- Gender and Relationships
What's in a name, Susan
What runs through your head if and when you meet a person called Susan? For me it is "oh no here we go again" Don't ask me why I have problems with people called Susan but I do.
If I look back at my various workplaces over the last forty plus years a wide variety of women called Susan spring to mind. They do not do so in a warm, friendly way but rather as an unpleasant experience.
Online those people called Susan, or using that name as a pen name, have not been problematic. In the flesh it has been a different scenario. One Susan at work was a tall, statuesque lady with an exaggerated sense of self worth. Her mission in life was it seemed to make people suffer. Especially people with my Christian name. It turned out that my name had a bad association for her. It was the name of her much hated stepmother. Strange how mud sticks even when there is nowhere for it to stick. It meant that I was doomed in this person;s eyes from day one of working together.
Now I have always tried to treat each new Susan as an individual. A person who will be different to the others. One who will prove to be the exception to what has become a rule. In recent years I have always been disappointed. There must be good Susan's out there. Nice people who are warm and friendly. Just where they are escapes me.
What is in a name
Do you find that people of a certain name are always nasty?
I was curious about the name Susan. Often the name we are given bears little relation to the person we become. Sometimes though when you look at the meaning or origin of a first name there are peculiar similarities.
- English in origin
- Comes from the name Susanna
There are always a few different meanings given for any name. In the case of Susan it seems she may be Introverted, discreet and reserved, tending to protect herself from a world that worries her a little.
Now that sounds the opposite of most of the Susan's I have encountered. On the contrary they have been extroverts, gossipy, anything goes types of bullies who have cared little for others or the world.
I needed to look further and this time I read that the name Susan had its origins in Hebrew. Now it seemed words such as lily, valiant, courageous and more were being bandied about. That did not sound like any of my Susan's who were on the whole venomous.
Looking a little further I read that Susan originated in Egypt centuries ago. Now descriptive words such as joyful, cheerful and joyous were being used. Surely that cannot be right but it seems that it is.
The truth of the matter is that I have been unlucky enough to come across a handful of people called Susan that have not been nice people. It has made me hold back when meeting a new person by that name. That is a shame. In reality what is in a name is nothing. Our parents or parent choose a name sometimes before we are born, and always before we have grown into the person who will habit this planet.
The next time I meet a person called Susan will I try to remember all of this and take it as it comes? Will I hell. Why run the risk. Sorry Susan.