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The Single Life

Updated on October 2, 2019

Dating Today

I know about dating today because I pay attention to what my nieces and nephews are out there doing, and because my friend Melissa just got divorced and is out there with the best of them. She's not the only one either. A male friend of mine who's never been married is back out there in the market looking for love again. Phil alerted the social media as soon as he broke up with his long time girlfriend, I guess he didn't care if anyone thought anything about it. He just wanted to let people know his status. I think it's a good idea. Otherwise how would anyone know? Maybe he could reach someone in the same situation at the same time.Karl, another single friend of mine says dating today is exciting. He lets his women friends know that he's not looking for something long lasting because he says he can't see that far ahead. He just enjoys every new day

I guess this is the way it is now. Only, I do think you can meet people at functions all over the city. Whether it's a fundraiser, an art opening, a concert, a play, or an evening on the town you can meet people who like the same things you do. It's just a matter of getting out there and circulating as they say.

It is hard though when things don't seem to be working out for the best in the dating market. Melissa says, the guys don't care what you've got going, they still, even in this day and age expect you to bend over backwards for them. Their career comes first. Their children come first. Your hometown location becomes their decision. The car you drive becomes something they want control over. I guess they want to put you off for a week or two to see other people too. I could go on with all of the things she's talked about.She says they don't even want to give you a back massage anymore, if you can believe that? What's going on here. They used to at least want to do that in an effort to make something else happen.

Phil on the other hand feels that his perfect woman is out there. He says he isn't scarred from the ups and downs of dating over the years. Although he's had women take off on him on a whim, and he didn't even know why. Then he started talking to someone. Someone he could trust.. He went to his good friend who has a lot of experience with relationships. They talked once a week over a couple of beers for about a year. After that they just went out to play once a week and they still do. I know Phil's love life comes up during their conversations but now he seems to have rationalized the dating thing. He believes that each moment with a women is precious. He says he just savors the present with the women he dates.

From observing the single people I know I feel there are many out there who want what they want no matter what you want. They'll do anything to change you no matter how great you are to start with. They seem to want control.

One of my nieces just seems to care whether or not she has a boyfriend. I can't blame her, it is nice to have someone you can do anything with no matter what. Another of my neices doesn't care if she has a boyfriend or not. She just keeps getting better and better on her own.

So you see dating today is what you want it to be. Just because you hear about the worst doesn't mean that's all that's out there, The main thing about being single is to take advantage of any opportunity to meet people. The bigger the selection of dates the better for you.


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