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When Your Best Friend Does Not Understand

Updated on January 26, 2015

Best friends are supposed to be there for you through thick and thin. Some best friends however do not understand what you are going through.

If you have a friend who has been with the same guy all her life and you just broke up with your boyfriend she might not understand. She might say "Is it the worst thing?" She has never been through it so she cannot possibly understand the pain that you are going through.

Break ups are tough especially if you have been with the guy a long time or how much you really loved him. Seeing him with someone else even hurts more. Your friend probably thinks it is no deal because she has never experienced life with any other guy. It is not until she goes through a break up with the guy she loves that she will understand how much pain you are going through.

If you like a guy but he has a girlfriend you friend might not understand. She might tell you over and over how he is with someone else. There is a difference between liking someone who is with someone else and doing something with someone who is already in a relationship.

You cannot control your feelings. So if you are thinking of someone else who is already in a relationship that is fine. Of course it is heartbreaking seeing them together. You cannot wait around for that person. Just dreaming of someone or wishing to be with someone there is nothing wrong with that.

Now if you flirt with him or take an action that is wrong. Do not try to make a move or seduce a guy who is already in a relationship. It will only cause drama and think about if the shoe was on the other foot. Would you want some girl trying to break you and the guy you are wth up? Do you really want to be the girl who breaks a couple up?

If you lost a job you love and your friend acts like it is nothing than she in not an understanding friend. Of course there will be other jobs but the economy is bad. It is especially hard when you lose a job you love with people you love. Sometimes at a job your co-workers are more just your co-workers. They are family and saying good bye to them is hard.

If your friend constantly doubts you she is not a good friend. If she does not believe that you cared for a boyfriend that is wrong. Only you know what you are feeling inside. If she told you that she knew all along that he was not the one for you and she did this with many guys from your past, watch out. She could be secretly putting a jinx on you. Maybe she does not want to see you with someone or want you to be happy.

No one knows how you are feeling but you. If you are sad inside because a relationship ended you have a right to. That is your feelings. Only you know how much you care about someone. No one could tell you how you feel inside but you. You know how you feel inside and you know how much you care about someone. You should not give your friend an expanation why you love someone. She should hear you out and believe you. She is not God. She is not you. She could guide you but she cannot tell you how you feel. She cannot force you to make a decision or do something that you do not want to do. No one could make your decisions for you.

Friends like this are hard to talk to. If they have not been in the situation that you are in, they have no idea how you are feeling. Some friends are just not understanding. If you have a friend like this try expanding your horizions and meet new friends. Look for friends who will understand what you are going through and be there when you need a shoulder to cry on. Look for friends who will cheer you up and not bring you down. There are good people in this world. You just have to find them.

Have you ever had a friend who was not understanding?

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      Garima Bista 

      3 years ago from Kathmandu,Nepal

      I can completely understand and keep on writing cause the way you write is really good. You've increased a follower!


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