- Gender and Relationships
When Someone Dislikes You
It's true that people who states opposite vibration to ours at any situation make us feel bad or uneasy. If you think you've done nothing wrong, do you think those people have the right not to like you?
Well, if you are the kind who constantly look for every mistake and focusing on the negative, making up drama and rumors, making all the excuses for coming always late, then people might probably just have the right not to like you.
But why do certain people create barriers? Is it so hard to smile back and say "Hi!" For what reason would they decide "not to like" someone who is just being friendly?... and why would they start ignoring anyone, for no apparent reason?
No one knows why certain individuals behave so... let's take it that they just don't like you!
The problem comes when you start to reciprocate. The moment you give in to the feeling of hurt, anger, or revenge, you also begin giving in to the qualms and inhibitions in your dealings with those people. This is a negative attitude and certainly won't help. The following suggestions are the best help.
Let Them Be
There are some people who doesn't even look at you when you wave at them, smile and greet them. They sometimes even purposely look away. So you start telling yourself, "If they don't like me, so what?" or " If I can't win them, why should I worry?"... But the truth is, you struggle with it because it affects you.
These are actually very few people, but even if they are few, it's kind of creepy since you don't really understand what you did to them.
Your best gear is to do the right thing. Choose to be the best YOU can be and try thinking from the other person's position that you may see his emotions and logic. Then you may understand the situation better and may have some other feelings for that person than anger. Don't allow disappointment with people deter you. If your opportunities for forming good ties are limited, you can't afford to let one slip.
You can close your eyes to things you don't want to see, but you can't close your heart to things you don't want to feel. There's no way you can make someone who doesn't like you to be a nice and understanding person. There's nothing you can do to change him or her.
Knowing when to give things a push forward and when to accept them as they are can be the source of happiness. There is nothing wrong with feeling deeply, provided you don't let it get out of control. Understanding what lies in another person's heart is the key to all our relationships. It prevents to accumulate a smouldering resentment beneath the surface, and is a woman's strongest defense against disappointment.
A positive and easy way to save you some peace of mind is to pursue your own self development. Duplicate the positive energy vibrations that bring you love, joy, happiness, commitment and peace of mind.
Remember that what brings meaning and fulfillment in your life responds to vibrations that make you feel complete physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually and sexually... and even if someone doesn't like you if your positive and forward energy is at the strongest, it reflects on you. You will vibrate at your best which in turn helps you understand the person.
Why Must We Understand?
If you ponder upon Mother Teresa's Do It Anyway, it's a beautiful encouragement that teaches us the value of understanding. Offering some effort to make it happen will allow us to help build harmony to every situation.
The next time someone dislikes you, you might want to try putting yourself in the individual's position that you may learn to love the person a little more. There is one strong reason that we must do this - they needed us to help them understand what friends and family are for.