So before you confront your husband about cheating, then make sure that you have the facts. Before finally you can decide to go for a divorce, there are a couple of steps that you can go through;
1) Talk about it
After you feel that you have enough facts about the affair, you can now confront him and talk about it. Tell him how you are betrayed by his actions and you want him to stop it. Ask to see if you are the reason why it all started. Sometimes you may have been the driving force in the first place for the affair to begin. May be he felt like you were not giving him enough attention or you're busy with your work.
If in the event it happens that you were too much busy with your work and neglected his feelings, then it is time to cut back on your working schedule and make time for your husband.
2) About the other woman
Do not waste your time on the other woman. She is not worth your time. Also calling her threatening, calling names and harassing will just lead you to the wrong side of the law. In this case she will not take any orders from you about ending the affairs. The best way to deal with this is to talk directly to your husband about the issue.
Do not drag her name or refer to her whenever you have a fight with your husband. It will be more about her instead of solving the real problem between the two of you.
More Steps That You Can Take
3) Seek support/help from professionals
Most people do not have the skills on how to deal with marriage problems, so do not go to friends with your problems. Most friends will just advice based on their personal reasons. Visit a qualified marriage counsellor or therapist. They are qualified to listen to every side of the story and advice you accordingly on the next step to take. Talking about the way you feel things are in the marriage will help open up things you were afraid to tell your husband.
4) Take time to reflect and heal
After establishing what is the real problem with your marriage. Take time to reflect on the next step. Although time will not heal the scars left by the affair, but it presents an opportunity for you to do the right thing with your marriage. In most cases you give your husband a second chance and change if you were the reason for the affair.
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Most women today see divorce as the only answer but they fail to understand that maybe the next man you run to will just be the same as your ex. Learn about how to deal with your marriage issues internally before making the big decision.
Especially if you have children in the marriage, think of how the children will relate to your divorce. Make your children believe that in a marriage there are challenges and you can always solve them without divorcing